LoveBites Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 AHHH! OK, so I meet this girl and we hit it off BIG time. The first two weeks we were constantly talking and texting. We had a few dates mixed in there as well. She seemed really into me... laughing at things I said that were not really funny, laying on my shoulder during movies, being the first to text... etc The 3rd week came along and out of nowhere the thing we had went a 180. She never texted me first and would give me one word texts after not responding for 10 minutes. She also blew me off for 2 dates. I thought maybe we were moving fast and I was being annoying. I figured I would just wait for her to text me or call me.... 3 weeks pass, I finally try to break the ice. I sent her a fake story that was really easy to work with. She didn't play along. Finally I asked her what happened between us, she responded with "how about you tell me". I told her I thought I was being annoying or something and she said "no you werent" Then she said she was tired and wanted to go to sleep. (it was 6:20) Should I continue trying to pursue or is it over? Is she trying to play hard to get? What the hell is going on? lol
2sunny Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 you did something that made her angry and she wanted you to admit to what hurt her feelings. think. you need to own it - apologize for it and vow never to have it look like that again... only then can you EARN her trust back by following through on your word. what did you do?
NicePlay Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 you did something that made her angry and she wanted you to admit to what hurt her feelings. think. you need to own it - apologize for it and vow never to have it look like that again... only then can you EARN her trust back by following through on your word. what did you do? Don't do this. Especially this early in a relationship. Women say they want to hear this but their interest in you will be lowered, it sets a doormat precedent and it repels women. If you didn't really do anything awful don't own up to anything. She can either come around or move on to the next. It's either games or lack of interest. Don't get sucked into either.
Author LoveBites Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 The thing is, I know I didn't do anything wrong. The day before we really stopped texting/talking was she was at my place watching a movie. She was cuddling and gave me a good night kiss that night. It literally went hot to cold over night... : /
2sunny Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 The thing is, I know I didn't do anything wrong. The day before we really stopped texting/talking was she was at my place watching a movie. She was cuddling and gave me a good night kiss that night. It literally went hot to cold over night... : / if there's nothing wrong then move on.
that girl Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 How much do you like this girl? Do you seriously think she could be a long term girlfriend possible soul mate? If not, I would probably just let it go. If you really are that into her, start by thinking what could be wrong. What happened with those two dates that she blew you off? Could she have felt that she was making more effort than you? You brag a little about her starting the texting first, maybe she felt she was making all the effort. A three week gap is huge. Are you dating other people? She could have been unaware and found out somehow. Something happened. A woman who had just lost interest wouldn't say "How about you tell me?" You may not realize what happened and she could be being unfair about it, but something happened. It may not be worth persuing though if you're aren't pretty close to crazy about her.
Author LoveBites Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 How much do you like this girl? Do you seriously think she could be a long term girlfriend possible soul mate? If not, I would probably just let it go. If you really are that into her, start by thinking what could be wrong. What happened with those two dates that she blew you off? Could she have felt that she was making more effort than you? You brag a little about her starting the texting first, maybe she felt she was making all the effort. A three week gap is huge. Are you dating other people? She could have been unaware and found out somehow. Something happened. A woman who had just lost interest wouldn't say "How about you tell me?" You may not realize what happened and she could be being unfair about it, but something happened. It may not be worth persuing though if you're aren't pretty close to crazy about her. I do like her. I wasn't trying to brag, I was trying to point out that she was into me. Also, her changed behavior from initiating most of the convos to not initiating any. I figure I am going to text her tonight and see what the mood is. If it isn't going anywhere, I will tell her I gotta go and text me tomorrow and see if she does.
phineas Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 I do like her. I wasn't trying to brag, I was trying to point out that she was into me. Also, her changed behavior from initiating most of the convos to not initiating any. I figure I am going to text her tonight and see what the mood is. If it isn't going anywhere, I will tell her I gotta go and text me tomorrow and see if she does. Stop texting. Please. Call her up & ask her what the deal is. If she doesn't answer, leave a VM asking her to call you back. Then don't contact her ever again & plan on moving on. If she texts you, call her back instead of texting back. You want to speak to her on the phone & you want to know what is going on. period. Do not play her games. Let her know if she wants to get with you she needs to get with you. If she doesn't, then she is to loose your number because you are getting tired of her games.
cdubs32 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 (edited) AHHH! OK, so I meet this girl and we hit it off BIG time. The first two weeks we were constantly talking and texting. We had a few dates mixed in there as well. She seemed really into me... laughing at things I said that were not really funny, laying on my shoulder during movies, being the first to text... etc The 3rd week came along and out of nowhere the thing we had went a 180. She never texted me first and would give me one word texts after not responding for 10 minutes. She also blew me off for 2 dates. I thought maybe we were moving fast and I was being annoying. I figured I would just wait for her to text me or call me.... 3 weeks pass, I finally try to break the ice. I sent her a fake story that was really easy to work with. She didn't play along. Finally I asked her what happened between us, she responded with "how about you tell me". I told her I thought I was being annoying or something and she said "no you werent" Then she said she was tired and wanted to go to sleep. (it was 6:20) Should I continue trying to pursue or is it over? Is she trying to play hard to get? What the hell is going on? lol This is women for you man. This girl doesn't have the self respect enough to just be honest with you and tell you that she's not interested. At some point she realized she didn't have strong enough feelings for you and this is her way of telling you. THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT YOU DID NOTHING WRONG She said "How about you tell me" because she wants to pick a fight with you. She finds it easier if she can just make you mad at her and that YOU walk away so she doesn't have to feel the guilt of rejecting you. It's low, it's rude, it's selfish. Don't play into it. Women with interest don't sabotage it like this. You know exactly when it started turning sour, and once it does then that means it's finished. You can't change her mind, she decided it based on nothing that you have control over or could have changed. Just be grateful you found out this early. She just isn't interested in you man, and there could be a million reasons why which none of them should matter to you. Just delete her number, she's not worth it. Edited June 17, 2010 by cdubs32
Author LoveBites Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 Update: I finally get the nerve to text her and ask her out again. She said yeah but couldn't do it this week and then said probably next week.. I am not sure if this is the nice way of saying "I don't want to be mean and say no so I will just keep delaying it until you get the picture" I got a question about girls in general.... When I text her and say like "Hey! whats up?" Her response will be what she is doing or what she did today. Not once has she asked me back what I did or am doing... It's not that I want to talk about myself but its at least something to talk about when there isnt a good convo going on. So if a girl rarely/never asks you questions/how was your day/whats up mean she doesn't like you or she doesn't care?
stuck with eharmony Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I feel like you are not saying everything. Although why would lie on a dating forum? If you seriously did anything questionable then tell us.. I would assume that maybe something happened with her and she fell off the rocker or something. This is really weird, I'm sorry dude. Good luck.
Diezel Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I don't see how he made her mad, first off, so I don't see why he should have had to apologize. I'll highlight WHERE he went wrong. AHHH! OK, so I meet this girl and we hit it off BIG time. The first two weeks we were constantly talking and texting.[/QUote] BOOM. There you go. Constantly talking and texting. We had a few dates mixed in there as well. She seemed really into me... laughing at things I said that were not really funny, laying on my shoulder during movies, being the first to text... etc[/QUote] All I've read so far is... talking, texting, few dates. Where's the part about a kiss, or sex, or anything even remotely sexual??? There's nothing here at all even CLOSE to something that would convey to her that you were interested in her romantically. Yeah, you were funny. Yeah, she laid on your shoulder. Yeah, she texted first. But where's the rest? Where's the part about how awesome that first kiss was or about how you two had great sexual chemistry together??? I'm not seeing it and this is WHY THIS HAPPENED: The 3rd week came along and out of nowhere the thing we had went a 180. She never texted me first and would give me one word texts after not responding for 10 minutes. She also blew me off for 2 dates. I thought maybe we were moving fast and I was being annoying. I figured I would just wait for her to text me or call me.... Yep. See what I mean. If you are withholding information about kissing or anything else, then maybe my analysis is wrong, but so far, it doesn't seem that way. She simply turned cold on you because she was expecting you to be a MAN at some point and MAKE A MOVE. 3 weeks pass, I finally try to break the ice. I sent her a fake story that was really easy to work with. She didn't play along. Finally I asked her what happened between us, she responded with "how about you tell me". That was her way of saying: Buddy, you took too long to even demonstrate to me through ACTIONS whether you liked me or not. Should I continue trying to pursue or is it over? Is she trying to play hard to get? What the hell is going on? lol It's over. It's not hard to get when a woman tells you she is going to bed at 6:30. It just means she doesn't want to talk to you.
northstar1 Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Just from what I've read, it would appear she's either a total flake, or lost interest. It happens and don't blame yourself. How old is she? You don't know her real story, so don't try and guess what she's up to. She could be dating others, she could be unsure about her feelings etc. Whatever it is, she's not putting out the effort to show she's truly into it. If she really was, she'd be making sure to stay in touch, or call you. The fact she vaguely said a date for next week means she's not really that into it. I'd expect she'll keep putting it off, or cancel. She lacks the maturity to come out and just say "Hey, I had fun, but i'm not feeling it" and let you move on. I'd cut your losses and move on man, this one seems like more work than it's worth. I've been there, it sucks when you are left wondering what is going on, but experience tells me that this is her way of letting things die.
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