summerl0vesyou Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 He has never done anything to make me feel uncomfortable physically, but sometimes we fight and Ive wondered before if he has control issues. Anyway...Ive always believed that often your dreams are controlled by your subconscious. This is the 2nd bad dream hes had about me(No idea what the first was) and ive only known him for a little over a month. In this dream, he...sexually assaulted me (So I believe, cuz when i asked him what happened and asked if he killed me or something, he said he woulda preferred that....then i said that there was only thing worse i could think of, and that i felt scared...and all he said was "yeah i was pretty upset when i woke up") Ive actually been assaulted before so now I am scared to death...Im not sure if i even want to be touched by him anymore, cuz I believe your subconscious plays a role and if you care about someone would you really have a dream like that?? Im considering breaking up with him. ive had other reasons to and this just made me feel awful and not right.
Adunaphel Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Does he know you have been sexually assaulted? It is very possible that he felt so sorry to hear about it or was so shocked or worried about it that now he's having bad dreams. I think someone you care about is the very best candidate to appear in a really bad dream. The dream *did* upset him. Which probably means that he *does* care. What are the reasons you are considering breaking up with him?
MyNameIsJane Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 He has never done anything to make me feel uncomfortable physically, but sometimes we fight and Ive wondered before if he has control issues. Anyway...Ive always believed that often your dreams are controlled by your subconscious. This is the 2nd bad dream hes had about me(No idea what the first was) and ive only known him for a little over a month. In this dream, he...sexually assaulted me (So I believe, cuz when i asked him what happened and asked if he killed me or something, he said he woulda preferred that....then i said that there was only thing worse i could think of, and that i felt scared...and all he said was "yeah i was pretty upset when i woke up") Ive actually been assaulted before so now I am scared to death...Im not sure if i even want to be touched by him anymore, cuz I believe your subconscious plays a role and if you care about someone would you really have a dream like that?? Im considering breaking up with him. ive had other reasons to and this just made me feel awful and not right. I think our dreams are sometimes our subconscious... and in this case - i think it is your subconscious... and what I mean by that is that it is your subconscious being scared of being assaulted again, like you have been in the past. That has NOTHING to do with this guy unless he has made you feel uneasy or threatened in any way.... it is all YOU. You also have to consider how many irrelevant dreams you have had as well. I have tons of dreams about my boyfriend and I doing things that seem accurate... sex, traveling, going to the mall. But I have also dreamt that the moon exploded and the gravitational pull messed with the earth and all the continents broke apart into tiny floating islands and I was swimming around in the orange ocean trying to find food... I am not stocking up on food anytime soon despite that. I think your dream is part of your subconscious thoughts - but I think the main part of that is that you have been assaulted and that you are scared of it happening again... whether it is with this guy, or any other guy in the future. Unless your current guy has posed any fraction of a threat to you (in reality, not the dream world) - I think it would be dumb of you to break up with him. This fear is yours. You are going to have to overcome it inside.
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