Username37 Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 Sorry if it's wordy. I'm a newbie here. My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me 3 weeks ago. She said she wanted space. During the time of no contact, she messaged me 3 times on facebook to check up on me, texted me twice, and even invited me to her party. I even hung out with her when she was depressed and crying, and she even told me that "I saved her day" and she looked very happy and she even hugged me. She's been giving mixed signals too, like she sometime touches me, looks at me, initiates contact once in a while, but gets kinda distant from me, and looks uncomfortable sometimes. Plus her responses to some of my texts are questionable haha Do these signs tell that she still cares? Do you think she wants me to make the first move into getting her back or something?
TaraMaiden Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 No. These are signs that she has fully friend-zoned you. You've gone from lover and confidante, to "really great friend and confidante, and soft place to fall until a better guy comes along" If you're going to implement NC - and I really do strongly recommend you do - then you have to be strong - and implement NC. She's put you on the back-burner and is keeping you dangling as a safe option. She has no intention of rekindling a romantic relationship with you, but goodness me, you do have your uses...! Way to go, Bro'! Delete Facebook. Stay off it. Do not respond or reply to text messages, or phone calls. Block her e-mails and shut her down completely. Read the link in my signature, and follow it through. Because really - is this what you want? breadcrumbs?
DustySaltus Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 You'll hear the term "emotional tampon" used a lot around here. She uses you to fill her emotional needs and will then discard you when something "better" in her mind comes along. The best way to respond to her is with complete silence. Her intentions here are selfish. She wants to make sure you don't hate her. Whether you feel like you do or you don't, the best response is silence and indifference. If she wants to come back she has to do it on her own. And at that point unless she tells you that she made a huge mistake and is willing to do whatever it takes to make it work, then maybe, maybe, you have something to talk about. The fact is that someone who truly cares about you wouldn't leave you in the first place. People show us their true colors after a while, believe them and focus on yourself. Ask yourself this questions. How can I make myself a happier person INDEPENDANT of anyone else?
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