TouchedByViolet Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 (edited) I have a date coming up tomorrow. I should be excited and energized but feel pessimistic. Lots of rejections and sad turns of fate in the last six months have left me with a negative outlook on my life. I feel like I will be lonely forever and will never find anyone. I am so tired of being single but feel like I can’t find anyone. My recent mentality cycles between depression and negativity without any hope and my results with women have lacked success. The women I end up being attracted to either have not been attracted to me, or just want flings. I have been single for a little over 2 years (I’m 23 y.o.) and just don’t see it changing anytime in the near future. This girl is physically attractive by any standard and very much my type. After having a long conversation she sounds interesting, adventurous and caring. We met online. This is also the first time I have ever dated someone from online (not that it really matters). I feel like I need to enter this date with a positive attitude but can’t. I feel like things are just not going to work out. If I am interested she won’t be, or she will string me along, or some other sad story. After a month of not dating I get a date with a single girl and now I just feel depressed about the whole situation… What can I do to get motivated, excited and hopeful about tomorrow? Edited June 16, 2010 by TouchedByViolet
sagetalk Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 Put the gun down and stop shooting yourself in the foot. You should be going into to this thinking, "This girl has to show me why I should take her on a second date". Instead you are scared that she will dump you. With that attitude you are already toast before you even begin. She will sense that she's in control and her attraction for you will plummet. Go into it expecting nothing but a good time and nothing more. Don't get your hopes up. Young, physically attractive women have more options than anyone on Earth, many of them are also some of the dumbest people when it comes to choosing a long term mate. You just have to realize this going into it. If you're going after young, hot girls, lots of them are going to dump you. Especially if you are long term minded. What you're looking for is the special girl that wants to be with you, and not just looking for fun/entertainment in general. Need I remind you of the choices the best looking girls in Hollywood make when it comes to men? Go after them with excitement, but realize they may not be looking for a stable, long term type guy and plan accordingly. Never let a girl take away your joy, only let her add to it.
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