themusichorse Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 So I have been on here before and I am in a relationship with a guy and this is our third time getting back together. We are having some problems like I am still not really sure if he trusts me because the last time i brought it up to him he said that he didnt trust me and that the more I brought it up it reminded him that I lied to him and that he didnt still, so I havent brought it up for a couple of days. I lied to him about when we were separated I liked a guy and he liked me and he had asked me once if there was anything he needed to know like if i had talked to this guy more than once and if i liked him and i said no. However, when we got back together I told him that i had liked him and that I had talked to him more than once so he felt I lied to him. My best guess is to let it go and just not bring up the trust issue at all. I trust him and he has my passwords and all that and I know he wont do anything like cheat or lie to me. So since we havent exactly ended our previous relationships together he also hasnt told anyone, including his friends that we are together and he said that he is trying to take it slow and work on our relationship first and our problems before he tells anyone. He also says that he is trying to help out his family because they dont approve of us either and his parents are getting a divorce and now wouldnt be a good time to tell them either. It has been two months since we have been together and i am tryingto be patient about this but I need some advice. He told me that he would tell people when the time is right and he is ready to tell people? Does anyone have any opinions on how long that might be or how long i should wait? I am planning on waiting til i go back to college in august to bring it up again....but I need anothers opinion or view on this....i have not been in this situation but I am trying to respect his wishes and how he feels about things. I know he isnt playing me though. We are long distance and have been for a while he lives two hours from me though but its hard for us to see each other because school, work and having a place for me to stay if i see him. Advice Please?
ADF Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 The trouble with second chances is that they rarely end with both partner happy together from then on. Usually, second chances just start a vicious break-up/make-up/break-up-again cyclce that drags on for years. And in the end, the two people almost never end up together. Sound familiar?
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