guitar23 Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 Long story short: Been talking with a girl a couple of weeks. We met up after a "night out" and one thing led to another. Went back to her place... Kissed for a few minutes. She is a good girl, and when things started to heat up she put a stop to it and we went to sleep. She initiated some convos the past few days, so that was a good sign I thought. Asked her out for our first "real date." Things went ok, I think there is mutual interest there. Hung out and cuddled up at her place a little bit, and I left without kissing her this time... I kinda wanted to let her know that I was interested in her and not just the physical stuff... Seeing as how we'd already kissed, she KNOWS I like her. Question is: Was that smart or stupid on my part? Would I have been better off going for another kiss? Or is it not a big deal, especially since I know we're going out again sometime soon?
Pfiend101 Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 Women hate getting kissed so the less you kiss her the better. I totally disagree with this statement. I think women enjoy kissing sometimes more than the actual sex part. If she wont kiss you next time I would call it quits.
Sivok Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 Fox is a forum troll, ignore him . Honestly, it wouldn't of hurt if you kissed her again. Infact, I think she was part expecting it by taking you back to her place. You can kiss and go slow. It doesn't mean you have to have sex
lynns Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 women love all the mussy stuff in fact if you keep dating keep kissing, flirting, etc. no sex first couple of dates, she'll appreciate it. Dont wait too long just dont hurry it. If you really like just trust yourself
Author guitar23 Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 Thanks for all the feedback... I guess the fact that we're seeing each other again soon gives me the chance to redeem myself if she was expecting it last time.
marsle85 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Disagree. Women LOVE that you initiate dates, try to kiss her, try to advance sexually... (within reason). It makes them feel needed, sexy, and wanted. Women are used to being the "gate keepers" to all of the above. I say you should have left with one, solid kiss. Smack one on her. Show her in the kiss what you want. Then leave. That tells her, "wow, he spent an entire night with me... never tried to get in my pants... AND still thinks i'm sexy". Don't feel bad about being a man. Just don't be insensitive to her being a woman. She sounds like a catch to me.
Author guitar23 Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 Good point, and thanks for the advice, marsle85. Unfortunately I usually fall for "easier" girls, who have never really given me the stop sign, so I guess I was a bit taken aback by that. I am thrilled she seems so respectable and I really like her a lot, just didn't want to be TOO aggressive, but I got a handle on it now. Thanks again!
marsle85 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Good point, and thanks for the advice, marsle85. Unfortunately I usually fall for "easier" girls, who have never really given me the stop sign, so I guess I was a bit taken aback by that. I am thrilled she seems so respectable and I really like her a lot, just didn't want to be TOO aggressive, but I got a handle on it now. Thanks again! The stop sign means she has restraint. She isn't impulsive or demanding. I like that.
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