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I met a guy on Saturday night and we had a great night, he took my number and text me on Monday asking to see me again and said he would call me in the week if that was ok

 

Then nothing!

 

Why did he make the effort to then forget it? Why waste his time and mine?

 

I just dont get it!

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Unless some freak accident like him losing his phone, I'd say the guy is a flake and you are dodging a bullet.

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Some men look at getting numbers as a game. They brag to their friends at the end of the night about all the numbers they got.

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Some men look at getting numbers as a game. They brag to their friends at the end of the night about all the numbers they got.

 

And along these same lines, some numbers will interest men more than others...so of course some will get placed on the back burner...it happens...

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And along these same lines, some numbers will interest men more than others...so of course some will get placed on the back burner...it happens...

 

But why text to confirm it is ok to call ????

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But why text to confirm it is ok to call ????

 

I have no idea...this guy sounds a bit weak to me...why not just call you to begin with...? I don't get this obsession with texting...is he scared to talk to you on the phone...?

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he may be taken and has to wait for a "convenient" time to reach out to you...

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I met a guy on Saturday night and we had a great night, he took my number and text me on Monday asking to see me again and said he would call me in the week if that was ok

 

Then nothing!

 

Why did he make the effort to then forget it? Why waste his time and mine?

 

 

I just dont get it!

 

Its very simple. He doesn't wanna appear needy or desperate. U women can not stand a man who showers you with attention.

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Women do the same thing too. It's very common. I don't see what the big deal is. Just don't take it so seriously.

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Its very simple. He doesn't wanna appear needy or desperate. U women can not stand a man who showers you with attention.

 

He is not appearing not needy he is appearing to be not interested! I dont even think I would answer the phone if he calls now!

 

It's a shame, he was lovely

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He is not appearing not needy he is appearing to be not interested! I dont even think I would answer the phone if he calls now!

 

It's a shame, he was lovely

 

 

This guy must be an idiot. How could someone not call YOU back?

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One of the reasons is to prove that they are still likible by women. Attached /married men even go on the first dates to prove that.

On the first date, they ask a girl if she wants to go out with him again.

Of course, the answer is yes, then, he is gone because he has proved his manhood a little bit and, also, because his real priority is his GF/wife .

 

Anyway, if he took your number, he is taking many other numbers as well.

But, he is the only one to date all those girls.

Many men like to have a list of girls whom they can call potentially.

So, perhaps, on his list, there were girls who he took numbers earlier than he took your number. So, I guess he might want to take care for them first.

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He is not appearing not needy he is appearing to be not interested! I dont even think I would answer the phone if he calls now!

 

And this is why I'm so against all those stupid waiting games...if the girl gets turned off because I'm actually interested and decide to call the next day instead of waiting X number of days, then I'm better off without her...

 

So the lesson from this thread: Lishy isn't batsh*t crazy like some women can be. :laugh:

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And this is why I'm so against all those stupid waiting games...if the girl gets turned off because I'm actually interested and decide to call the next day instead of waiting X number of days, then I'm better off without her...

 

So the lesson from this thread: Lishy isn't batsh*t crazy like some women can be. :laugh:

 

agreed on all parts.

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I met a guy on Saturday night and we had a great night, he took my number and text me on Monday asking to see me again and said he would call me in the week if that was ok

 

Then nothing!

 

Why did he make the effort to then forget it? Why waste his time and mine?

 

I just dont get it!

yea i did this a few weeks ago. this older cougar was hitting on me all night and since she looked ok with my 5-beer goggles on i asked for her business card. she readily coughed it up.

 

the next morning i woke up sober and realized that she was too old for me even though she was relatively attractive....and she still had kids at home. so i decided to throw away her card and did not contact her...

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He is not appearing not needy he is appearing to be not interested! I dont even think I would answer the phone if he calls now!

 

It's a shame, he was lovely

 

 

And this is why dating for men is a catch 22.

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And this is why I'm so against all those stupid waiting games...if the girl gets turned off because I'm actually interested and decide to call the next day instead of waiting X number of days, then I'm better off without her...

 

So the lesson from this thread: Lishy isn't batsh*t crazy like some women can be. :laugh:

 

Of course, if he had called immediately she probably wouldn't be as interested in him. Perhaps I'm mistaken, but this sounds exactly like what my female friends do constantly.

 

Day 0: Give their number to guy

Day 1: Talk to friends: "eh, he was okay, I dont know if I'm really interested and definitely not going to sleep with him"

Day 3: Why hasn't he called yet? We really had a connection

Day 5: This is BULL**** I want him so bad if he calls im going to bang his brains out.

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I wont be banging the brains out of any guy who cant even be bothered to call lol

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i have a humungous stack of phone numbers, problem solvd

 

She isn't talking about your creditors..:laugh:

 

Lishy..

I think you are under the impression that he only asked for and got your number.. which some guys are like that and in that case they would call but it sounds like you got hit on by a guy who go many numbers and he exercised other options..

 

Next.......

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Yeah but he text me on Monday Art to ask to see me again and ask if it was ok to call me in the week ... why do that?

 

Weird!

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Some men look at getting numbers as a game. They brag to their friends at the end of the night about all the numbers they got.

 

Exactly. Couldn't have said itr better myself. You can be sure yours is not the only number he got that night, not are you the only woman he failed to call.

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Exactly. Couldn't have said itr better myself. You can be sure yours is not the only number he got that night, not are you the only woman he failed to call.

 

Yeah I am sure I was the only number he got that night as he spent the night talking to me and left the bar with me and went to another club where he spent all his time with me and then shared a cab home

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Some guys have difficulty counting numbers over 3.....

 

"Humungous stack" probably means 5. And reading them may be a problem....:p

 

 

(Ooooh, that was low..... Sorry Fudd-bud......!) :laugh: :laugh:

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Yep ... its all about me!

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Why do some women give real numbers but have no intention to answer when u call?

 

Just like this guy id imagine ego boost.People are just aholes..

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