SarahRose Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Oh, I HATE when girls post pictures of themselves making the duck/kissy face. For the love of God if you're a woman reading this, never ever post one of those of yourself up on your dating profile... please I hate those too along with the gang signs. What are they 12 years old?
Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 I have to laugh. I just got a message on POF from a guy and he said this: "Thanks for stopping by =) do you think because of my female friends being pictured with me this is threatening to a women?" So, he has 5 pictures, 4 of which are with him and different women. He's obviously gone out of his way to post pictures of himself in this manner because he thinks it ATTRACTS women. I think he actually has a view that confident women will not be phased by his pictures. I don't understand how he doesn't realize how badly it reflects his insecurities!!! It boggles my mind how humans can so seriously misunderstand the nature of the opposite sex. The dude is 42, what is he thinking? Between guys that make this mistake on their profiles, and the one's that post the shirtless cell phone in the bathroom mirror pic.... Post your own rants, responses, pet peeve's, etc. Well, ask your self this. Which is more attractive? The guy whom women are comfortable having their picture taken with him? Or the shirtless/pantless guy with the sideways cap and the "THUG LYFE" tattoo in gothic print on his navel in the bathroom?
SpanksTheMonkey Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Well, Or the shirtless/pantless guy with the sideways cap and the "THUG LYFE" tattoo in gothic print on his navel in the bathroom? Ummmm yeah thats HOT!
SarahRose Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Ok I hate the shirtless pictures, the ones with lots of people in the photo, people cut out of the photo, with lots of women hugging him, ones at some car show where he is having his pic taken with a model or some minor celebrity, lots of drinking, giant fish photos, car, motorcycle, pets, children, tattoos. When I tried dating sites a long time ago, the worst messages where guys just wrote and said Hi and nothing else or just you're hot and nothing else.
SarahRose Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 I hate the ones that list all these activities and their occupation is the type where they work 10 hours a day and wouldn't have the time to do any of those things. Reality is most people get home from work and sit on the sofa.
aerogurl87 Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 (edited) When I was on match, I got this message from this one guy who had no picture of himself to speak of. I had a picture up, but I gave him a chance because his profile was nice and the message he wrote me, meaningful. Well we started emailing each other and I asked to see his picture since he wanted a date in the near future. My little spidey senses were telling me something was off because he kept trying to avoid showing me a picture of himself. Then to add to it, he would only want to give me a description which consisted of "tall, stocky, short hair". Well I got the picture out of him eventually and my suspicions were right. Tall apparently meant average height, stocky meant overweight, and short hair meant balding. Then he said for our date he wanted to take me out in the woods for some alone time since we couldn't go back to his parents' house. Ha! EDIT: I also have a friend who almost always (and we're talking like 98% of the time) has a beer or two in his hand in each picture of himself on facebook. Can you say alcoholic? If I were to see someone on a dating site with something like that, that'd be an instant turn off for me. Edited June 18, 2010 by aerogurl87
White Dove Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 To be honest, I love shirtless pics but only if they were models For online dating, which I never really tried but have gone through a few profiles for the fun of it -- I must say, they make a good reading sometimes, especially when you're having a bad day! Almost all of them are laughable. I read one that says "I'm all yours if you're ready to take your clothes off!"
cdubs32 Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 I had a guy on eHarmony close me out with the reason "pursuing another relationship" or something like that. Basically said he decided to start dating someone else. He messaged me on POF about three days later asking me out. I used the same picture for both sights. How could he NOT remember my profile from eHarmony?!? Delete and block! Honestly, as a guy who has done online dating for almost a year now...you email so many girls just to get SOME responses that you forget who you've emailed and what they look like. I could totally see this happening, and now it makes me wonder if I've done it before myself. I was mulling it over for a while, but last night it hit me as a good reason to give up online dating. I had been using match.com, where in downtown chicago, I'm sure the ratio is like 3 to 1 (men to women). Not only that, but there's thousands of people in a 5 mile radius. Women here have too many options. Some of you ladies speak of emailing guys for the first contact....that NEVER happens to me. I've had my profile critiqued, I feel it's legit, my pictures are good pictures of myself and don't break any of the weird/creepy/douchebag rules. But I'm not brad pitt. I don't have a ton of money, I'm only 5'8" and I'm athletic but a little extra weight (been losing it, down to 190lbs now.) Basically I was getting attached to women after 3 dates, when really 3 dates is nothing. Even these girls would make out with me, introduce me to friends, and still they'd flake out and ignore me due to lack of interest or something. It was very stressful and a major struggle for me. Now that I look back, I realized these women were kinda bitchy and I wouldn't have liked being in a relationship anyway, I overlooked many of their flaws. Why would I do this? Because my response rate on match.com is so god damn low that if a half way decent looking woman who has any personality at all, I give her a chance. And when I go out and have a fun time, I get attached because I know it's so rare to hear back from any girls (due to ratios, my stats, etc) that I decide that I like them early on and don't pay attention to the fact their stuck up bitches who are rude and annoying. I originally joined so I could be more "picky" and go after women I targeted based on interests and personality, and so far I have done the opposite and had to expand my reach to women I wouldn't even like anyway, and in return have treated me disrespecfully (flaky ingoring you rejections) which is just plain rude and not what I'm looking for at all. Sorry for the rant, but yeah, I've sent hundreds of emails out to girls in the last year, I could've easily forgetten that I emailed one before.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 This is a really fun thread. Here's what I've seen: - I mean yeah, girls with other dudes in all their pics is annoying and unattractive, but also some girls have like 12 pictures of themselves at the bar with like 4-5 girls in the picture at once. Sometimes like 8 of the 12 pictures are from the same night at the same bar with the same friends. Weird. - The "I'm super happy with my life right now" girl. Everything to them is perfect, they have the perfect life with perfect friends, family, job, life, etc. I've even met a few of these "my life is perfect right now" girls and at the end of the date I start asking myself if they were trying to convice me or themselves. - The "I've been all over the world" girl who has pictures of them at like every major landmark in the world. That's cool. I like the US so I do fun things here where I know I don't run the risk of being kidnapped or charged with some petty crime that will imprison me for 10-25 years in a prison that doesn't recognize civil rights. - I'm 5'8", I consider myself short, but been told I'm average height. Regardless, it seems I miss the cutoff of 99% of the women on these sites by like 1 or 2 inches. I even see girls who are like 5'1" with requirements for a guy to be 6 ft or taller. I try emailing them anyway if I'm just a few inches shorter as sometimes they don't hold much weight to it as long as I'm a few inches taller than them, but it's still annoying regardless. - Politics. Why oh why would any girl bring up politics in their profile. That's a no-no. Also, I've seen "If you're not liberal, like George Bush, or watch Fox News....please move on and don't contact me". I'm a libertarian, so I hate everyone, but that still turns me off. - "If you're looking for just a one night stand then I'm not the girl for you". As if you felt the need to share with any potential dates that you get tons of requests for sexual encounters cuz you're SOOOOO attractive and so many guys want you. Give me a break. - "Please understand I know what I want and I stated it in my profile, please no old men over 40!" ....or you could just ignore those men over 40 and not say anything about it since it makes you look stupid. - Here's an exact copy paste from a profile I saw yesterday: "I like to go on dates or fun outings to get to know someone. I'm not interested in getting drinks with someone as a first date. I'm a southern girl and I like to be treated right and I don't think any girl deserves less". I actually emailed this girl and asked her what it is that makes her think she deserves a significant amount of my time and money when I have never met her before. Probably shouldn't have done that, but oh well. I'll probably have more if I can think of it for a while. :lmao: You are my new favorite poster. I've never done online dating. I started baarrrely considering it recently. But this thread is certainly reinforcing my resistance to the idea.
Author D-Lish Posted June 19, 2010 Author Posted June 19, 2010 Well, ask your self this. Which is more attractive? The guy whom women are comfortable having their picture taken with him? Or the shirtless/pantless guy with the sideways cap and the "THUG LYFE" tattoo in gothic print on his navel in the bathroom? Neither. Ugh. A guy that feels the need to post pics of himself, on a dating site, with numerous different women has issues....
Engadget Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 :lmao: You are my new favorite poster. I've never done online dating. I started baarrrely considering it recently. But this thread is certainly reinforcing my resistance to the idea. Yup, I considered it, tried a free site and never did it again. I need to see the girl in person from the start, because I'm good at reading body language, vocal inflection and things of that nature. I can't do that on online dating, and video chatting isn't the same.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 Yup, I considered it, tried a free site and never did it again. The free sites kind of scare me. I think if I did it, I would go for one of the higher-quality ones, like eHarmony. There are many reasons I resist, and one of them is that I'm romantic and pretty old-fashioned when it comes to love, and I would not like to "meet my sweetheart on eHarmony". That's the story we'd tell our kids?
kimflute26 Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 (edited) Don't totally give up on free sites. I had a 3-month relationship that resulted from OKCupid, and i've recently been seeing a great guy I met off POF after having no luck there for a loonnngggg time. Sometimes there are little diamonds in the rough. Edited June 19, 2010 by kimflute26
SpanksTheMonkey Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 Don't totally give up on free sites. I had a 3-month relationship that resulted from OKCupid, and i've recently been seeing a great guy I met off POF after having no luck there for a loonnngggg time. Sometimes there are little diamonds in the rough. I would prob equate it more to finding a diamond chip some were in the Shara desert but hey to each his own lol Glad it worked for you I guess some do get luckey
ecto-1 Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 How about those angle shots or where fat people try the hide the fact they're fat by cropping out parts of their photo 1. The WAY UP CLOSE to the face, and crop out the double chin photo 2. Head shots only 3. Shots of the person adorably sticking their head or part of their body from out behind a large oak tree or door entry way 4. Pic of them crouching down behind a pet or kid.
ecto-1 Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 - I'm 5'8", I consider myself short, but been told I'm average height. Regardless, it seems I miss the cutoff of 99% of the women on these sites by like 1 or 2 inches. I even see girls who are like 5'1" with requirements for a guy to be 6 ft or taller. I try emailing them anyway if I'm just a few inches shorter as sometimes they don't hold much weight to it as long as I'm a few inches taller than them, but it's still annoying regardless. Don't forget the short girl with the, "He must be 6 feet tall, because I wear heals. I'm 5'5", so I don't like towering over my date in heels" Yes, some women DO consider their high heels as part of their REAL height!
homersheineken Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 The free sites kind of scare me. I think if I did it, I would go for one of the higher-quality ones, like eHarmony. There are many reasons I resist, and one of them is that I'm romantic and pretty old-fashioned when it comes to love, and I would not like to "meet my sweetheart on eHarmony". That's the story we'd tell our kids? Just because you're paying for it, doesn't mean it's quality or even better...
iammolly Posted June 19, 2010 Posted June 19, 2010 what i find to be a huge turn off are the guys who use the cell phone in the mirror reflection for their profile pics....particularly with their shirt off and a toilet in the background.... seriously.
newdawn Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Yeah, the ab pics are not my favorite. I'd like to know more about what you have going on in your mind, and it's nice to see your face clearly. But, to each their own. LS is great for learning and support, not used by me for a dating site. But again, to each their own...
ecto-1 Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Dating is party about getting attention. All of these 'off putting profiles' not only are being read, but discussed. They are successful far more often than most want to admit. Could you please elaborate?
ecto-1 Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Sounds to me like you have a pretty long laundry list yourself.... Not sure what you mean, I'm showing her laundry list, not my own. Anyhow, back to these laundry lists these womens have, where they have no wiggle room or won't budge on the most superficial of criteria ( the no drugs and no booze is a given, duh...) but, they seem to sound more demanding and don't seem to be the kind of person you'd be able to get a long with in a regular conversation, that's the kind of impression they give. They sound ticked off when they wrote the ad, so who knows what they'd be like if you date them, you know? lol
CLC2008 Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 Sounds to me like you have a pretty long laundry list yourself.... Word.....
Sivok Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I saw a profile of a girl who posted pictures of her and her cats, and then stated 'I have a cat tat on my stomach because I love cats'...
alexlakeman Posted June 27, 2010 Posted June 27, 2010 Wow, alot of experts on here, so why dont you cut / past "your" profile, if you have one, so the rest of us newbs can see what a properly executed profile is . Just because you're paying for it, doesn't mean it's quality or even better... Someone is more bound to be bs'ing and wasting time if it's free vs. if they have to pay, common sense..
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