marmaliade Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 Broke up with my bf just before engagement almost a month and a half ago.. He actually broke up with me. He screamed at me and said I destroyed his life, than after a week called me and when i asked if we could work out, he said he's let me know in two weeks, and went to a friend abroad. Friends told me that he was drinking there all the time. I didnt hear from him this whole time. Recently he came back. I called his cell and wrote a message, he didnt answer. Now i'm all confussed is this the way to end a four year relationship, will he contact me later or what? Because he just left me hanging with a false hope. And it hurts, that's not the way how you bahave after FOUR years of relationship.
StarrySkyBlue Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 Uh oh, he is being very irresponsible and selfish. The best thing for you is to move on as if you have had a real breakup. There's no point hanging around waiting for him to come back. If you do and if he comes back, he will start thinking that he can do it again and you will always be there waiting for him.
Author marmaliade Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 Actually I thinking about sending him flowers. I'm so scared o loose him. I know I shouldn't be doing it, cause he's acting like an *******, but I really want us to work it out, though I don't know if managable at all... I dont want to make stupid things though...
Author marmaliade Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 Wrote him a message, that i have a lot of problams, and he left me hanging, just to write me it's over, so i could stop obsessing and move on. No response. Why just ppl can't say it's over? is it that hard to do? It's like few wrods. What is he doing, trying to make me suffer?
WTRanger Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 He's being a coward by not telling you anything. What does that say about his true personality? Something had to make him think that the last 4 years was a waste. Even if, he held it in for that long? This guy has no spine and you've got to do anything you can to get him out of your mind. In 100% of the cases, no response ALWAYS means no. It's just a really cowardly way of saying it and saves him. He's not thinking of you, he's only protecting himself. It's time you should do the same.
Author marmaliade Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 He's being a coward by not telling you anything. What does that say about his true personality? Something had to make him think that the last 4 years was a waste. Even if, he held it in for that long? This guy has no spine and you've got to do anything you can to get him out of your mind. In 100% of the cases, no response ALWAYS means no. It's just a really cowardly way of saying it and saves him. He's not thinking of you, he's only protecting himself. It's time you should do the same. Yeah, and also a liar, because of some sick reasons telling me to wait, when actually i think he was with his mind made up.
romango Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 . Why just ppl can't say it's over? is it that hard to do? It's like few wrods. It's over. You're welcome.
Author marmaliade Posted June 20, 2010 Author Posted June 20, 2010 Got the closure. He thinks we don't suit each other and if even we worked on stuff he wouldn't feel comfortable of marrying me, because he already asked for a hand of my parents. Now actually wanna die. Have really bad thoughts and crying non stop
StarrySkyBlue Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I'm sorry you're feeling so bad right now. Yes, it hurts. We've all gotta go through that at least at some point in life. Try to cut him out of your life now and move on. You WILL heal. It just takes time. The people on this forum are very supportive and willing to help. You deserve better than some selfish jerk who only thinks about himself. I wish you all the best!
Author marmaliade Posted June 20, 2010 Author Posted June 20, 2010 I'm sorry you're feeling so bad right now. Yes, it hurts. We've all gotta go through that at least at some point in life. Try to cut him out of your life now and move on. You WILL heal. It just takes time. The people on this forum are very supportive and willing to help. You deserve better than some selfish jerk who only thinks about himself. I wish you all the best! Thank you StarrySkyBlue, but i'm really down, can't bee alone, even scared to go to sleep, because of lonliness and that i will start thinking actually about him, i get shivers and somethings very wrong with me. I never had this with previous breakups. The thing is that I counted too much of this person, already was thinking about new life with him, cause it had to happen in a month, us moving and so on, He was the one I always turned to when i had problems, trusted him a lot. I have only few best friends, who can actually support me, but even they can't be with me 24/7. Scared to switch off computer, cause i'll freak out of the emptiness
DenverBachelor Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Thank you StarrySkyBlue, but i'm really down, can't bee alone, even scared to go to sleep, because of lonliness and that i will start thinking actually about him, i get shivers and somethings very wrong with me. I never had this with previous breakups. The thing is that I counted too much of this person, already was thinking about new life with him, cause it had to happen in a month, us moving and so on, He was the one I always turned to when i had problems, trusted him a lot. I have only few best friends, who can actually support me, but even they can't be with me 24/7. Scared to switch off computer, cause i'll freak out of the emptiness Sorry you're going through this. The worst part about it is the anxiety to fix something that is unfixable. We're always very conscious of our abilities until we're thrown into a situation where we make rash decisions. The best thing for you to do is to clear your mind and be with friends. Try to keep yourself occupied. Keep your entire day books with anything and everything. Eventually you'll see the relationship for what it was (the good and bad) and eventually you'll be an even stronger person capable of a much better relationship (which I'm sure you'll have in the future).
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