Ruby Slippers Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Hahah, no worries. I think I'll change it back now! Nooooo. Your icon was one of the bright spots of LS. Put it back!
tigressA Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Nooooo. Your icon was one of the bright spots of LS. Put it back! Yes pleeeease!
WintersNightTraveler Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Right, and it's this association that places even the good catches in with the douchebag crowd simply by using a shirtless picture. It's the power of stereotyping in today's society...and I'm simply not convinced that the good guys can overcome that stereotype... Yes but... I dont know. Say I'm a hot number who gets a message from a guy with decent pics and also some guy who sounds similar in his profile but also looks great in his Adam costume. I have a hard time seeing how it would be a detriment, seems like it would be a tie breaker on who to actually have coffee with, which could explain the numerical trend. The real weakness in the OKC analysis is that they probably didn't (perhaps couldn't) adjust for the self selection aspect of their sample. In other words, none of the Johnny Potbellies who don't exercise and may be less confident posted shirtless pics (and thus were absent from their sample), but many of the Joe Six-Packs who are real go getters posted them (and were thus in their shirtless sample). Making it a weak correlation rather than a cause. Now I'm turning this into one of those recent math threads. Bleh.
WintersNightTraveler Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Nooooo. Your icon was one of the bright spots of LS. Put it back! Yes pleeeease! LOL Hokie, change your avatar to a fat guy. Or better yet some movie franchise character. That's what all the cool kids do. I've met maybe 6 possible's in 10-15 messages a day, in about 5 years. Wow, that's a lot of weeding. I'm thinking Tigressa's onto something. If I did do it, it'd be time based...so I'd have my normal picture up for a month or so, then switch it over for the next month to shirtless douche pic... I'm not sure a month layover is enough to make up for whatever advantage skew the first of the two profiles would have. I'm pretty sure OKC directs more traffic (via the search and "you might like" features) to newer profiles in order to keep new member loyalty high. Also any woman who sees the first profile may recognize you in the second iteration. All my tattoos are hidden beneath a t-shirt... I was like that for a while but nowadays only dress shirts do the trick. So it's just a (mixed blessing) conversation starter rather than a surprise. In a non dating way, it's funny to have known people for years at the office (where I always wore dress shirts) and then they see me at a bar or something and are like, "whaaa?"
Author D-Lish Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 Yes but... I dont know. Say I'm a hot number who gets a message from a guy with decent pics and also some guy who sounds similar in his profile but also looks great in his Adam costume. I have a hard time seeing how it would be a detriment, seems like it would be a tie breaker on who to actually have coffee with, which could explain the numerical trend. The real weakness in the OKC analysis is that they probably didn't (perhaps couldn't) adjust for the self selection aspect of their sample. In other words, none of the Johnny Potbellies who don't exercise and may be less confident posted shirtless pics (and thus were absent from their sample), but many of the Joe Six-Packs who are real go getters posted them (and were thus in their shirtless sample). Making it a weak correlation rather than a cause. Now I'm turning this into one of those recent math threads. Bleh. You think that only "Mr six-pack-Jack" posts a shirtless pic? Jaysus, Fatty Mc-Gross pants has no issues posting his pouch. Guys post their gross parts all the time.
WintersNightTraveler Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 You think that only "Mr six-pack-Jack" posts a shirtless pic? Jaysus, Fatty Mc-Gross pants has no issues posting his pouch. Guys post their gross parts all the time. LOLOLOL ok fair enough I had no idea. My over analysis doesn't extend to researching my competition's pics I guess. The OKC article seemed to highlight lots of Joey6s and few Fatty McGees so I wasn't thinking about that. And actually they may have done some sample skew correction, it's been a while since I read it.
USMCHokie Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Nooooo. Your icon was one of the bright spots of LS. Put it back! Yes pleeeease! Heheh, I just can't seem to win with you all! Avatar will be returning to it's normally scheduled programming...and thanks for the kind words.
USMCHokie Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 I'm not sure a month layover is enough to make up for whatever advantage skew the first of the two profiles would have. I'm pretty sure OKC directs more traffic (via the search and "you might like" features) to newer profiles in order to keep new member loyalty high. Also any woman who sees the first profile may recognize you in the second iteration. These are good points. But right now I'm seeing a pretty cool girl, so I'm going to hold off on the little social experiment... I was like that for a while but nowadays only dress shirts do the trick. So it's just a (mixed blessing) conversation starter rather than a surprise. In a non dating way, it's funny to have known people for years at the office (where I always wore dress shirts) and then they see me at a bar or something and are like, "whaaa?" Yea, I get that reaction too...especially from people in the past who I haven't seen in many years...I have tattoos on my upper arms that peak out just ever so slightly from my tshirt sleeve, so people will ask about them...
Engadget Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Women hung up on their exes tend to leave pictures up on social networking sites of them and their ex boyfriends. This is incredibly obnoxious. I don't have a single picture up of me and a girl I dated.
cdubs32 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 In my history of on-line dating I have never reached out once. 5 Years maybe- and I've never sent a message to a guy first... Doesn't surprise me one bit, I never get messages in my 1 year of online dating. Maybe once every 3 months from a scary person. You really should try it one of these days. It gives me an upper hand over all those other chicks out there, that's for sure. An attractive, funny AND assertive woman who knows what (who) she wants? That's a huge turn-on for a lot of guys. I've had dates/hooked up with some hotties who really had their **** together. And I messaged them first. Agreed. I'm an average looking guy, I think I'm fairly attractive to certain women, but I'm no brad pitt either and I rarely ever get first messages. I can tell you right now if some woman took the time to write me first, if I was at ALL interested in her, my perception of her would be in a much better light early on for doing so. I've met maybe 6 possible's in 10-15 messages a day, in about 5 years. Scary. It's one thing to stay true to yourself and not settle for someone you don't have anything but high interest in. But this suggests you're either attracting the wrong type of men or your standards are just too elaborate. Either try opening your mind or being more assertive to reach out to men YOU find appealing instead of stting back and waiting for one to enter your life. Try entering theirs first. As I said poor guy... Agreed. With all due respect I'd never go for somebody that picky. I second this motion.
ecto-1 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 How about women who point the camera down toward their cleavage or pointing it at a body part? Or women hangin' on other men in their photos ( men do this too as well)
cdubs32 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 This is a really fun thread. Here's what I've seen: - I mean yeah, girls with other dudes in all their pics is annoying and unattractive, but also some girls have like 12 pictures of themselves at the bar with like 4-5 girls in the picture at once. Sometimes like 8 of the 12 pictures are from the same night at the same bar with the same friends. Weird. - The "I'm super happy with my life right now" girl. Everything to them is perfect, they have the perfect life with perfect friends, family, job, life, etc. I've even met a few of these "my life is perfect right now" girls and at the end of the date I start asking myself if they were trying to convice me or themselves. - The "I've been all over the world" girl who has pictures of them at like every major landmark in the world. That's cool. I like the US so I do fun things here where I know I don't run the risk of being kidnapped or charged with some petty crime that will imprison me for 10-25 years in a prison that doesn't recognize civil rights. - I'm 5'8", I consider myself short, but been told I'm average height. Regardless, it seems I miss the cutoff of 99% of the women on these sites by like 1 or 2 inches. I even see girls who are like 5'1" with requirements for a guy to be 6 ft or taller. I try emailing them anyway if I'm just a few inches shorter as sometimes they don't hold much weight to it as long as I'm a few inches taller than them, but it's still annoying regardless. - Politics. Why oh why would any girl bring up politics in their profile. That's a no-no. Also, I've seen "If you're not liberal, like George Bush, or watch Fox News....please move on and don't contact me". I'm a libertarian, so I hate everyone, but that still turns me off. - "If you're looking for just a one night stand then I'm not the girl for you". As if you felt the need to share with any potential dates that you get tons of requests for sexual encounters cuz you're SOOOOO attractive and so many guys want you. Give me a break. - "Please understand I know what I want and I stated it in my profile, please no old men over 40!" ....or you could just ignore those men over 40 and not say anything about it since it makes you look stupid. - Here's an exact copy paste from a profile I saw yesterday: "I like to go on dates or fun outings to get to know someone. I'm not interested in getting drinks with someone as a first date. I'm a southern girl and I like to be treated right and I don't think any girl deserves less". I actually emailed this girl and asked her what it is that makes her think she deserves a significant amount of my time and money when I have never met her before. Probably shouldn't have done that, but oh well. I'll probably have more if I can think of it for a while.
sumdude Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Then of course there are the outright lairs. I have a friend IRL who's dating profile I happened to see says Smoke - No Way and expects the same from her date. Last time I hung out with her she asked me if I still smoked. I said yeah, so she said let's go outside and pulled a pack of Marlboro's out of her purse. LOL
ecto-1 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Or how bout the most common "I like new adventures" or "I like to laugh" or "I love to laugh" or "I'm looking for a guy that can make me laugh" or "If you can make me laugh, you're IN!" lol
cdubs32 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 "My friends and family are really important to me, I'd do anything for them and I care about them a lot" Really? Thanks for sharing that you care about your family. If you didn't care about your own blood then obviously something is wrong with you. Are you going to share to me that you know how to count to 100? How about do you know all the letters in the alphabet?
ecto-1 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 (edited) Oh man, this is PATHETIC. LOL Some woman is "blogging" updates about her love/dating life Here I'll post what she said here...she's on POF: I met a really nice guy on POF. I have enjoyed his company and passion and feelings for me. Will it work? Is the distance too far? Will the kids approve of me? Is it all just a game and I am looking through rose colored glasses. Kisses to you Rob. Update.....It appears I had messed up and I was misled. Oh well, it won't be the first time and I am sure it won't be the last either. Update #2.....Rob was NOT the one for me. There are liars and misleaders out there but don't give up. While being mislead and not called or talked to by Rob, I was contacted by a real nice guy on here. He helped to pull the wool from my eyes and to realize that my gut feeling that someone was being untrue was correct. He finds plenty of time to see me, he can take the time out of his work day to just call and say hello or send me a text to bring me a smile. George possesses just about everything I am looking for in a relationship and a friendship. He is someone I can see myself spending a long time with. Update #3.....I loved George but he didn't love me. I could have him for my best friend forever but the feelings just weren't mutual. I can give and give and give and be taken advantage of way too easily. Not sure what my next step will be. Makes me wonder if I am happier just being single and sleeping next to the cats. My heart is starting to kick my ass. Talk about lame! LOL And...no joke she has a "PICK ME" T-shirt in her profile pic. LOL!! Edited June 17, 2010 by ecto-1
cdubs32 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Oh man, this is PATHETIC. LOL Some woman is "blogging" updates about her love/dating life Here I'll post what she said here...she's on POF: I met a really nice guy on POF. I have enjoyed his company and passion and feelings for me. Will it work? Is the distance too far? Will the kids approve of me? Is it all just a game and I am looking through rose colored glasses. Kisses to you Rob. Update.....It appears I had messed up and I was misled. Oh well, it won't be the first time and I am sure it won't be the last either. Update #2.....Rob was NOT the one for me. There are liars and misleaders out there but don't give up. While being mislead and not called or talked to by Rob, I was contacted by a real nice guy on here. He helped to pull the wool from my eyes and to realize that my gut feeling that someone was being untrue was correct. He finds plenty of time to see me, he can take the time out of his work day to just call and say hello or send me a text to bring me a smile. George possesses just about everything I am looking for in a relationship and a friendship. He is someone I can see myself spending a long time with. Update #3.....I loved George but he didn't love me. I could have him for my best friend forever but the feelings just weren't mutual. I can give and give and give and be taken advantage of way too easily. Not sure what my next step will be. Makes me wonder if I am happier just being single and sleeping next to the cats. My heart is starting to kick my ass. Talk about lame! LOL And...no joke she has a "PICK ME" T-shirt in her profile pic. LOL!! Link the blog!!!!
ecto-1 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Or...."Where can I find my Prince Charming" or any varation thereof...and even worse...the woman is approaching 40 and saying this. :D
Crazy Magnet Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Nooooo. Your icon was one of the bright spots of LS. Put it back! Yes yes put it baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!
USMCHokie Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Yes yes put it baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack! Done...
Crazy Magnet Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Are you still with any of them? I guess technically my BF started communication. We met on eHarmony so we had no choice but to go back and forth in the designated order of things, but I was most certainly the one who asked him to meet up right away in my first email to him. It's one of the best, probably THE best relationship I've ever had. Get out there and find someone you want and go get them. I'm not afraid to go after a guy in real life or online. Who says men have to always be the one to initiate? My best dates from online were the ones where I initiated contact. I got too many wacko's that I had nothing in common with emailing me when I left it up to the guys only. Awful online dating profile line: Question: Tell something only your good friends know about you. Answer: (a variation of) you'll have to become a good friend to find out or that's why they are my good friends Gee, thanks for the extra info. Are you so boring that you can't actually think up anything clever to put there or what?
SpanksTheMonkey Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Back when I was looking around on line I never used POF much to me you get what you pay for in this life most of the time. Not that the paying site was that much greater but at least it weeded out a few of the time wasters/wackos I had found on free sites..
Crazy Magnet Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Back when I was looking around on line I never used POF much to me you get what you pay for in this life most of the time. Not that the paying site was that much greater but at least it weeded out a few of the time wasters/wackos I had found on free sites.. I had a guy on eHarmony close me out with the reason "pursuing another relationship" or something like that. Basically said he decided to start dating someone else. He messaged me on POF about three days later asking me out. I used the same picture for both sights. How could he NOT remember my profile from eHarmony?!? Delete and block!
SpanksTheMonkey Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 Or how bout the most common "I like new adventures" or "I like to laugh" or "I love to laugh" or "I'm looking for a guy that can make me laugh" or "If you can make me laugh, you're IN!" lol You left out my personal favorite "I like long walks on the beach" got to love the classics! there must be a fairly crowded beach out there some weres by now
SpanksTheMonkey Posted June 18, 2010 Posted June 18, 2010 I had a guy on eHarmony close me out with the reason "pursuing another relationship" or something like that. Basically said he decided to start dating someone else. He messaged me on POF about three days later asking me out. I used the same picture for both sights. How could he NOT remember my profile from eHarmony?!? Delete and block! Oh my! yeah as I said it weeds out some prob just as well eh? I don't think I would ever look on line again its just to random and open to crap anymore.
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