seekandfind Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 Here's the story: I met this girl Sunday night (6 days ago) as we were taking the party bus home from a club. We are both about to be seniors in college. She goes to USC, I go to UCLA. She seemed like a cool, interesting girl. I talked to her for a while and it went fine. When we got back I walked her and her friend to their car, and I got her number and told her I would call her. Tuesday night I called her up, we talked for like a good 15-20 minutes. She seemed interested me, and the conversation went really well. I wanted to ask her out for this weekend (yesterday or today), but I found out she is actually in Orange County for the summer (I am staying in Westwood for the summer). She said she comes to visit LA relatively often, and she knew she would be up this coming Wednesday (4 days from now). However I am gone all next week, and I mentioned this, so I am not sure when we could possibly go out. I texted her yesterday (second time contacting her), and we texted for a while, but the "tone" of her texts was not nearly as interested or excited as I would have thought. But it is hard to say sometimes with texting. So my question now is how often/when do I call her or text her again? I am gone all this coming week, should I contact her while I am on my trip? The soonest we could go on a date is if she comes up to LA the following week. I don't wanna come off too strong (we only have met once), but I would like to take her out next time she is in the area. Also we will both in LA when she starts school again in August. I apologize for the length, I really tend to over-analyze these things...
Pyro Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 Show her that you are interested by contacting her while you are away. If you wait until you get back she may assume you have lost interest.
Author seekandfind Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 Alright thanks for the advice Pyro, I think I will give her a call on Tuesday or Wednesday. She seemed to prefer talking on the phone to texting. I just hope it isn't awkward because I'm not calling for a specific reason and we barely know each other..
jamal Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I know this might sound counter-intuitive but less is more when it comes to women. Since, you have not been out with this woman the only reason you should be calling her is to set up a date and nothing more. The more you talk the more you are likely to fumble. Does this woman ever call you or you are the only one who calls? She knows you are away and should not be too mad about you not keeping in touch since you are not yet her boyfriend. If I were you, I would just give her my out of town number and tell her to feel free to call me if she needs to talk. If she is down for you she will call. If not just let this one go.
Pyro Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Alright thanks for the advice Pyro, I think I will give her a call on Tuesday or Wednesday. She seemed to prefer talking on the phone to texting. I just hope it isn't awkward because I'm not calling for a specific reason and we barely know each other.. That'll work out. I have faith that it won't be awkward. If you can have a 15-20 minute coversation, then you will be fine. Good luck.
lab_brat Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I agree with Pyro - call - its nice to know that someone is thinking of you. Before you call, just maybe have some interesting story/anecdote about what you did this week so you don't get stuck in awkward silence-land.
Author seekandfind Posted June 29, 2010 Author Posted June 29, 2010 UPDATE: So we texted/called (her initiating also) a few times while I was gone last week, and I could tell she was definitely interested. I told her I was gonna be in the OC Saturday, and asked if she was free to see for me a bit. I went and visited her in Laguna on Saturday, we hung out for a couple of hours. It was one of the more interesting dates I have been on lol. When I arrived she was still sleeping cuz she was hungover from the previous night Anyways I was kinda pissed cuz she wasn't answering her phone and no one answered the door when I rang (I was thinking "I drove an hour to get stood up?!?"). However she woke up like 10 minutes later (I was about to write her off and just walk down to the beach haha), and I told her to go get ready really quick. We went downtown for lunch, I paid. Then we walked around the beach a little. At one point we sat down on a bench on this hill overlooking the ocean, and then she unexpectedly swung her legs over on top of mine which was nice She had family plans so we couldn't hang out too long. I walked her back to her house, and we talked for like 60 seconds and then I gave her a quick goodbye kiss. We have been texting a little bit since then (unfortunately she is not the most exciting texter... shes much better in person/talking on phone). About an hour ago she told me that she wants to come up to LA for a few days, and asked what my plans were. I was at work so I just now got the text and texted her back. And now I absolutely cannot focus haha. It's been a while since a girl that I am actually interested in has displayed this much active interest by texting and calling and such. I know it sounds kinda pathetic but it really does feel nice. It looks like I get to see her again this week, will update you guys when I know more =)
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