monkeymaid Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 im having a hard time atm. ...i miss my ex alot. ...she contacted me last thursday asking if we could be friends. ...its been 3.5 months since the breakup and went nc immediately. i told her i didnt respect her and i didnt trust her and i dont need friends like that, and that by reaching out to me for anything she was showing her current bf of 2 months the same disrespect as she showed me. i know it was right to blow her off, but im thinking hard about it, cant sleep, and cant seem to let it go. i miss her so damn much! she apparently has moved on, or is at least in a rebound relationship, but im sitting here sad for no apparent reason. i really want her to just apologize for the **** she did, and to come back and make it right. its been 3.5 months. ...what the hell is wrong with me. i just looked at her fb page for the 1st time in 2 months, and she finally tok down all the pics of us. ...none of her and the new guy, but still. knowing hes getting what i didnt becasue i broke up with her and she wants this to be different. ...i just dont get it. why not fix what she broke? its not that hard. ...is it pride? her ego? ahh!!!! im going nuts here!! anyone have words? Link to post Share on other sites
Author monkeymaid Posted June 18, 2010 Author Share Posted June 18, 2010 come on guys, 61 views and not one person has an opinion? Link to post Share on other sites
aeren944 Posted June 18, 2010 Share Posted June 18, 2010 Hey, monkeymaid, Yeah... welcome to my world. Sometimes no one responds when you need it really bad. It would be hard, and you're a much stronger man than me for rejecting the friendship... but that was the right thing to do. You don't need that friendship. Remember how you felt when all this started? Remember how you couldn't stop thinking about it, how it hurt like hell? You're back there now... but you've made it through 3.5 months... you've got better weapons to bring to the fight. You will be able to let it go. Please, just keep in mind, you did the RIGHT thing... you don't need that friendship. You need friends that don't make you second guess or think too much... you need friends that will have your back and make you laugh. You do NOT need her friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
What_Next Posted June 18, 2010 Share Posted June 18, 2010 First, DUMP FB!!!!!!! DUMP FB!!!! Hear me? FB is a waste of time, waste of effort and a scourge on our society. Who cares if she took down pictures on some silly website. Now, focus on YOU. Exercise the first part of that. Get out there, bike ride, run, jog, punch a heavy bag, get exercise and get tired. It will help you sleep. Eat right as well. Get into a routine of being focused on YOU. Re-connect with old friends, make new ones. Or just learn to be happy with just you. Hang in there, 3.5 months is a major accomplishment. You'll slog through. Remember that if you put your mind to it and develop a "six pack" in the meantime it'll make it that much easier to find your next mate. Link to post Share on other sites
Author monkeymaid Posted June 18, 2010 Author Share Posted June 18, 2010 haha thanks fo the words next. ...actually, i have the six pack. ...i lost close to 20 lbs since the breakup, put on mass amounts of muscle and am floating around 195 at 10-11% bf. ...i followed the nc guide to a t. i am in the midst of opening my first real legit business, set it all up, and its going into positive cash flow in the middle of july, i ride/hike/run/lift/surf/ daily, read at least 30 minutes a day, got new clothes, made some awesome friends, bought my new motorcycle ...the list goes on. ...i guess i feel as if i wont find that connection again. ...i am pretty damn picky, and she just fit 95% of what i wanted. ...but as you can see, the 5% that didnt fit was BIG and quite the deal breaker, so... i suppose im just down atm. i really appreciate the words, it helps out more than I thought! Link to post Share on other sites
justaguy123 Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 Hey monkey I know what you mean when you just all of a sudden miss the person you were with. I just pasted the 4 month mark and I still have those times myself. They suck and suck hard but they always pass. You're doing great and there is nothing wrong with having those feeling of missing what you had. Just get past them and remember there is always somthing better out there, someone with that 5%. Link to post Share on other sites
aeren944 Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 haha thanks fo the words next. ...actually, i have the six pack. ...i lost close to 20 lbs since the breakup, put on mass amounts of muscle and am floating around 195 at 10-11% bf. ...i followed the nc guide to a t. i am in the midst of opening my first real legit business, set it all up, and its going into positive cash flow in the middle of july, i ride/hike/run/lift/surf/ daily, read at least 30 minutes a day, got new clothes, made some awesome friends, bought my new motorcycle ...the list goes on. ...i guess i feel as if i wont find that connection again. ...i am pretty damn picky, and she just fit 95% of what i wanted. ...but as you can see, the 5% that didnt fit was BIG and quite the deal breaker, so... i suppose im just down atm. i really appreciate the words, it helps out more than I thought! Don't SETTLE! Do NOT settle!! Find a woman that fits 100% of what you want... don't settle anymore. That's where I'm at right now... but I've only been working on it for 2 months. Do not settle! Do what makes you happy, find what makes you happy... be yourself, and don't settle!! Link to post Share on other sites
on edge Posted June 22, 2010 Share Posted June 22, 2010 block her on facebook. you should not be interested in being friends with her. obviously, her contacting you is what set you off, so don't contact her and if she contacts you, ignore it. everyone has setbacks, i had one this morning because of a strange dream. Link to post Share on other sites
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