Logik Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Well, it's been almost a year since she left. 3.5 month since the D was final. House is sold, just waiting for admin to be completed. See the kids every second weekend. Got myself into shape. Socialising quite a bit. Still trying to get out of a bit of short-term debt so I can start building my finances again. Life looks good. No more intense pain inside. No more panicky feelings in the pit of my stomach. All this "negative" has been gone for ages. But... I would still take her back in a heart beat. Never thought I would eventually feel like this when I was feeling all the anguish and pain she put me through. After everything has settled down, and even after seeing another unknown, less desirable side to her I still feel the same about her as I did on our wedding day. Don't get me wrong, I'm not in the space where I'm desperate to get her back and I'll die without her. Just that my feelings towards her have not actually changed. I thought they did, but that was just anger and resentment, which has subsided. Is this weird?
What_Next Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 I'd say yes that is normal. It is also likely a good sign that you realize it. Being honest with your own feelings is a part of the healing process.
imagine Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Thanks for the update Logic. So far the glass looks half empty to me. Whatever happened to the lady that tried to get you back before you got married?
Author Logik Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 (edited) I'd say yes that is normal. It is also likely a good sign that you realize it. Being honest with your own feelings is a part of the healing process. Thanks for the reply. Never looked at it like that. Thanks for the update Logic. So far the glass looks half empty to me. Whatever happened to the lady that tried to get you back before you got married? She got married to someone else last year. As for the half empty glass, add a drop of water, so it's not half any more. This drop could be anything you do for yourself. Be selfish for a while. It helps. Edited June 19, 2010 by Logik
soheartbroken Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Sounds normal to me. I'm almost a year out and I would still be with her if I could.
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