Can you make up for an awkward first impression? (met some girls from highschool)

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

I was out again after work tonight. Instead of driving out to the city, I stayed local. I was at this sports bar. My first try to meet a girl was to try to talk to two girls cheering on for the Lakers vs Celtics game tonight. I went up next to them at the bar to order my drink, and while I was waiting for my drink to come over, I asked, "I don't know **** about pro basketball. LAL played the celts Tuesday night, the Sunday before and now they're at it again. What on earth is going on?"

 

One of girls said. "It's a tie breaker game." I replied. "Gotcha. Who you rooting for?" She and her friend said "Lakers! Woooooooh!" I jokingly replied "Oh, you guys suck," but they just scoffed and looked at eachother and smiled back at me, but I could tell it was a sarcastic smile.

 

I tried to save the situation by saying "I'm kidding. I really don't care about basketball. I'm a World Cup guy. Czech Republic! Heal yeah!" But they didn't reply and just turned back to the basketball game. I just said "Good night" and walked on to the bathroom.

 

That's when a girl called my name. I looked toward her. She was with 2 other girls and I instantly recognized all of them. These 3 girls were some of the most popular girls in high school, but to appear cool, I pretended not to recognize them. I knew who they were, but I pretended to struggle to remember by saying "Hold up... .... ... Nikki, Beth and Samantha from The Dave Matthews concert 3 years ago?"

 

And they were like "Nooooo!" And they started to say their names with "from high school!!" And I laughed and was like "Oh wow! How have you guys been? WHERE have you been?"

 

We started to chat and catch up. They invited me to have a seat with them. One of the first things they all said was "Wow, you look so great!" and "Yeah, you've changed a lot!"

 

Because the thing is, I'm not ashamed to admit, I was the overweight, poorly dressed awkward nerd in highschool. Once I went to college, I made a commitment to improve my appearance. I lost and kept off a lot of weight (over 60 pounds) started dressing better (fitted, business-casual attire rather than big, floppy sweats and t-shirts) and started taking care of my skin (tanning, using lotion, etc)

 

Anyway, we all chatted for quite a while. I used the Pick Up Artist tactic of teasing them here and there, ignoring the cutest girl of them all and giving all my attention to the 2 other girls, shifting my focus back and forth from girl to girl, etc.

 

(to be continued)

Edited June 18, 2010 by Don'tWannabeAWannabe

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

The thing is, I really was only talking to 2 of the girls while I didn't have a chance to engage the cutest girl out of them all; a whole bunch of guys came up to talk to her specifically while I was talking to her group.

 

Anyway, I didn't want to milk it and appear desperate. After about 20 - 30 minutes, I stopped short a new conversation and said, "Hey listen, I'm sorry, but I really can't say. I have to meet someone, but it was great meeting you all again. We all got to catch up some more some time."

 

I got ALL of their numbers and said my goodbyes.

 

I wouldn't mind meeting up these girls again. The problem is, despite how I've changed, I'm afraid they STILL see me as the overweight, awkward nerd from high school. That's why I'm wondering if you can ever make up for a bad first impression, because I made a really bad first impression on them years ago.

 

Second of all, I don't know who to call to hang out. I ignored the prettiest girl, so I'm hoping that peaked her interest, but at the same time, so many other guys came and tried to talk to her while I talked to her friends.

 

As for her friends, they're still pretty cute, but I gave them equal attention and I don't know who had more interest in me (IF they had interest me) I'm worried if I make a play for 1 and I fail with her, she'll tell the other 2 and effectively blow my chances with them as well.

 

How to I investigate who I have a better chance with?

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

Any ideas at all?

[TheBigQuestion]

First off, congratulations on losing instead of gaining weight in college, and congrats on getting 3 numbers.

 

Of course, the fact that you got 3 numbers and didn't really get a chance to hone in on one of them presents a near impossible conundrum for you. I'd say you do one of three things.

 

1. Talk to the one girl that you spoke to the most out of them all (I'm sure you didn't talk to the less good looking ones EXACTLY equally).

 

2. Throw the names in a hat and pick one out because it's too close to call.

 

3. If you're feeling gutsy, try contacting the hottest one first.

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

I feel like I exhausted all my A material though. And like I said, when girls see someone from highschool, do they see the new person or who they used to be?

[Krytie TV]

The problem I see is that you see it as a combination between a game and a stage act. I know lonely people don't believe this, and that can't be helped, but do you really want to snag someone that doesn't know the real you? What if you end up liking her and you have presented her a caricature of yourself?

[phineas]

The problem I see is that you see it as a combination between a game and a stage act. I know lonely people don't believe this, and that can't be helped, but do you really want to snag someone that doesn't know the real you? What if you end up liking her and you have presented her a caricature of yourself?

 

Exactly.

 

This is what players do to get women.

Once they have them, they Bang them for a few months then find another woman to do it all over again.

 

It gets exhausting having to pretend your someone your not.

That is why players move on frequently.

It's easier to start over with a new woman.

[Stung]

My favorite part is where you used a Dave Matthews concert to try to make yourself look cool. :lmao: But hey, different strokes, I guess.

 

I agree completely with Krytie TV above but having read through several of your threads I'm pretty sure all that kind of non-PUA input goes in one ear and flies right out the other. So, I guess all I have to add is that when I bump into someone from high school, at first I see the old persona, and then it is gradually and irreversibly overlaid by the new as I come to familiarize myself with it, because I take each person as an individual and I respect personal growth. I have bumped into people from those days and been amazed by the changes time has wrought, both for good and for ill, and even become close friends with somebody I absolutely could not stand back then. However, I am several years older than your target female demographic AND I am not a barstool/disco bunny so...I don't really know how helpful my outlook is going to be to you, with your goals.

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

The problem I see is that you see it as a combination between a game and a stage act. I know lonely people don't believe this, and that can't be helped, but do you really want to snag someone that doesn't know the real you? What if you end up liking her and you have presented her a caricature of yourself?

 

What act was I putting on?

 

The only pretending I was doing was pretending I didn't remember them and pretending I had somewhere else to be.

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

My favorite part is where you used a Dave Matthews concert to try to make yourself look cool. :lmao: But hey, different strokes, I guess.

 

It wasn't the Dave Matthews reference. It was pretending to forget who they are (the most popular girls in high school) and mistaking them for someone else.