ALombard Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 Hey hey! Ok so...yeah...the last few days have been awkward. Now before you read this understand that I know exactly what to do but for some reason I can't bring myself to do it just yet. So, lets begin. Three days ago my ex found out I was dating a new girl. When she confronted me about it via Facebook message I told her the truth (even though it wasn't any of her business). Now I'm thinking to myself what harm could telling her do, she has a new boyfriend, I have a new girlfriend who knows maybe some kind of good will come from this (becoming friends). Well I was wrong about that, after I confirmed her suspicions she went on a rampage of mean things to say. I won't go into detail but it revolved around how she thought I was going out my way to make her jealous, how I'm probably lying, how she hopes I get herpes, wants my girlfriend to die, etc. Now for the most part of this verbal assault I stay calm and collected, responding to her not so eliquent remarks with sentences such as, " Please relax", "I don't see the big deal about this". It got the point where my responses were filled with a little more frustration, example, "How can you be so hypocritical? You had a new boyfriend 3 days after the break up". Finally I got fed up and called her a "lying, manipulative, life sucking, money grubbing, slut." That more or less ended the conversation right there. Now at that point I was more than happy to never hear from her again, and I was really expecting not to. Keep in mind, my number has been changed for the last 2 weeks. So I figured, off the advice/request of my new girlfriend to block her from Facebook. Problem solved right? Of course not! Next day rolls around, I get an e-mail (I didn't even know she knew my e-mail address). It was a simple 2 word email..."I'm sorry". That's all it said. Now I had just come home from a 13 hour work day so I don't know if it was the half concious state I was in or what but something peaked my curiosity so I replied, simply asking, "What for?". No sooner had I sent the e-mail do I get response from her stating that she was sorry for the way she acted the day before. I say "ok" and tell her I am sorry for the name I called her. Now this is the problem, ever since that day she has been constantly e-mailing me. Not 20 or more a day, but 4-10. Basically it's like we are texting through e-mail. She's been really, very nice since her big blow up the other day but it's really confusing me. This is the first time since our break up she has actually apologized for freaking out on me, most of the time it was me wanting forgivness. She has been very responsive, it's messing with me a little. I find myself over-analyzing this whole situation and it's starting to affect me. What is she trying to do? Oh and FYI my girlfriend knows all about this and has been very understanding. So my fellow LS'ers, feedback, any at all. Helpful.
heavensmesenger Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Hey mate, you've helped me so I thought I'd return the favour. I think its a case of "People want what they can't have" with your ex. She's obviously not impressed that you've found somebody. I would cherish your new partner and leave the past in the past. Like my ex cruely told me, Ex's can't be friends, they are either lovers or nothing at all. Hope this helps you pal.
Author ALombard Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 Yeah I got it all covered. Told her the other day to stop contacting me all together or I was going to change my e-mail address so there was no way she could get in touch with me. She agreed to stop because she "wants to stay in touch in the future". Don't know what that means and frankly don't care anymore. It's amazing how just saying somethings can make you feel so good.
Author ALombard Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 You will, trust me. Just do what I said to you. Keep your head up and realize you're life could be a lot worse. You could be homeless, missing a limb, dying, or even dead! That doesn't sound too appealing right? One thing that I kept thinking of when I got sad was that there are millions of people out in the world right now who have lifes way worse than me and are probably hurting a lot more than me. Best thing anyone ever told me that reall sunk in the last month was this. "Life is fragile and it could end anytime. Now when it does how do you want to be remembered? As the guy who was hung up on a girl, who couldn't let go, and never lived his life. OR! As the guy who lived his life as if he knew he didn't have much time?" Think about it, how do you want to be remembered if you died tomorrow?
heavensmesenger Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 You know I never thought of it like that - "Life is fragile and it could end anytime. Now when it does how do you want to be remembered? As the guy who was hung up on a girl, who couldn't let go, and never lived his life. OR! As the guy who lived his life as if he knew he didn't have much time?" Really hits you doesn't it?
BiAxident Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 You will, trust me. Just do what I said to you. Keep your head up and realize you're life could be a lot worse. You could be homeless, missing a limb, dying, or even dead! That doesn't sound too appealing right? One thing that I kept thinking of when I got sad was that there are millions of people out in the world right now who have lifes way worse than me and are probably hurting a lot more than me. Very true. In many parts of the world, people struggle with basic survival. In America, where food/shelter are in abundance, we struggle with other problems. Still, as greatful as I am for my electricity and running water, sometimes the idea of living in a tribe that sits around a fire at night actually talking to each other as opposed to sitting infront of a television screen sounds appealing. "Life is fragile and it could end anytime. Now when it does how do you want to be remembered? As the guy who was hung up on a girl, who couldn't let go, and never lived his life. OR! As the guy who lived his life as if he knew he didn't have much time?" How about as the guy who got back with the love of his life, got married, raised a family, etc, etc? Of course, the problem is that too many of us may end up in the "couldn't let go, never lived life" category.
heavensmesenger Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Well the love of my life doesn't think the same thing considering she cheated on me and all. Don't get me wrong I got no dramas with anybody getting back with the love of their life provided its for the right reasons
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