sweets8 Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 so i recently (last week) found out my boyfriend of 4 years cheated on me with his best mates girlfriend also of four years. my boyfriend and i have been thru tough times but have worked it out stuck it out and now this has happened. the story was tht she called him drunk, he was also home drunk. she went home after being out got into her car despite her boyfriend being home and drove to my boyrfriends house and it went from there. he had told her not to drive as she was drunk but she insisted. the story iv been told is tht she had said "come on, it was always going to happen, come on- no one has to know" and pushed it and obviously one thing led to another. iv also been told she admitted to driving over there with the intent of something happening between them and tht she has low self esteem and wanted to feel sexy and good about herself and so she wanted to do this. and she apparently knew my boyfriend would sleep with her. its really hard this girl was a good friend, i love my boyfriend so much and everyones so sorry now. i am so betrayed gutted and hurt and need some advice. we are broken up but its hurting so badly and want to know what people think of my situation.
whichwayisup Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 You are better off without them both. It's a toxic situation! Seems neither have self control when it comes to being drunk. Let alone insecurities and ego (your bf), no self control! Sorry you're hurting. You didn't deserve this, let alone double betrayal.
Heatemyheart89 Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 sounds like a horrible situation to me I would want to be rid of them both. Low self esteem? Couldnt she pick on someone elses man? Sorry to hear this happened to you.
TaraMaiden Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 He's a pile of bull, and so is she. Nobody held a gun to either of their heads and forced them into this. He did it because he felt like it. She did it because she felt like it. Wine loosens the tongue and weakens the will. but it doesn't obliterate it all together. if he really had not wanted to do this - then he wouldn't have gotten himself all aroused, excited taken aim and done the deed. No? He has to man up and take responsibility for his own actions, drunk or not. And she has to be completely remorseful, apologetic and totally contrite, drunk or not. And you have to ignore this altogether, dump his sorry @ss and move on, because he sure as hell ain't worth the time or effort. ...."one thing led to another."....? Gimme a break!
Author sweets8 Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 thanks your thoughts.. just feeling really low and struggling to come to terms with everything at the moment
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