wingman2 Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 My ex finally confessed her feelings to me admitting to still caring about me and loving me but at first she asked me how I'm feeling but I told her I honestly don't know and asked why it matters and why she wants to know. Apparently up until now she believed that I just didn't care but now she thinks I do but I don't want to admit it. It was hard to talk about at first but after some time she opened up and told me time has never changed a feeling for her and that talking to me the past 2 months has only been increasing the feelings she has. She said things were getting in an routine and that's where she felt she had to end it but in her heart she never wanted it this way. I explained to her my side of the story and our differences. She openly confessed she doesn't want to be away from me and that she truly wants me to be hers. We're working it out right now and I told her we will have to take things slow. I have a few books to help us on this so hopefully that'll come in handy. I won't get my hopes up too high, we're not officially a couple again and things may backfire but I'm striving hard and she's striving hard now to get things rolling again. Hopefully taking things slow is the best way to go. Any tips anyone can provide me on how to successfully reconcile? I know there aren't many here but I would appreciate some tips. Just want to thank everyone here for all the advice I've been given and the insight. I'll still be posting in case I get stuck. I appreciate all the insight and advice.
mrshuma Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 My ex finally confessed her feelings to me admitting to still caring about me and loving me but at first she asked me how I'm feeling but I told her I honestly don't know and asked why it matters and why she wants to know. Apparently up until now she believed that I just didn't care but now she thinks I do but I don't want to admit it. It was hard to talk about at first but after some time she opened up and told me time has never changed a feeling for her and that talking to me the past 2 months has only been increasing the feelings she has. She said things were getting in an routine and that's where she felt she had to end it but in her heart she never wanted it this way. I explained to her my side of the story and our differences. She openly confessed she doesn't want to be away from me and that she truly wants me to be hers. We're working it out right now and I told her we will have to take things slow. I have a few books to help us on this so hopefully that'll come in handy. I won't get my hopes up too high, we're not officially a couple again and things may backfire but I'm striving hard and she's striving hard now to get things rolling again. Hopefully taking things slow is the best way to go. Any tips anyone can provide me on how to successfully reconcile? I know there aren't many here but I would appreciate some tips. Just want to thank everyone here for all the advice I've been given and the insight. I'll still be posting in case I get stuck. I appreciate all the insight and advice. Congratulations, I hope it works out for you!! How long were you in NC until she contacted you?
StarrySkyBlue Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Congrats! It's nice to hear a happy story once in a while. I'd recommend looking into the MBTI if you haven't already. It breaks people down into 16 personality types and from there you can look into how each type can communicate more efficiently. It helped me a lot in understanding myself and relating to people around me!
Author wingman2 Posted June 18, 2010 Author Posted June 18, 2010 I was in NC for 1 month until she contacted me and thanks StarrySkyBlue, I'll definitely look into that.
Cantcope Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 YAY Wingman!!! I am SO happy for you! It's funny, I was just reading through some of your older posts this morning where you were so sad and wishing she would contact you. My best for you sir! Hey, will you do me a favor if you will? Would you mind giving me a bit of advice on my situation too? I've posted a few threads this week and would love your input!! GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Stephie Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 That has to be the best feeling in the world, so happy for you. I know after people find that happiness again they stop posting, will you keep us updated time to time? Good luck and best wishes...
feelinggood Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Congrats! Hopefully things turn out to be better than before! Good luck!
lullaby Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Congrats Wing!!! I remember when I was on the other side, having this sort of reconnection with my ex and you hoped that would happen to you, and now I'm struggling with it and you're having your second chance! I couldn't be happier for you!!!!! Keep us updated!
Username37 Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 You're the luckiest person ever. I no longer have a second chance and I would love to be in your shoes. Good luck to you and keep everyone updated
BiAxident Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 We're working it out right now and I told her we will have to take things slow. I have a few books to help us on this so hopefully that'll come in handy. I won't get my hopes up too high, we're not officially a couple again and things may backfire but I'm striving hard and she's striving hard now to get things rolling again. Hopefully taking things slow is the best way to go. As someone who is in a situation somewhat similar to yours, I'd advise you to be crystal clear in your communication with her about how fast/slow things are going to go between you. I failed to do that, and my ex interpreted my hesitance and thought as indifference, and now my 2nd chance may be over before it became official.
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