Confused100 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Hi everyone, I recently posted asking for advice. I asked her out today and she said that "she had just broken up with her boyfriend and wasn't interested in dating right now" Do you think I should try asking her out again sometime in the future? Or do you think that was just a nice way of telling me "no, I'm not interested. Sorry."? My friend said I should just move on and be friends and that she'll tell me if and when she's interested. Thanks
Ihavenoidea Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Both maybe. I can't say that I have ever successfully dated someone who I knew who I asked out shortyl after a breakup. She'll find someone else before considering you. just my experience.
Author Confused100 Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 Hmm, alright. Some of my other friends said that it was probably just a nice way of saying no thanks, and that she's not interested. I guess I should probably just try to move on/find someone new and let the relationship flourish as a good friendship. I reckon I should leave my ears open for anything striking, but aside from that no reason to get my hopes up.
Cracker Jack Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 I honestly believe it was her saying she's not interested--but I'm really not sure here. If she had just broken up with her bf, she wouldn't be in a dating mood right now, anyway; so in all likelihood, it has nothing to do with you, or a lack of interest. I say you shouldn't focus on it too much at this point. Just be her friend and don't bring it up. If your feelings are too strong, then, well, you probably need time away from her.
cdubs32 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Take it for what it is right now, which was a "no". Does that mean she'll consider it in the future? Maybe, but it's not your job to keep reminding her you're interested. If you want to leave the door open for any possibilities, stay friends with her and don't ever bring it up again to her. She knows how you feel now, and if she ever develops similar feelings she will let you know. Go out with other girls in the meantime, you may find one you like better than her anyway. By all means DO NOT WAIT AROUND FOR HER TO DECIDE TO GO OUT WITH YOU. That's the worst thing you can do. You can't have any expectation that she'll ever go out with you. Best to stay friends and move on.
Author Confused100 Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 Thanks a lot. That helps clarify the situation a whole lot more for me!
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