Itzonator Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Hey folks, I see many people spend months, even years posting here. What's holding you here so much to create such a habit? Some topics are repeating over & over again, but posted in a different day & in a different way Do you think -- it is healthy to be here? Is it helpful in any way to you?
Els Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I think of it mostly as my soap-opera fix, except with (mostly) real people and lives involved. More seriously, there are people here who have supported me through difficult times in my R, and I try to give back.
Author Itzonator Posted June 15, 2010 Author Posted June 15, 2010 I think of it mostly as my soap-opera fix, except with (mostly) real people and lives involved. More seriously, there are people here who have supported me through difficult times in my R, and I try to give back. How long have you been trying to give back the favor?
Pyro Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 No matter how long you are here you can always learn something new about dating/the opposite sex. Also being here long enough I started developing friendships with different people on here. I like to believe that my relationship now is as successful as it is due in large part to what I have learned here.
kdark Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 This place is cheaper than therapy. That's why I'm here. And sometimes I'll see posts that I feel are problems that I have been through, and I want to help out. It's like a very slow group session with a faceless, anonymous mass of people. And let's not forget about all the hot women...
Bangle Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I've learnt that I am not the only one who sucks with women. lol ;p
Author Itzonator Posted June 15, 2010 Author Posted June 15, 2010 I've learnt that I am not the only one who sucks with women. lol ;p So you are not alone, so to speak. Well ... tell you what ... almost EVERY MAN transitions from a complete loser to a winner in life. It is a learned skill. It is all about how you are going to motivate yourself to figure this thing out. To make a commitment to do it and stick with it. It requires mental strength. Is it better, if you learn from people who are already successful in this area? It is usually the best way to learn, as you model those principals & become successful yourself. You are not going to learn much from people who are not successful, and trying to overcome themselves those problems - but still giving an opinion about something There was a study done, where Kevin Hogan refers to it, and it goes like this. "Everybody has an option even about nothing!" It is true, and when you listen to those people, you will not go that far along the way. So studying successful people is the key to overcome problems & frustrations
Sivok Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I learned that I'm not alone. I also learned how regular relationship/dating issues are, and the knowledge people are able to provide on any given situation. In the end, only the poster knows the situation completely, but a spin on perspective definitely helps. Also, I tend to have alot of downtime at work
VertexSquared Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 It helps me to verbalize and discuss things that I see in real life to understand them better via collective perspective.
mike1988 Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I enjoy the conversations with real people about real things. I have also gotten some good advice and opinions and have found out that dating wise, I may actually be quite a bit more lucky than many others, which motivates me to help them, and to exude more confidence in myself.
Citizen Erased Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I stayed for the people. One of my best friends is from here and now as is my boyfriend. I like having people add positives into my life, no matter how they do it. Some of the best advice and support I've ever been given was from here. Once it becomes negative I guess I'll leave.
Shakz Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I haven't been here very long but I have learned alot about the female perspective that I had only guessed about before. Seeing a consensus evolve before your very eyes is pretty convincing, and I'm always amazed at how often my preconceptions were completely wrong.
USMCHokie Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I stayed for the people. +1. I initially came here to deal with coping after a breakup. And then I stayed to give back for all those who helped me through those months. But after you're here long enough, you get to know the people...and they start to feel like friends...and it's also a great place to ask random questions and even not so random questions... And besides, I have nothing better to do...
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