elits0 Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 So I just broke NC with my ex. The story is here - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t227020/ I broke NC because someone smashed my car window and so I wanted to know if her bf did it. I didn't recognize her voice over the phone (it's been a few months of NC, been broken up for 6 months). After the phone call I kind of realized I missed her quite a bit even though she played me badly. It didn't help that I went to Disneyland this past weekend with my friends.. All the couples there didn't really help me out. So far what I know is that things aren't really working out with her and her new bf due to differing lifestyles.. Honestly I don't know what I want/expect out of this. There are still a lot of things I want answered.. If there is a chance of us getting back together I might take it. I think at this point I need to try one more time to know for sure. Funny because I'm usually really strong about keeping up NC and if it was any of my friends doing this I'd call them a idiot. I'll keep you guys posted on how it goes. "Hope for the best, expect the worst"
DustySaltus Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 I think you need to move forward on your own and focus on yourself. She cheated on you once, broke up with one guy and is now going out with another one. She makes comments like "...it's like we never broke up", but look at her ACTIONS. She continues to live her life, and you need to continue to live yours. I know there's a part of you that still loves her but you have to see her for who she really was. It seems like you are waiting for her to come back into the picture, putting your life on hold. You have to stop this, she's not coming back. And if she does it won't be the same person you fell in love with. How could you see yourself trusting her again? How do you know she won't do the same thing again? The LEAST she could've done is told you that she didn't want to be with you anymore before she decided to cheat on you. I mean at least give you a LITTLE respect. She couldn't even do that, and you're still waiting for her? Ask yourself why.... I want to see you get better, but you cannot do that until you let you. Forget about what's going on in her life right now, focus on you.
Author elits0 Posted June 16, 2010 Author Posted June 16, 2010 I woke up today and realized this wasn't the wisest decision in the world. I'm going to go from NC to very limited NC instead. Even though nothing was discussed between us, I feel way more at ease now. She isn't a girl who played me anymore, just a girl it didn't work out with. Hopefully this mindset lasts.
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