Nikki Sahagin Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 If anyones up to date with my story, I text my ex to wish him well on his travels, he waited a few before texting me 'thanks.' That was that. A month later he has text me 'thinking about you, how are you?' I'm not going to TB but its knocked me a bit and I don't really know what i'm asking of any of you...reassurance? Is this a breadcrumb?
cdt76 Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 It really doesn't matter the meaning behind the words. Just remember you are not with that person anymore. Use your best judgement but NC should be your first choice. And yes, it's a breadcrumb.
AlwaysConflicted Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 He's probably just thinking of a moment when he had a good time with you. Sounds like a case of nostalgia.
Author Nikki Sahagin Posted June 16, 2010 Author Posted June 16, 2010 I told my mum he text me, she said why don't you reply? My first instinct was don't TB, but funny how people can sow a seed of doubt!
westrock Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 why don't you reply? Why don't you reply? 'thinking about you, how are you?' Try not to read too much into it. I read it as he is thinking about you and asking how are you. Nothing more, nothing less. That may mean nothing to you or it may mean a lot. In situations like this I usually ask myself what is it that I want to come of this? If nothing, then do nothing. You said your first instinct is to not reply back, so go with how you feel. But, if you want to see what he is getting at write back something simple... "Happy. You?"
Author Nikki Sahagin Posted June 16, 2010 Author Posted June 16, 2010 Well...literally the reason I thought not to was because of how everyone says 'GO NC.'
mickleb Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Why don't you reply? In situations like this I usually ask myself what is it that I want to come of this? If nothing, then do nothing. You said your first instinct is to not reply back, so go with how you feel. But, if you want to see what he is getting at write back something simple... "Happy. You?" So we're back here, aren't we, Nikki? The thing is...i'm not sure I am ready to give that up, or even if i'd like to. I don't know how to 'train' myself to enjoy ordinary relationships; well I suppose...if the chemistry and connection was right, I could. I just have this notion that a normal relationship is boring and I want an adventure and passion. Maybe what I want isn't love at all, as you've said. Maybe i'm not ready for that at all. I don't know that i'm completely making sense.... What you want to come of this is the question. DO you want to find love or do you just want the 'adventure and passion'? It's up to you. Just don't come complaining when the adventure leaves you starving and exhausted, again: it's wanted you WANTED, right? x
Author Nikki Sahagin Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 Hmmm.... Well with this issue, I definately overthink. My instinct towards NC splits into: 1) Everyone else says its for the best. 2) I don't know if I want this person in my life 3) Its the best thing for me 4) Its petty 5) I may want to be friends some day
Heatemyheart89 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 well it all depends if you want to drag it out. If you want to be over it- dont text back.
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