confusedguy25 Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 (edited) This happened last year. When me(24) and my gf(20) first hooked up she told me she would be going to see her friend in cali(girl) with a bunch of her girlfriends. Well anyways they went to this rave and did ecstasy well whatever I didn’t care much so anyways I was going through some of the pictures on facebook from when they got back that her friend had posted, they were dressed really slutty like barely had any clothes on their shorts were really short and the shirts they were wearing were pretty revealing. Well I notice a picture with a guy laying on my gf thighs and I got pretty furious because they were on drugs and he was laying on her thighs their were a lot of other people in the room with them but why did he have to lay down on her thigh? why did she let him? She said because she was being nice, now that I think about it I call BS she also told me his gf was their also I call bs on that to I don’t even think he had a gf but I don’t know him so I don’t know, I don’t know maybe she is telling the truth? This happened a year ago, and now she is going back to cali in a couple of days. last year she went for 4 days this year she is going for 8 days because she said 4 days was not enough. I don’t know what to think I know she will run in to him again. I don’t know if she telling me the truth because I found out for myself and I asked her why she didn’t tell me, she said because she didn’t remember and she didn’t think it was a big deal. I don’t know what to do, she is leaving in a week I cant stop her from going, and I will never know the truth so its either accept her going to cali every year to see her friend(girl) they are bestfriends so I cant say no or dump her and not have to worry about the situation. I get teary eyed when I think about breaking up because I really don’t want to but then again what she did was inexcusable, that should also means she should lose the privilege to go to cali? I dont know .:confused:Sometime ***** just doesn’t work out right? I don’t know! Help Some advice would be great. Thanks for reading! Edited June 15, 2010 by confusedguy25
Feelin Frisky Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Facebook sucks. People just don't have a clue about consequences much less social literacy. You shouldn't know this and she shouldn't have posted it. Ignorance is bliss.
that girl Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I get why you would be upset about some guy laying across your girlfriend's thighs. But I also get how she could have been in that situation and not thought anything about it. People have different limits on what they think is okay. Often even if one person's limits are stricter the other person can adjust. But she didn't do something truly terrible like make out with another guy. I think you need to stop focusing on the guy and talk about limits. And not just your limits. You need to both know what your lines are.
timmytak Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 (edited) Yes facebooks sucks ahaha so why sholdnt i have known? because its a secret? i dont know ahh. And your right she knows what her limits are now and it might not have been anything but I would never know. yeah then trust comes into play but you never know S*** happenes and I would rather avoid it if something might happen. We also been fighting I guess as the day gets nearer I dont want her to go because I dont want that guy around her is that bad? Also her friend she is going to see is friends with those guys and they all have a house together. So matter of fact i know they will run into each other, what to do what to do? I been wanting to tell her i dont want her to go because of that reason but i havent said anythingto her about it, I am not sure if I should. Edited June 15, 2010 by timmytak
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