Gentleman, how long after dating a girl do you know if you want to marry her?

[Crazy Magnet]

wow. People in this website can give some real terrible advice. First of all 6 months is way too soon, you cannot possibly KNOW someone 100% within 6 months--those are still the early months of dating. Come on now, Let's be real. I don't even fall in love within 6 months, let alone think of marrying the person. I would say AT LEAST 2 YEARS. Ideally for my age, (I am 21) I would wait 3 years before getting married with the person I'm with. Marriage is a LIFETIME commitment. Meaning no other man, woman EVER! (if you plan on doing it right without cheating or divorces) Plus you live with the person and start a life with them. A LOT of factors are to be taken under consideration. No wonder the divorce rates are so high. Sheesh!

 

Also I wouldn't put a time limit on it because I am still young & I like to take things slow & make sure I am with the "one". But I would like to be married between the age of 24-26.

 

This sounded a lot like me at 21. At 30 I feel much differently. If I were you I wouldn't pick an age to get married, just let it happen when it happens at the pace it happens.

 

As I've gotten older and gotten more relationship experience under my belt I can say that as a woman I know if a man is marriage worthy within a few months and have a 90% solid answer about that around month 6.

 

The men I have dated have typically brought up marriage between 6 months and 1 year.

 

In my dating life, men have REALLY started pushing marriage at the 2 year mark, dragging me to ring stores and/or proposing and yammering on about it so I guess by two years for sure they know.

[MrNate]

I totally agree, but i'm not talking about WHEN he proposes, im just talking about when he knows for himself whether this is the real deal or not.

 

Well, my post addresses this point also. When I know she's the one, I make the leap.

 

Men have to deal with a lot, especially with issues such as these, so go easy on the guy.

[Don'tWannabeAWannabe]

Just curious.

 

Because I know that if after a certain period of time a man doesn't propose or settle down, then he never will (with the particular girl he is seeing). My question is, how long does it usually take for a man to decide whether or not his girl is "the one" (you know what I mean, someone you can settle down with and marry).

 

For me? I will know within the first 6 months whether or not I want to settle down with a guy. If I decide that no I don't want to, then no matter how long I date him for, I will never marry him.

 

Longer than I've been alive, because I've never felt the urge to marry.

 

I'm 23 btw.

[jenifer1972]

I think marriage licences should be harder to get, with longer waiting periods and I don't personally think anyone should get married before 25. These rules might "save people from themselves"...

 

In my experience, I THINK I know someone after one year, but in reality it has taken about three years for partners and friends to show me enough to really know their true colors. Some friends and my ex have given me nasty surprises about their personality in year three that simply was shocking and I had not seen before that point.