ResetReality Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Hello all, my names Faze im 21 and not long broke up with my girlfriend of two years , I don't normally post my life on internet forums but I feel the need to express myself with like minded people who are going or have been through the same situation, The story begins We met each other two years along, while i was still at college, we quickly became fond of each other, and took things to the next level, 2 year have gone by and we did some amazing things together. A week ago I was at work, I got a text off her while we were still together saying she misses and loves me and that she can't wait to see me soon, I didn't reply a new promotion means my breaks are all over the place and when i sit down i need to get back up to sort something out, anyway, this patten happened for a while, she always texted me, but i just didn't text back, not out of anything else but just because i didn't have time this lead to us not talking, not seeing each other as often and not having conversations on MSN, the same day she text saying she loved me, and missed me (above) 6 hours later i signed into MSN and was greeted with her saying our relationship was going nowhere, out of the blue, i was upset, and went down, her parents stepped in and said that she didn't want to talk to me, so i didn't push, I drove up the road and called her phone, her mom picked up and i pleaded me to let me talk to her face to face, when i got there her parents stepped in and started talking on her behalf, all the reasons why we shouldn't be together at the end of it, i asked what she wanted to do and she said i want to move on. I was rocked at the time, emotions flooding through that i didn't know i could feel Anyway, I called, I texted, emailed, messages on facebook, begging her that we can make it work, we had hicups before but always worked through them, I thought we were perfect. and whatever life threw at us we could work it out, no problems. at first she didnt reply, ignoring me, blocking me out, then came the stomach turning message, about being to different and that she didnt have full trust in me, i was confused, about this then later she told me that she had seen messages from my EX GF on face book and this upset her as I said that we should meet up and swapped numbers, (at the time i thought nothing of it, but how stupid could i of been, i didn't think it through and could understand why she was hurt) I told her that I didn't think nothing of it at the time, my ex means nothing to me and i saw it as general convo, although i had no intentions of ever meeting up with my EX, she ruined my life. Time went passed, I pleaded some more, and got loads of excuses about her going to uni and that i deserve to be happy and that while shes at uni for 3 years i can find someone else, blah blah anyway, yesterday we agreed to meet as friends, we went to starbucks laughed, joked, just like old times, i could still she was hurt and looked very fragile but i didn't pester her she said she wanted to be mates and i respected that, after the day i was heartbroken, having this beautiful girl that used to be mine infront of me and not being able to hold or kiss her or tell her that i love her, things i took for granted :lmao: I sent her this message "Hey It hurts me so much to say this but im sorry, after today if we were to stay friends it would hurt me way too much, today was nice, just like old times, but not being able to kiss or hold you really made me feel down, all i wanted to do was cuddle you, but not being able to just made me want to break down and cry, I want you as a girlfriend not just as a friend, I feel if we were to carry on being friends it would only complicate matters in the future, its best I just get out your life totally, I want to wish you the best for the future, and hope you can find happiness, in the mean time im going to pick up the pieces and move on the best i can. I hope you understand. I want to wish you all the best for the future and hope you get what you want xxx " to which she replied "Hi , I do understand how you must feel, and it does make me uhappy that we cannot be friends, i want you to be happy and i also wish u the best, if ever u do feel like we can be friends you know where i am xxxxx" good sign? im trying the no contact and hopefully she will realize that we are made for each other sorry for being so long, but i feel better writing it all down! thanks for reading
Sivok Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 She didn't reciprocate any of the sentiments you stated for her. Maybe in the future she might wake up as you're suggesting, but given the tone of her response... I would not keep my hopes up.
Author ResetReality Posted June 15, 2010 Author Posted June 15, 2010 (edited) Thanks for quick response, seems such a shame any tips or should i just wake up and smell the coffee? its over, the better i accept it the faster i can move on Edited June 15, 2010 by ResetReality
Sivok Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 The best tip is to stay no contact and if she does contact you, only speak positive things about how your life has been - and don't respond back to her immediately either; building that anticipation will increase your chances.
Author ResetReality Posted June 15, 2010 Author Posted June 15, 2010 yeah, seems like the only chance, ive not got much to loose really, just hope i dont have to wait that long, shes pre occupied with college and work atm, in July things will have calmed down and she will be able to do alot more thinking, in the mean time im going to stop listening to these silly love songs and keep my chin up
Author ResetReality Posted June 15, 2010 Author Posted June 15, 2010 another thing while im on the topic, her brother works at the same place as me, thats how i met her, through him, hes a good lad, but no doubt he will tell his family, how im acting and what im like at work, how should i tackle this? should i just be modest? not overly happy and not overly depressed?
Author ResetReality Posted June 16, 2010 Author Posted June 16, 2010 UPDATE! well, on facebook she still hasnt changed her status to single my names not in it anymore as i changed mine to single her stills say In a relationship and im still listed as Boyfriend on her MSN contact list i take it all of these are good signs?
Author ResetReality Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 (edited) ah guys im so tempted to text her and break the no contact rule, she seems to like the idea that im not contacting her, why, all i ever did was treat her like a princess :( i know she has a new number, she hasnt given it me and her facebook shows her going out and now it seems there is another guy after her Edited June 19, 2010 by ResetReality
Versa Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 You have to be strong and just let go. I fully understand what you are going through and I am still in the cycle of on and off which I really wish I can just let go but I can't, it's just so hard and everytime I thought I can do it there she is. All my friends are telling me just walk away. For someone that doesn't truly want to be with you for who you are then it's a waste of time. I suggest you just delete her facebook and msn or any contact for that matter if you are dedicated to do so.
Sivok Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Good. Seeing another guy pursue her, or seeing her post status updates/etc regarding another guy is only going to tear you apart
S.Tee Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 Be natural, be happy and be confident. It was her decision and let her choose her life. You had done your best & the text you sent her was brilliant! You were being honest yet never showed your emotions directly. She realizes you are always there for her but it does not meant your life ismiserable without her. She might just want your attention (with the new guy & stuff) and trying to check on you (maybe from her brother) how much are you suffering now. Take it as a test. Never asked her brother how she is now but at times text her with simple words just asking how she is been doing or maybe tell her some good things happening to you or share some jokes. If she never replied or somehow annoyed from it, you are not to be blamed. You are just being her friend (she asked for it). It is more like getting the relationship warm. Hopefully one day her brother will share with you some updates, but for now act natural. Be strong.
Author ResetReality Posted June 21, 2010 Author Posted June 21, 2010 cheers for reply man, actually made me feel better well, i think im going to remain NC and not ask her brother how she is, I dont want to give her the satisfaction that im still not over her, i think its time she came to me, Ive done way too much running around for her these past 2 years don't get me wrong, i want to ask everything about her, but whats the point, ill only end up feeling hurt thanks for all the support guys and girls so glad i found this site
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