Jerry18 Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 Not physically of course. But, through Facebook and friends. Basically, I'm trying to know more about her without letting her know that I'm gathering those information. I have a crush on a girl, but I don't really know her well. So I'm just using FB to search her pictures and stuff.
mixwell Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 I wouldn't consider that stalking and I have done that to try and get a little more juice out of someone I am interested in but bottom line is you need to have the balls to just see that person face to face and ask em to hang out and get to more them on a personal level.. I don't think there is anything wrong with a little research before hand tho.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Is it "right" to stalk someone... through Facebook and friends... without letting her know that I'm gathering those information. Once upon a time, there were various varieties of tissue paper. These products had many various brand names, yet one of those brands so dominated the marketplace for so long that its brand name has, over time, become a generic label for tissue paper of all makes. That label, as you may have guessed, is "Kleenex". If society repeats and repeats something often enough, whether "right" or wrong, it will all evolve to seem "right" if you wait long enough. Besides, Facebook conducts itself to facilitate information gathering in just the way you describe. Would you blame the people who make "cop-killer bullets" for killing law enforcement officers?
USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I'd honestly rather get to know a girl by talking to her on a date... Besides, it's more fun...
Diezel Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Whatever happened to just getting to know someone by talking to them and spending time with them?
jason83 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 My girlfriend calls this "creeping" In a sentence.... "I was creeping on Darren's face book when I noticed Joe said something really sexual on there. I think Darren's gay"
D-Lish Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Stalking affects someone negatively- creeping them on FB doesn't. She has no clue you're checking her out, so no worries.
Confusedalways Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Haha, I thought everyone called it creeping. Anyway, I like to creep their fb but I try not to make a decision on someone based on it- just like to get their general likes and dislikes, sense of humor and such. I see nothing wrong with it minus that some people make bad snap judgments.
Sivok Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Haha, I thought everyone called it creeping. Anyway, I like to creep their fb but I try not to make a decision on someone based on it- just like to get their general likes and dislikes, sense of humor and such. I see nothing wrong with it minus that some people make bad snap judgments.Remind me never to give you my facebook, damn stalker! I had instances where I placed my status as 'True Blood season premiere tonight at last! Can't wait, Bill Compton is sooo dreamy' and immediately get a text from a girl saying 'hey, what's up?'. 'Not much, you?'. 'Not much, just waiting for True Blood to come on'. Eeeeeeeeeeeee
Confusedalways Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Remind me never to give you my facebook, damn stalker! I had instances where I placed my status as 'True Blood season premiere tonight at last! Can't wait, Bill Compton is sooo dreamy' and immediately get a text from a girl saying 'hey, what's up?'. 'Not much, you?'. 'Not much, just waiting for True Blood to come on'. Eeeeeeeeeeeee I'm not a stalker I just do my research! that's funny about your status, though. The vampires seem to facilitate a lot of conversation.
Engadget Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Whatever happened to just getting to know someone by talking to them and spending time with them? It's a brave new world
ecto-1 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Actually, I have contacted women via FB, if I happened to recognize them from events I had been to out in public or amongst my own friends/acquaintances. I have a friend that does Game Night at her place with some people that show up. There was this one woman I had a crush on that showed up, but I hadn't seen her again at another event in a while. Then, through my current list of friends where it says "Mutual Friend" I saw that the host of that event be-friended that woman and I went to befriend her with a message saying, "Hey, long time no see, mind if I add you?" Did a friends request. FB is a great way to get a hold of someone to see if they bite, probably with, "Hey it was nice meeting you a Bob's house warming party", and see if they respond or say anything/bite. Or, "It was nice meeting you at that concert". If they respond, you can kind of get a conversation going and then ask them out. Sure you can ask them out face to face, but things might get in a way. FB allowed a great "transitional" way of getting to know someone that you've met previously.
ecto-1 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I actually had one woman I added, then like a week later, she UN-friended me, I asked her why and she said she didn't care for the young women in bikinis, she said she's kind of old-fashioned and didn't care to see that. lol Apparently, I go to events like Miss Hawiian Tropic and get my pics taken with women in bikini's or I think I had a couple of Hooters waitresses pics.
Sivok Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I'm not a stalker I just do my research! Typical thing for a stalker to say!
ecto-1 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I was wondering, why is it EVERY action a guy takes, it's considered or linked to some kind of stalker related behavior? I've even heard woman use the word "stalker" in jest in reference to a guy having a crush on her. "Yeah, Joe, I think he's stalking me, tee hee tee hee!" Some women will even say it directy and in a flirty manner, "Oh...so ya been 'stalkin'' me eh?! Wink wink" Seems the word is being used by women interchangeably these days. LOL
Art_Critic Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 If someone posts their information online for others to see, then it is in no way stalking or creepy for you to look at it (unless you've hacked into the info ). I agree.. and isn't FB setup for exactly that ?.. What good would FB be if your friends didn't look at their friends pages/pictures and their networks..
ecto-1 Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I agree.. and isn't FB setup for exactly that ?.. What good would FB be if your friends didn't look at their friends pages/pictures and their networks.. Right, and it makes for a great opportunity to contact some woman you like that you've met through your current friend. lol
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