amythan Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Hi, I screwed up this one and I really need some advise. Long story short, I have this coworker who was pursuing me during the last months. I do not deny I was interested but he was consistently make efforts to see each other. We are located in different towns. So I came here and we went out yesterday. Great time and big mistake ... We slept together. Too late to change things and what is done is done. He asked me to see me today. I said yes and today we fix the date. Half an hour before the agreed time he said that he cannot make and he asked if he can call me later. I said yes but he never called. Classic. I get it and I feel bad and used. I though he was interested but visibly he just wanted to score a new girl. My problem is I need to clear the air as we work together - same team ! So I can just pretend nothing happened and go with the flow or call him to talk to him ans make clear that we can be civil. I have to visit clients here but in normal circumstances I would go to see our new offices. Now I don't dare to do that as I do not want to come as crazy. I do not want to porsue him, just go back to normal. The guy is a jerk but we have to work together. What is the best approach ? Thank you !
Serenitynow Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Yelling at him, taking him to the side and scolding him, or trying to figure it out will not change anything. I would just ignore it all since you work together. You slept with him, deal with it. Its YOUR fault that you ASSUMED that it would be more than what is was. IF you would have held out on the sex, and just dated, you may have scared him off, and sent him packing looking for an easier score.
EmeraldHeart Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 (edited) I was basically dumped by a coworker this weekend. I would let him know how you feel so you can put it behind you and not have so much anxiety at work. Some may disagree, but I think it is the only way to move on in a timely fashion. There is nothing wrong with clearing the air. Edited June 16, 2010 by EmeraldHeart
Confusedalways Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 If it were me, I'd definitely want to clear the air because as much as I bask in the awkward situations of others, I certainly hate them when it comes to myself. I'd definitely say something casually in a non accusatory way.
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