Username37 Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 (edited) I was informed today that my ex-gf has been seeing this guy and they have been screwing around. I didn't see this coming because I saw her as a moral person and would only do that stuff with someone she loved. She completely changed. She's now hanging out with a stoner/drinker crowd and has a FWB now. I still have feelings for her and I don't want her to get hurt by this new dude. I know deep down, she is still the girl I fell in love with. What should I do? EDIT: They met at a party. Apparently everyone was making out and i guess they partnered up to join the group. Edited June 19, 2010 by Username37
anne1707 Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 (edited) What should you do? Get on with your life and put yourself first. Your ex has made her choice and whether it is right or wrong is for her to decide. If you tried to do anything, she will more than likely think you are trying to interfere with her personal business and with the intention of getting her back. You need to back away from all this for your sake Edited June 19, 2010 by anne1707
Author Username37 Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 I'm trying to move on because I know I'm the better person. It's just that I care for her still. I don't want this guy to hurt her and take advantage of her.
LoveTruthChaos Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 Sorry hun, everything happens for a reason. She's not your problem anymore. She has to learn her mistakes the hard way. These two are meant to be together so she gets a good hard wake up call. You are messing with the hands of fate if you interfere, and it will do more harm than good - to both of you. Best of luck
Author Username37 Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 Thanks for the advice. I'm surprised how people change. When I met her, she was innocent and perfect. She had morals and all of that. Now she's some dude's booty call. I'm hurt, but I can't help but laugh at her sometimes..
cavedweller Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 She is spreading her legs for her new man..You need to forget about her and move on..
ADF Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 You should leave her alone. You have no right nor responsibility to interfere with her life.
ResetReality Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 mate, im honestly in the same situation as you,the more i think about my ex the more bitter i get, it seems she ditched me to spend more time with her manipulating friends, and these are not bitter words, this is the truth, i know it hurts, im going through exactly the same thing as you atm, but if she wants to act like that, why stop her, when they see sense and realize what they had it will be far too late, shes found someone, and you know, so will you in time keep your chin up mate, like i said, im in the same boat, look at is this way, 1). Sulk, Mope around and feel sorry for yourself 2). Take a deep breath, take it on the chin and move on
Author Username37 Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 (edited) mate, im honestly in the same situation as you,the more i think about my ex the more bitter i get, it seems she ditched me to spend more time with her manipulating friends, and these are not bitter words, this is the truth, i know it hurts, im going through exactly the same thing as you atm, but if she wants to act like that, why stop her, when they see sense and realize what they had it will be far too late, shes found someone, and you know, so will you in time keep your chin up mate, like i said, im in the same boat, look at is this way, 1). Sulk, Mope around and feel sorry for yourself 2). Take a deep breath, take it on the chin and move on Dude, we are on the same page. After the break up, she began hanging out with her friends. Her friends are the party, have a good night, kind of crowd and I guess they got her into that stuff. It's quite disappointing. I had a feeling she was going to get into that stuff and I guess I was right. It's painful to think about but I'm trying to forget about it. Edited June 19, 2010 by Username37
ResetReality Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 yeah, try not to get yourself down man, my gf seemed like she had her head screwed on, dont get me wrong, i like the odd party here and there, but the way her mates act, bunch of bloody animals, no self respect at all, disgusting, she ditched me, and at the time i thought it was her uni work getting too much, i gave her space, turns out, she ditched me so she can party do whatever she wants without feeling the guilt of me waiting back home, what a mug i am eh NO CONTACT is helping me alot dude, its time for you to have a good time now i guess
Author Username37 Posted June 20, 2010 Author Posted June 20, 2010 (edited) yeah, try not to get yourself down man, my gf seemed like she had her head screwed on, dont get me wrong, i like the odd party here and there, but the way her mates act, bunch of bloody animals, no self respect at all, disgusting, she ditched me, and at the time i thought it was her uni work getting too much, i gave her space, turns out, she ditched me so she can party do whatever she wants without feeling the guilt of me waiting back home, what a mug i am eh NO CONTACT is helping me alot dude, its time for you to have a good time now i guess I'm just getting started with the No Contact thing. So far, I took everything that reminded me of her in my room and I took out all the pictures I have of her online. I guess I shouldn't be depressed. She's living her life and even though I don't approve, what can I do? She wants me to live mine. And I'm a young guy, I can find someone better. EDIT: This is a summer deal I believe. Do these hook up things usually fall apart? Edited June 20, 2010 by Username37
LoveTruthChaos Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 EDIT: This is a summer deal I believe. Do these hook up things usually fall apart? I hope so - for both our sakes!
Author Username37 Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 I hope so - for both our sakes! Hahaha I just hope she'll have a wake up call and quit being like this. She's better than that.
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