pratik Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Hey, I just wanted to share my experience feel free to post if you like. Well me and my ex gf who r 18 started as friends last year she was already going thru a break up and we were friends we just began knwing each other we got close soon we were very gud fiends. Then like hw it happens she was forcd to engage to a guy by her grandma as in her own words it happens in some catholic families tht the eldest child is askd to marry early and she reluctantly agreed eventually she startd loving him n everythng seemd fine. She had her chilhood best frnd who was a guy who died and she was heart broken and i helped her as a friend eventually we got very close and we soon became best friends. Then another thng happend her fiance met with an accident and he lost his six month memory and he couldnt remmember her and he eventually married his ex gf who had cheatd on him and within a week my frnd lost him. My friend was heart broken she was completly shatterd cause she really loved that guy truly and he loved her too. So was forced to forget him i hepld her and supportd her during tht time coz we were really close there was nothing we hadnt shred form childhood memories to the current ones. A month later she moved on and she was finally happy again and a month later we startd ating she was my first gf. Everythng abot her is special it was amazing we talkd all day thru txt calss she usd to gt upset if i didnt say gudnite to her it was darn cute. The funniest were our makes out in class nd the cleaners knew abot it hehe. Then again one mre thng happend her parents were going thru a rough patch lies and betrayal they were chances of them splitting. She startd losing faith in love and eventually she said tht lets tke a break and i agreed without a word coz a day before i could tell she wantd to. We continud to be friends and within a week it was as if it never happend and then 2 months later the situation of her parents worsened coz dey were her role models and it was was very bd for her emotionally. She said tht she cnt be in a relationship thts somethng she cant handle and tht we were dne its over. She had been in bad reltionships in the past and i dont blame her what she said or did she wantd to gt out and be lost and dont cre abot the world and she wantd to feel free. So she broke up. I hd always shown my love to her been loyal and lovd her with my full heart i really tried convincing her bt she didnt listen n we split. She changd since dat day and the gal i knw. N she herself admittd it. We didnt speak for a month and then i spoke to her one day she said she met a guy who is 25 wen she hd been at her cousins place she said they gt drunk n slept with each other. She said tht they both wantd it and tht she liked it. She was diff nt d one i knew. Bt she said she was finally free and didnt cre abot the world neither did dat guy and dat she loved being with him. She said they were mre thn frnds and less thn lovers. N dat she was happy. I askd her whether dis changd person wantd me in her life and she said no. I really dnt blame her breaking up with me it was neither her or my fault jst bd tme n very bd destiny for mah side. I havnt spken to her since and i hope she is happy with dat guy and i really wish her luck n all the good wishes. She has wonderful soul and a heart i hope she changes to wt she was soon and ill always love her. She would be every guys dream. It was time and destiny dat partd us and none of us were at fault. i just really miss my best friend. it hurts bt one thng keeps going tht she said she was happy.
TaraMaiden Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 OK - first impressions comments: Read the guidelines. They clearly ask you to: One: Break up posts into easily legible paragraphs because tackling a huge block of text is laborious and tedious. Two: don't use texts-speak. You're not limited by space, there's plenty of time, and no charge for sending, so using legible English is preferable, particularly as not everybody's first language is English, and not everybody understands English text-speak. Then - Three: Unless she came from an Eastern family, no catholic is going to arrange a marriage for a child, because Catholics don't do that. It's not a religious edict, it's a cultural one. Four: Relationships don't only break up through 'faults'. They break up for all manner of reasons. But the bottom line is always this. If it was ever going to work, it would still be working. Good luck!
harmfulsweetz Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 Relationships oftentimes end for no visible reasons, and these are sometimes the hardest and most baffling break ups ever. It's easier to have broken up with someone who may have wronged you in some way, or you know the reasons for the break up. Either way though-as Greg Behrendt titled his book on break ups-it's called a break up because it's broken! There doesn't have to be a guilty party in the demise of a relationship, sometimes it's a mixture of both parties (actually, most times) or it just stops working. In future, please try to paragraph your posts, and use the correct spellings, it just makes it easier for people to advise you, I'll be honest, I didn't read much past the title and the first couple of sentences. I imagine every person that has viewed this thread, has turned away and not replied for the very reason it's too hard and would take to long to sift through.
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