lala1985 Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 When I first met this man, he was all about me and def didn't mind showing it. He wanted to be with me all the time, he would make plans in advance and always called just to talk. One day he initiated the conversation about being exclusive but I was indecisive about it due to the fact that he was going through a divorce with his (highschool sweetheart) who happened to cheat on him during there six year marriage. Finally I gave in and decided to give it a shot. About a month into the relationship I found out that he was still calling his wife begging for her to take him back and to leave the current man that she left him for. He would mainly call during late hours while he was drinking and would leave sad voicemails on her phone. She contacted me and informed me with all the details and let me see for myself the emails he had written her. I felt very hurt and betrayed and reacted in an angry way, also ending it with him. The two of us had such an amazing sexual chemistry that we decided to keep it on a casual no strings attached basis. Well STUPID ME for ever thinking I could erase the emotional attachment I had with this man. It has been two years since we were exclusive and I feel emotionally drained. It feels like a vicious cycle that I can't escape. For eight months I slept with him and continued to allow him to only call when he was drunk or continued to allow him to tell me lies!!!!(including telling me that he loves me) He knew I was emotionally involved because sometimes I would just break down. Finally I decided to stop all his attempts in contacting me. I ignored his calls, text messages, facebook attempts, emails, voicemails... EVERYTHING. This went on for three weeks until he showed up at my house at 2:00am crying, begging me to let him in. He stated that he wanted my company and did not want to have sex. I let him stay and he talked about how he wanted to do things together like we used to ( outside of the bedroom ) I did not take his words seriously because I knew he was drunk. The next day, he left and of course I did not hear from him for another week. I finally got to the point where I literally stopped caring and I think he sensed it. I would not reply to his text messages instantly and I went on other dates with men. Two weeks ago he called ( sober ) and asked that I come over to meet his parents who happened to be in town. I was shocked so I decided to go to his house and meet them. Everything went well and that night he looked at me and said that he wished we could get along like that all the time because that is when he was happy with me. That night we went to bed he said that he wanted to go to the beach the following day with some of his friends so I was up for the idea and decided to go. We had an awesome time, he was affectionate in public and I felt great because for once it seemed like he was his "old" self again.The next day everything changed. He stated that he was not ready for anything serious because it wouldl just end up the way it always does. I have not heard from him in days and he acts very distant. WTF?? Why would he go out of his way to introduce me to his friends and family if his intensions were BS? Am I being manipulated? I don't even know what to do anymore. I know that an ouside opinion would be best for me so please give me your opinions.
MrNate Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 Tl;dr. But I will tell you this: If your gut tells you that you're being used, then you are probably right.
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 Paragraphs, dear, paragraphs. Throw us a bone here. We'd love to help you but your post is very hard to read. :] From what I gathered, whether or not he wants you for a booty call is irrelevant, it sounds like he has enough other issues for me to guess he's not worth your time.
Author lala1985 Posted June 16, 2010 Author Posted June 16, 2010 Thank you, you are prob right. I just need to find a way to move on.
amymarieca Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 How many more ways are you going to let this guy make you feel rejected? You are the one causing the problem for yourself because you keep going back for more over and over. Before you lose every ounce of your dignity, you need to cut this guy out of your life.
bac Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 No, you are not. But, he is a drama queen and it is hopeless.
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