yume Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 I'm taking a break from facebook. I found that I was continually seeing things I didn't want or need to see that were hurting me. I have relatively good self-control and kept myself from going on profiles that my ex and I had mutual friends on...I never even searched him up. But even out of not trying, I still managed to see him writing on peoples walls, something he never did even before we were together. I just don't need to sit around obsessing and wondering about the exact meanings of things he's been saying to others and missing him and all the crap that comes with it. I also figure that if people really want to be around me and want to contact me, they'll find a way to without using facebook. I know this part will be harder to do at first because I already don't have a lot of friends, but...I think this will benefit me as a fix to becoming emotionally healthy again. I outlined the pros and cons of doing this and one con, I noted, was "making myself unavailable to others" but I came to the realisation: WHO are those people? Not really any of my 220 'friends' I have on there seem to evoke an interest in MY life - not that I was a constant status updater freak - but no one ever contacts me on there to hang out either. So why should I even bother with the site anymore? It just seems like I'm getting more negative things out of it than anything. So I deactivated. *gives facebook the proverbial finger*
Tony T Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 You can block individual members without totally deactivating Facebook. I don't think that totally withdrawing from life rather than handling individual situations is the way to go. However, whatever works for you...we're here to support you. Go have a drink to start your new life without the Facebookster!!!
skydiveaddict Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 I say good for you! I hate facebook for a the reasons you mentioned
Citizen Erased Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 I have my ex blocked, I can't see anything he posts anywhere and he can't see mine. Deactivating it is a bit excessive BUT if it works for you, then it's the best thing.
Author yume Posted June 18, 2010 Author Posted June 18, 2010 You can block individual members without totally deactivating Facebook. I don't think that totally withdrawing from life rather than handling individual situations is the way to go. However, whatever works for you...we're here to support you. Go have a drink to start your new life without the Facebookster!!! I don't plan on this being permanent. I just need some time to....NOT BE ON IT. I know that if I just said to myself "okay, I'll log out for a few days" it won't work...even now I'm kind of doubting my decision, but I need a break. As for the drink, it'll have to wait til later when I get home from work. I say good for you! I hate facebook for a the reasons you mentioned Exactly. I want to see what its like living without it for once...if it makes any difference at all.
What_Next Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 I've said it before and I'll say it again FB is a bloody scourge on our society. I feel truely sorry for those that waste hours of their lives on a silly social networking site. It's sad. Go outside, feed a bird, ride a bike, go on a hike. Put the bloody mouse down. You'll thank yourself for doing it.
Full Moon Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 I deactivated my FB account back in 2006 after a break up and some drama with a female friend of the same ex. I have ZERO interest in returning to the FB world. I choose not to b/c there are just some ppl from my past I rather not run into or cross paths with. I can also see myself obsessing or snooping on my exes and their lives, and sometimes ignorance is bliss. Just like you said your "FB friends" are not really your friends. They add nothing to your life and can't take anything away from it. So I think you made a good decision. It will be tempting at first but this will def help you with moving on. Plus, it's great to be one of the few (young) ppl in this world who can live without FB! Good luck! :~)
Author yume Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 Let me just say....I'm having withdrawl symptoms already!!!! I really want to go on right now on account of some crazy **** going down tonight at work but......I have to resist the urge!! I can't believe how dependent I've gotten on it :|
LoveTruthChaos Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 (edited) I've said it before and I'll say it again FB is a bloody scourge on our society. I feel truely sorry for those that waste hours of their lives on a silly social networking site. It's sad. My ex did that constantly! I think he was actually obsessed with FB, and the internet in general. I used to go to sleep before he did, after him paying me no attention for being on FB for hours. When I woke up, he was on FB. Ugh. I think he's a narcissist and loves himself. He has a lot of friends and we have a LOT of mutual friends too. I think he was treating FB as some kind of fan club for himself! You know what's so awesome? Since I blocked him, he can't see anything that I write...but I write such sweet things to my friends that I LOVE (some are mutual friends), that they reply to my messages by name. So, he can't see my message, but he can see the replies of 'Thank you LoveTruthChaos!', and how much they're thinking of me. Bet that's starting to s**t him LOL Well, he cheated on me, and is with the girl he cheated on me with now. And she can have all of it Edited June 19, 2010 by LoveTruthChaos
Heatemyheart89 Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 congrats thats probably one of the best things you could have done. Im not a huge facebook fan. I hate it!!!!!!!!!
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