Versa Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Ok so I've been seeing this girl at work for almost a year now. We had two breakups and also got back two times well counting this one it's three times. The first time was just simply dating, everything went well but she told me she doesn't want anything serious and I was blinded by all the kissing and rushed it. The second time is more like a makeup kinda of thing and the only issue with second time was that I knew for a fact that she went out with other people while we weren't talking but she wouldnt adimit to it and she got angry because I didn't trust her. And finally the third time, now she just wanted to be friends, but when I pushed it, she would still hold my hands and kiss me. I am kinda confused on what excatly does she want? Now my question is if she is not interested in me why would she keep coming back to me? I mean it's very obvious that I want her because I've always been saying it to her. And also she has lots of guy friends as well. Should I keep going at it and just hoping maybe she would accept me or just move on. And also that she is a very busy girl, she works two jobs and barily have anytime for me. So yeah this is my story and now I need help!!!
ADF Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 It sounds like you've given this relationship more than a fair chance, yet it is still not working. Time to let it go. Here's something to keep in mind about second chances: they rarely work out well. More often than not, the second chance ends up being the beginning of a break-up/make-up-break-up-again cycle that can drga on for years. And in the end, the two people almost never end up together.
Author Versa Posted June 18, 2010 Author Posted June 18, 2010 yeah I thought about that too, I mean if it's not gonna work out the second time why would it the third time right. But just when I think it's really over and ready to move on, there she is. I mean she is by far the only girl made me feel the way I do when I am with her. If possible I would defintly want to make it work you know. The other thing is, I work with her and I do see her often and it's kinda of hard just for me to forget about her compleletly. idk, untill I figure out what to do. I am not talking to her at all
MyNameIsJane Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 I know everyone is different... but a friend once told me that the second he breaks up with someone or someone breaks up with him.... it is over. For good. No on again off again... etc I know there are ALWAYS exceptions - but the main reason he has such a rule is because once you see yourself bailing.. it is over. Once someone breaks up with you - that means they have stopped fighting for you. Every time you get back together, you ARENT starting fresh. You still have your old problems...etc. So if it hasn't worked out before and she didn't want to stick around to make it work... I would walk away. Give yourself the opportunity to meet someone who wants to be with you.
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