kmm214 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 I've been dating my high school boyfriend for about four years and we're both going off to the same college this fall. For our freshman year we are required to live on campus but are planning on moving in together and getting engaged next year. I feel like I know he is the one that I want to be with but I'm nervous that once we actually get to college that he will find someone else or that we will break up. I know there are lots of new people to meet but I'm not interested in meeting new guys and he says the same thing about girls. So I'm wondering should we really be making all these plans for next year or if there is even a good chance of us staying together throughout college.
ADF Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 He may well meet someone new, but so might you. Let's face it, the chances of the person you dated in high school being the person you spend the rest of your life with are almost zero. It can happen, but it is pretty darn rare. Just do your best once you get to college, but don't be shocked if after even a few weeks you don't change your mind about him being the one for you.
Crazy Magnet Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 I think geographical region will come into play here. More than half of my friends met and started dating their now husbands while we were still in high school. Most of them got married between our junior and senior years of college or right after our senior year of college. There was never any issue of wanting to meet other girls/guys. We're from the deep south and this is pretty common down there. How common is it where you are from?
Author kmm214 Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 it's actually not that uncommon a lot of my friends have a long term boyfriends that have given them promise rings and there are some others who are all ready engaged . also a lot of our parents are highschool sweethearts.
aerogurl87 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 I think geographical region will come into play here. More than half of my friends met and started dating their now husbands while we were still in high school. Most of them got married between our junior and senior years of college or right after our senior year of college. There was never any issue of wanting to meet other girls/guys. We're from the deep south and this is pretty common down there. How common is it where you are from? Crazy Magnet makes a good point. Where I'm from (the South) it's not uncommon for people who dated in high school to get married. I know of a couple of my old classmates who are either engaged or married to people they dated while in high school. But really it all depends on you two. I'm not going to say it won't work, because it could. But you two have to be devoted to each other and making things work.
O'Malley Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Anything is possible, but many people's expectations and viewpoints change in their early - mid twenties. You may mature compatibly enough to still be committed to each other, or both of you will come to a crossroads if you determine that you have different needs. The one thing I would recommend is living on your own for a while after you've reached your educational/career goals, before even thinking about moving in together or getting engaged. Make some choices independent of your future relationship prospects. Decide what career field you want to go into, where you would eventually like to live, do some traveling if you can afford to do so.
BlackLovely Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Anything is possible' date=' but many people's expectations and viewpoints change in their early - mid twenties. [b']You may mature compatibly enough to still be committed to each other, or both of you will come to a crossroads if you determine that you have different needs. [/b] The one thing I would recommend is living on your own for a while after you've reached your educational/career goals, before even thinking about moving in together or getting engaged. Make some choices independent of your future relationship prospects. Decide what career field you want to go into, where you would eventually like to live, do some traveling if you can afford to do so. Great advice. In this day and age, women cannot afford to put all of our eggs into the marriage basket. You can only be interdependent after you have been independent. Whether marrying your high school sweetheart is common or not, I would encourage the OP to think about why she would want to marry someone she doesn't trust.
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