My ex has something important to tell me but I feel like I've blown it.

[wingman2]

Please hear me out, it's a long read but I'd appreciate if you can listen and give me some insight.

 

Alright well to start off me and my ex were together for 3 and a half years, we broke up in March 3 months ago. Her reason's are still not known, said I was dependent although I wasn't and that she wasn't ready to commit. I implemented NC and a month later she writes telling me that she's been thinking of me and wondering if I've been thinking of her and that she misses me incredibly. I responded by telling her that I do think of her from time to time but that I don't allow it to absorb my mind and I want to see what's in store for me. She continued to contact me ever since so for two months she kept trying to talk to me while I showed disinterest and played hard to get. Finally I felt as if it was too much so I began to make myself more available but limited contact. We had a few good conversations. 2 weeks ago she asked to talk but appeared very sad or something even admitted that she was only feeling ok but I was finally feeling myself again, made her laugh and felt good about talking to her even if she didn't. 6 days go by without a word from her, I began to wonder so I sent her a text asking if she was available. She responded with a simple hi nothing more.

 

The next day however she writes me asking me if I can call her. This day I was really busy helping my sister move out of her apartment so I really wasn't available to talk but she was very eager to speak to me all day and continued to ask when I'll be available to talk. I did get home but kind of late that night. When I got there she told me she needed to get ready for bed but that she'll write me. Well she did but then said she needed to take care of a few things. I continued to wait and waited an hour but no sign of her. I called her but she never picked up so I wrote her saying I'm going to bed. The next day was scary cause something bad happened apparently. She was feeling very mad and depressed, said she had ****ed up everything and that everything sucks and she hates everything. She even said no one was helping her cause nobody cares. I grew concerned and tried to help her, I was worried she'd hurt herself or something. Whatever may have happened she said it was her fault. When I tried giving advice she told me she missed me and I told her the same back. She was surprised, apparently believed I didn't care so she asked me to call her. I did and she was crying and very upset but would hardly say a thing. I tried to help but in the end she told me she'd talk to me later. Later that night I tried calling a few times but she never picked up.

 

The next day she tells me she's feeling better cause she visited her sister who cheered her up. I was glad and didn't pressure her to tell me what had happened. She again wanted to talk but I was still very busy and once again she never picked up but this time claimed she had fallen asleep. Now the next day I'm once again helping my sister move and as always she writes me asking if I can talk. This day however me and her had a wonderful conversation just through text and I told her some good news from my side and she became happened, even requested if we could meet up later that night. I was surprised but happy, she seemed really joyful and that entire night we had flirted and had fun. I couldn't see her cause I was still busy but she couldn't wait to see me. She even said my name several times, said I'm funny and have a caring heart. Well the next day I got sick so I stil couldn't see her cause of a nasty cold but she understood and even told me to feel better. She talked about her day a lot too. Then Monday was my last day of helping my sis move things so I couldn't see her that days either.

 

Now things turn around. Tuesday started off as a ordinary peaceful day. Finally I was free to talk and go see her. She was really happy and couldn't wait. We couldn't until later that afternoon though and me not until 5 since I still had to do some things. However to my disappointment more things got thrown in the way that delayed my meeting with her. She seemed fine with it and even said that if we can't meet we can still talk on the phone. Well that entire day I kept having to put her off until 11 of that night. When I finally got the chance to talk to her she seemed very distant and cold. She no longer wanted to talk through phone but aim which I couldn't use since my computer isn't working (typing this on my droid) she then just agreed to talk through txt but I became disappointed and told her we'll just talk tomorrow but asked me why? I responded by saying that I thought we were going to talk on the phone and I had to drop off some bills at the post so it'll be hard to text and that I just feel bad for putting her off so much. She told me not to worry about it. I did try to text but she seemed disinterested and told me she doesn't remember what she wanted to tell me but I knew that was BS. Since she obviously didn't want to talk I told her we'll just talk tomorrow but then half hour later she gives me a call just wanting to talk to me. However she was being very quiet. She said she was just thinking about stuff and had something she wanted to tell me but didn't know how I'd react. I asked if it was bad but she said it wasn't. I told her I won't pressure her into telling me and that she can just tell me when she feels comfortable doing so. She thanked me for that. We then agreed to talk the next day but once again I've just been too busy to talk when she wanted. Last night when we did she appeared to be cold and distant again. We were talking by txt and I wanted to give her a call but told her she can just message me when I can call her but she responded by telling me she can't talk anymore that night.

 

I apologize for the long boring read, I'm in a hurry and typing this on my phone so it's not my best thread but really important. Note that I'm not asking anyone what I should do next, I know many people just tell me to go NC and move on. I simply want to know anyone's opinion of what may have happened, what I might have done wrong and what you believe my ex has been wanting to tell me for some time. She seemed really happy before but now see feels distant. I'm thinking of just going NC for a bit, see wut happens. But I would like to know other opinions on what happened cause I feel like I had my chance but blew it.

[Cantcope]

I'm not the greatest at giving advice, but in my opinion....

 

Maybe she wanted to tell you that she missed you, etc., and was really excirted about it, but as time went on and you were busy, she probably saw that you have a lot to do, can't give her 100% of your attention and that may have put her off a bit. Maybe it took away her joy of telling you this stuff because you weren't available. I've felt the same way.

 

BUT...keep in mind, I don't know her, so I'm really not sure. Make time to see her in person if you really want this girl. SHOW HER that you care what she has to say.