Mac91 Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 (edited) I've made a few posts about this one girl at work that I like. At first I wasn't sure if she liked me... and I'm still not sure if she does lol. Basically, I didn't want to be just friends with her, and what not. Over the course of the 3 weeks, we've been talking with each other, almost... daily, whether it be by text, or in person. Either I send her a text asking her what's up (and then it takes off), or she sends me a text. It's about 50/50 in terms of conversation starting. I've already kinda hinted that I wanted to take her out on a date, you know, nothing serious... and she kinda said yes... but has had excuses for both of them when the time arrived. I now subtlety hint that she doesn't want to meet in person, and she kinda goes silent and ends the text conversation. So a few days ago, I sent her a text asking her you know, non chalantly when she was gonna go eat some sushi with me, and she replied with "i don't knowwwwwwww". I guess I should have followed up with her and said "how about ____ at ____." But I didn't. At that point, I kinda took it as, ok, she's never really gave me a direct yes or no for the past 3 offers I've made... she's not interested right? But, the plot thickens... today at work, she starts teasing me, blah blah blah.. and my Boss kinda picked up on it and made fun of her, saying she has a "crush" on me. We kinda just shrugged it off, but at the end of the day, when we were getting off from work. I had to get something so she's like.. "I'll wait for you, so we can like, walk to the car together." At that point my boss went into a frenzy and started teasing us, saying that we would be a couple blah blah blah... and that we're gonna start dating and she's got money on it. And that if I were older, she would date me, and how I'm a genuinely good guy, which was flattering of course. At which point, this girl started blushing profusely, and kinda went close to me, but told the boss "i don't do boyfriends, not after my boyfriend of 3 years." Not in a serious tone of course.. more like a laughing/blushing way of saying it. So... like, what is this? Her actions are incomprehensible... I kinda accepted the fact we were friends, good friends sure, but you know... she didn't want to take things further... but now... she's taken some initiative... What is your opinion loveshack! Edited June 19, 2010 by Mac91
LoveBites Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I didnt see any mixed messages. I saw a girl just playing the "game". She isn't going to flat out say "take me on a date" but she is hinting. "I dont knowwwww" to me means... "whenever you ask me" Don't call it a date the next time you text ask her if she wants to "hangout". I always say that because in my eyes it makes the situation more comfortable and less nerve racking than saying "date"
seekandfind Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 have you guys ever hung out alone outside of work? She obviously likes you somewhat at least, but maybe is enjoying being single and doesn't want a boyfriend. So do something with casual with her. I would call her also when asking, unless she really doesn't like talking on the phone. And if there is any opportunity, you definitely need to make a move on her.
Author Mac91 Posted June 20, 2010 Author Posted June 20, 2010 Hmmm, thanks for the advice! I'm not sure if she is a phone person at all, considering in my generation it's all about the text. We've never had a phone conversation, only in person, and in text. I might try the phone though... I talked it out with a buddy of mine today, and I think a more casual approach to a "date" or "hangout" will be alot better.
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