I Love my boyfriend, but constantly think of my highschool flame

[wendy]

Heres my dilema.

 

In high school, there was this guy michael who you could call my first love. We shared feelings for each other all through high school however never had the courage to do anything about it. It wasnt just one of those teenage crushes, it went deeper. We dated a few times late in year 12 and attended the year 12 formal together. However there was one thing wrong with him. He was perfect. He was everthing I ever imagioned i would want and more. We had the same interest, wanted to go to uni, travel the world, enjoyed sports and had mutual friends. He was a real family guy and we just clicked when we were together. If you could look past his immature behaviour and terrible b/o, he was just perfect.

 

I think this is what scared me of, and after the formal i started dating my current boyfriend of whom I have been dating for 3 years. He is wonderful in so many ways aswell. He will never argue with me (which can be frustrating), is sweet, would do anything for me and loves me. We however are not similar in alot of ways. He never wanted to travel |(however has agreed to to make me happy), he is not a family person and hates kids, where i love family and want desperately to have kids. He said he will have them with me, but concidering he wont even touch or look at a child its scary.

 

I love my boyfriend to death, but i cant stop thinking about my high school flame. I regret not dating him properly and seeing where it could have led. Most of all i regret not kissing him just once to see if i felt anything. Michael has been with his current girlfriend for about a year now. I dont knowif i can spend my life with my boyfriend not knowing what could have been or was ment to be with Michael.

[hmfacial]

Wendy,

 

I know how you feel (sort of). I've been with the same wonderful man for 17 years and yet I still think of my first love. Sometimes I dream about him and then it makes the problem even worse.

 

I was with Jim for a fairly short time (7 months) in school, then we got together several years later for 2 years. I felt for him what I've never felt for anyone before or since. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband and we've had a wonderful marriage, but I still think of my first love. Incidentally, my husband knows about how I feel, I've been very honest with him.

 

I've had counseling recently and have come to understand that a lot of the things that happened to me when I was in my teens and early twenties were the result of poor guidance and parenting, which resulted in poor choices by myself. I know the problems I had with depression ultimately drove this man away. I've always thought if I'd been raised by loving people, who helped me to realize I was a worthy person, who deserved love, a good life and happiness, I might have ended up with my first love.

 

I tried to find my Jim, but never have and probably never will. I just want to know he's happy and sometimes wish I could see him one more time. I want to know if he remembers " Dreaming About You".

[jaded]

i know how u feel Im married now 6 and half yrs but I too think of my first love we were engaged to be married were only togethr for 3yrs its been 14yrs since Ive seen him Its normal to think of your first love .