EYECANDY000 Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 If you and your SO have a fight and you arent talking to them , and you want to socialize with other people. Do you consider it using that person? For instance, If my bf and I have had a huge fight, and I just want to talk to new people to get my mind off him, and i meet someone new and they are really cool. But I know deep down it could never be anything serious because I am in love with my bf, so i just talk to them until my bf and I get back together.. D you think thats using someone? if so why do so many people do it? I have been in a few situations where I met someone and we went out on dates, but in the end they were still in love with their ex, and they dumped me. I felt like I wasted my time, plus I wondered why they are meeting people when their heart isnt in it..
TouchedByViolet Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 Yes, you would be using someone. Dating implies potential for some sort of future. If you just want a friend to hang out with call a friend. Just because most people do something doesn't make it right.
fishtaco Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 If you want to be better than average, then don't do it. But it's your call. Ultimately, it's up to them to not be suckered into stuff like this. It is very common though.
Author EYECANDY000 Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 If you want to be better than average, then don't do it. But it's your call. Ultimately, it's up to them to not be suckered into stuff like this. It is very common though. Well I have never done it and dont plan on it. I cant imagine talking to someone else and having an emotional attachment with someone else other than my bf. I just dont understand how. and why people do it. Why lead someone on, talk about your ex, tell the new person that your not getting back with the ex, and its safe to get to know them to only be dumped by that person
Engadget Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 I've done it, yeah if they think you want to date them then you are using them. A LOT of people in crappy relationships do this, and I've used and been used this way. A girl who was contemplating divorce that I used to have sex with did it recently, and then vanished when she wanted to work things out with her ex.
Hot Carl Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 That happens all the time. There doesn't need to be a fight or anything. Sometimes people make "friends" with others as a way to get the fun, new feeling without the commitment. They don't even realize they're using people.
bananaboat11 Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 I had a girl JUST do this to me. She pursued me. She insisted on exclusivity with me. She wanted to be my girlfriend. 7 weeks later.. she's back with her abusive ex boyfriend. Go figure.
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