Author hopeless4u Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 h4u - I know exactly how you feel. For the longest time, seeing MW caused me to break down. I'd get to feeling better, then I'd see her and go right back to the place I started. I agree with norajane - it's time to find your b*tch pants! I think anger will help you heal. But I know that's easier to say than it is to do. But try this much. When he's around, feign indifference. Hold your head up and be the happiest, most well-adjusted person in the room. Let him see that you are doing fine without him, even if you are not. (You can break down later if you need to.) I know it will be hard, but you'll feel much better about yourself. And he will wonder why he ever let such an attractive woman get away. It will give you the power. Sending you strength. (((((h4u))))) Hey Joey!! Yes I went into work this morning with my 'bitch pants' on!! Thank you for your 'strength xx
Author hopeless4u Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 Oh dear, I know I'm a stranger but for what it's worth, sending strength and support your way. Thanks Tina, no, no you are not a stranger, all the support is very warmly excepted, again thanks.
Author hopeless4u Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 So to update....I didn't see him!! Waahoo!! I went in early so I could leave while he was in his meeting. I knew he would be late getting there as he always is so the only chance of bumping into him would be after his meeting. No one in my office is any the wiser as the sun is out here and they know how I love the sun!! All good my friends:) FO, you are soo right about checking his calendar, I need to stop and I will. One thing I hadn't told you all is that the text messages he sent me...GONE, the e mails he sent me...GONE!! so I am getting there, all be it slowly:o Thank you all so much for your support, I know I don't say it often enough but I do really listen and although I know i can be frustating sometimes I am moving forward, honest:o ((HUGS)) to you all!! xxxx
Silly_Girl Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 FO, you are soo right about checking his calendar, I need to stop and I will. One thing I hadn't told you all is that the text messages he sent me...GONE, the e mails he sent me...GONE!! so I am getting there, all be it slowly:o I think this is a big deal. Well done you. Be proud of yourself.
Hazyhead Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 So to update....I didn't see him!! Waahoo!! I went in early so I could leave while he was in his meeting. I knew he would be late getting there as he always is so the only chance of bumping into him would be after his meeting. No one in my office is any the wiser as the sun is out here and they know how I love the sun!! All good my friends:) FO, you are soo right about checking his calendar, I need to stop and I will. One thing I hadn't told you all is that the text messages he sent me...GONE, the e mails he sent me...GONE!! so I am getting there, all be it slowly:o Thank you all so much for your support, I know I don't say it often enough but I do really listen and although I know i can be frustating sometimes I am moving forward, honest:o ((HUGS)) to you all!! xxxx Woop! Woop! Good girl You're doing so well. Keep it up missus! I think getting rid of all the things he sent you is such a big step forward, well done. Think of how much progress you've made! If you were closer we could have gone out to celebrate xxxx
fooled once Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 WOOHOO!!! :bunny::bunny::bunny: I am so proud of you!! You handled that beautifully!! And proud of you for doing some cleaning up/deleting!! How are you feeling about that? You are doing great my friend!!!
Author hopeless4u Posted June 20, 2010 Author Posted June 20, 2010 WOOHOO!!! :bunny::bunny::bunny: I am so proud of you!! You handled that beautifully!! And proud of you for doing some cleaning up/deleting!! How are you feeling about that? You are doing great my friend!!! Hey FO thanks;) The deleting was a huge step for me, I'm ok. I still miss him and it still hurts when I think about him and how things ended but thats life I guess.
cavedweller Posted June 26, 2010 Posted June 26, 2010 h4u, You need to move on to the next step which is to get out and start dating someone.
Author hopeless4u Posted June 28, 2010 Author Posted June 28, 2010 h4u, You need to move on to the next step which is to get out and start dating someone. I've had quite a few chances to go out with guys on dates and when I'm out with friends (especially on holiday in Vegas!) I've had plenty of attention but my heart is still with xMM at the moment and as much as I know it shouldn't be it is:( It will happen eventually I'm sure but at the moment it really wouldn't be fair to any man I met to use them as a rebound.
awkward Posted June 28, 2010 Posted June 28, 2010 I've had quite a few chances to go out with guys on dates and when I'm out with friends (especially on holiday in Vegas!) I've had plenty of attention but my heart is still with xMM at the moment and as much as I know it shouldn't be it is:( It will happen eventually I'm sure but at the moment it really wouldn't be fair to any man I met to use them as a rebound. You are so much stronger now and you are healing. Take your heart back from MM so when you meet the right guy you can give it to him freely. I know it takes time but hopefully with each day that passes it will get a little bit easier.
torranceshipman Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 I want to throw out a little bit of a curveball here: I think you have turned ths guy ino a bit of love God in your mind as you think about him 24/7 and have put him on the biggest pedestal ever. So seeing him is a huge event. I actually think that if you did see him and he opened his mouth ad started going on about something or other, a part of you would go '....oh...is THAT what I've been disabled by misery over for the last few weeks? aste of time!' Not saying that you'd feel nothing...just saying that you would realize the reality doesn't in anyway match the perfect vision that you obsess over!
Hazyhead Posted June 29, 2010 Posted June 29, 2010 I want to throw out a little bit of a curveball here: I think you have turned ths guy ino a bit of love God in your mind as you think about him 24/7 and have put him on the biggest pedestal ever. So seeing him is a huge event. I actually think that if you did see him and he opened his mouth ad started going on about something or other, a part of you would go '....oh...is THAT what I've been disabled by misery over for the last few weeks? aste of time!' Not saying that you'd feel nothing...just saying that you would realize the reality doesn't in anyway match the perfect vision that you obsess over! I like this. A bit like when Keanu Reeves opens his mouth H, I think dating, in your case, might be a good thing. I know you're not ready for a relationship, but just dating can be fun and although it will bring you to focus on xMM in some ways, it will distract you in others, AND you think of him anyway, so what is there to lose? Other than that, get out with your girls again. Hit the bars, summer's such a fun time to do that with everyone sitting outside (and you get to wear summery dresses). Go out sweetie and enjoy yourself. He needs not to be the focus of your world. You deserve fun!
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