Author Cantcope Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 He says that because our relationship started as such, he doesn't think that we ever really had the solid base of a friendship. He can't understand why I can't just be friends and see where that leads....WITHOUT sex. What now?
LoveLace Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 He says that because our relationship started as such, he doesn't think that we ever really had the solid base of a friendship. He can't understand why I can't just be friends and see where that leads....WITHOUT sex. What now? If you think you can be just friends without pain or expectations of blissful reconciliation, then why not? Like I said, All or Nothing might be the best way for your own sake. It's rare for Ex's to remain friends without feelings or urges getting in the way. Asking you to be friends is also asking that your his friend still if he dates someone else. This is why break ups are best treated as truly a break up with total separation...because the "friends" situation usually gets too difficult to maintain. On a rare occasion it only really works if both people are truly ready to move on as individuals in life but remain in casual contact. By saying "see where it leads" is almost like he's asking you to wait around for him. So answer that based on what it is you really want. And waiting is probably not it.
sean1970 Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 He says that because our relationship started as such, he doesn't think that we ever really had the solid base of a friendship. He can't understand why I can't just be friends and see where that leads....WITHOUT sex. What now? What happens when you hear this, "I met a girl and we are going to a movie tonight." Still want to be friends?
LoveLace Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 What happens when you hear this, "I met a girl and we are going to a movie tonight." Still want to be friends? My point exactly..
cavedweller Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Cantcope, He just wants you to 'spread your legs' once in awhile.. If you tell him you are not into the 'booty call' gig he will break off contact and never look back.. Trust me on this one.. cavedweller
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