CARL45 Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Yesterday evening I texted a girl I like. One of the reasons I texted her was trying to get in contact with her because she says her schedule was full the hole month so we couldn't have a date. I should have saw the signs, but I texted her again and she sent me back an angry text. She said that she was busy that she was with her sister, so thats why she couldn't return her text. Then I sent a text that said that I basically just wanted to get to know her. I knew it was a problem when she took too long to answer the text. What I got back was the dreaded text that sounded like this " I have been thinking....I have fun being with you, but I just see this as a friendship and nothing more...I sorry if you see it as something more". I was pissed off. I had just sent her a Boston Red Sox Teddy Bear to her house (she's a Red Sox fan). The sending of the Teddy Bear makes feel really stupid, but hey I tried. Has this ever happened to anyone else?
ADF Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I don't think it was your responsibility to "read the signs." I think it was her responsibility to be up front and honest instead of trying to make it easy on herself by blowing you off. But now you know. You did nothing wrong.
Cracker Jack Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 It's happened to just about all of us, man. No need for you to feel stupid. You tried your best. Sometimes it just doesn't work out. You'll be fine, though.
phineas Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 This is why I basically don't do any favors for women until their my GF. Lots of wasted effort & humility spending time & energy on a woman that isn't interested. And honestly, why do women just play along or not say something when a man clearly is showing interest? Don't they realize he's going to ask her out & she's going to have to turn him down anyways? I just don't get it myself.
ADF Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 And honestly, why do women just play along or not say something when a man clearly is showing interest? Don't they realize he's going to ask her out & she's going to have to turn him down anyways? I just don't get it myself. I suspect the woman in this case did manipulate the situation, but that is not always the case. A lot of women honestly don't recognize what are, to men, obvious signs of interest. The reason is simple. While men almost NEVER go out of their way to befirend women without a romantic/sexual motive, the same is not true of women. Women will often go out of their way to cultivate relationships with platonic male friends. As a result, they do not automatically assume men who do them favors are shwoing interest.
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