WintersNightTraveler Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 WNT--I know I would respond to a profile that was hilarious over one that sounded like every other profile posted. My own profile was about 90% funny and 10% serious and I always had tons of messages. Well there's a big difference though - as a woman you don't even really need profile text at all to get messages, a single attractive photo will probably get you tons of messages. Of course quantity is not equal to quality but if we're just talking about getting a lot of responses... But you are definitely right about something that distinguishes itself from every other profile. I think that goes for both genders.
Crazy Magnet Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I did have one picture up on eHarmony with a guy friend in it. I was at an 80's party and I didn't really want to post myself all alone with my completely crimped hair, shirt in one of those horrible bow things on the side, huge plastic jewelry and silvery sparkle leggings. Oh, and the tackiest jean jacket you've ever seen. So I left the guy in who had a red and blue mohawk, eyeliner, and metal band t-shirt on. I'm sure it sent some people running for the hills but I wouldn't want to date someone who wouldn't get dressed up and go to a 80's party with me anyway!
SpanksTheMonkey Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I looked through my facebook at the guys who have shirtless pics of themselves, and the ones who have nice bodies (muscular) have hundreds of comments and women liking their picture. I compare that to guys who just have a normal picture, and even if they're good looking, there is no reaction. The picture with different girls probably works too. Online especially, it shows that you are desirable in person as well as on paper. Save the junk about good vs bad women, the truth is there are a lot of things that are universally attractive. The best ones I ever saw were the wedding ones yep I kid you not nothing says date me like a pre divorce pic I guess
WintersNightTraveler Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 1 - People who call themselves a "walking contradiction". This has to be the second most common opening line on women's profiles, right after any of the variants of "I don't even know why I'm doing this online thing, but [insert hedging self conscious excuse here]..." 2 - Excessively long profiles, especially those with laundry lists of 50 bands/movies/books/foods/whatever that you like. I've actually seen 50 or more many times. If you say you like Nickelback, how much more does it say that also like Creed, Saliva, Seether, Theory of a Deadman, Live and a dozen other such bands? Likewise if you list Poe, Bjork, Sneaker Pimps, and Portishead, all of Dan Brown's novels or half of Hitchcock's movies. This stuff goes on for pages on some profiles. I suppose it could be useful for getting keyword search hits. Bleh.
sigurpol Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Eh, the cropping thing is whatever to me. I've uploaded maybe one or two pictures in my time with myself and a girl in the picture. Like, it's a friendly thing, we're not hanging on each other or anything. I do think that, if there's multiple pictures with the opposite sex.. then okay, pump the brakes a little. But the idea never really crosses my mind that, "Oh this person is like THAT". I just assume they like that picture of them self. So whatever. Besides, I personally think when a picture is cropped, it looks ridiculous. Nothing is in proportion, everything is cut off at weird angles, it just looks silly. Or when people use MS Paint to DRAW over the other faces in the picture. It's not a coloring book.
phineas Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 can someone tell me what is so hard about having a friend just take a picture of you? seriously?
USMCHokie Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 can someone tell me what is so hard about having a friend just take a picture of you? seriously? Or the timer feature...
Sivok Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Oh, I HATE when girls post pictures of themselves making the duck/kissy face. For the love of God if you're a woman reading this, never ever post one of those of yourself up on your dating profile... please
USMCHokie Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Oh, I HATE when girls post pictures of themselves making the duck/kissy face. For the love of God if you're a woman reading this, never ever post one of those of yourself up on your dating profile... please Oooh...this might be the first entry on my list...women who do this do look ridiculous...
txsilkysmoothe Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Sometimes you don't need to go further than reading their chosen username: "sumdick4u" I found this one UNappealing: Go ahead and cancel you membership because you won't need it any longer.....well at least until we get tired of each other and start looking again...LMAO....I'm not looking for a "soul mate"....Can't write all day long and don't really want to....let's have a drink....preferably your treat.. This is just sad: and i dont need someone that likes to hit or push me because thats what happend to my last relationship.
reservoirdog1 Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 One thing's for sure... anybody who uses the phrase "down to earth" to describe the type of person they're looking for should be beaten to death with their own shoes.
Sivok Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 "I'm not like other girls". Yeah, you're 'unique'... Just like everyone else!
Shakz Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Sometimes you don't need to go further than reading their chosen username: "sumdick4u" I found this one UNappealing: Go ahead and cancel you membership because you won't need it any longer.....well at least until we get tired of each other and start looking again...LMAO....I'm not looking for a "soul mate"....Can't write all day long and don't really want to....let's have a drink....preferably your treat.. This is just sad: and i dont need someone that likes to hit or push me because thats what happend to my last relationship. Sumdick4U! That's some dick, alright!
sigurpol Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Sometimes you don't need to go further than reading their chosen username: "sumdick4u" Nothing short of poetry.
Confusedalways Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Oh this is fun. I HATE when people sound ridiculously bitter and/or use it as a forum to complain about women and how they just refuse to message anyone anymore because it's ridiculous that men always have to be the ones to contact the women and so on and so forth. Also high on my list are the following: -"I can't believe I'm doing this but _____." -"How does one describe themselves in a simple paragraph, there's so much more to me than that." -"I don't really know how to describe myself but _____." On OkC there's the question of "6 things you can never live without" --can people NOT list air, water and shelter? I mean, seriously? You're not impressing anyone. Also I can't say I'm exactly impressed with people listing activity partners as one of their reasons for being on the site. No thanks.
Crazy Magnet Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I swear I got a message from sumdick4u or a really close variation of that. It was one of those things where I had to log in and show all my friends that some loser like that actually existed out there in the world. Maybe he's making the LS rounds!
sumdude Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I hate the profiles that are laundry lists of what they don't like. Really makes you want to hang out with them.
Gallaxia Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I hate the profiles that are laundry lists of what they don't like. Really makes you want to hang out with them. THIS! I came across the profile of someone I had actually gone on several dates with a few years before and had decided we were not a good fit at all. He had this crazy long @$$ list and it was very off putting, even in the wording. He sounded crazy bitter. I was LITERALLY shaking my head as I was reading the list. Plus, in addition to his list and having actually gone out with him several times before, I also knew what he also had to offer........... Let's just say it wasn't an even steven thing... And I'll take "mirror cell phone (self-portrait) shots" for $600, Alex.
homersheineken Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I swear I got a message from sumdick4u or a really close variation of that. It was one of those things where I had to log in and show all my friends that some loser like that actually existed out there in the world. Maybe he's making the LS rounds! Yeah, they made me change my username to my current one I agree with what a lot of people say. "I don't like online dating"/"my friend said to try it" - well if you don't like it, I'm not going to try and convince of it AND try to get you to like me... Long lists of "likes" - esp without spaces or paragraphs ... I'm not reading it anyways. Long paragraphs or No paragraphs (empty profile). Long first emails that bring up every point in my profile. Girls with a guy draped all over them in many pics. Anyone who lists Creed as a favorite band.
WintersNightTraveler Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 Also I can't say I'm exactly impressed with people listing activity partners as one of their reasons for being on the site. No thanks. Haha, yes who exactly do these people think they are fooling? I called out a girl on this during the second or third date once, "so how many activity partners have you met on this site?" Was good for a laugh as she knew it was BS even though she listed it. I hate the profiles that are laundry lists of what they don't like. Really makes you want to hang out with them. You're right, this might be worse than the laundry lists of things they do like. All it accomplishes is making these people show up in the results of people who search by a keyword that is something they happen to dislike.
ecto-1 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 I can't stand the constant *ITCH sessions that these women put in their profiles. They have NO shame in showing how bitter and misogynistic they are either. It just REEKS of negativity. It makes me even scared to email her, because I feel she'll just cop an attitude. Actually, one did...but it wasn't in her profile....I emailed her because she had the same kind of obscure cool interests that I do....and I guess I ignored the fact that she was looking for "friends" (yeah right) anyhow, she was too hot to be friends with a guy, but I couldn't get over how much we had in common..we emailed back and forth, and I said, "Well, you sound like my kind of woman" and then she gets pissy with me and says, "Um....you have that you're looking to 'date', im only here for friends" ANd I go, "Oh, well, you know how that can change" and she goes, "NO I'm not looking to sleep with you!!!!!!" And I was thinking "Where'd she get dating from sex??" And I clarified it, and she said, "I wont hold hands with you, kiss you or even let you touch me!!" Then I said, "Woah, you ever consider women then?" LOL and she got peeved and left...figured if she was going to cop an attitude, I'd give it right back. But seriously all I see is this......"I want I want I want I want" or "Me me me me me" or "I'm tired of guys that only one thing" boo hoo wah wah! At the end of the profile, it makes you want to reach the screen and slap the woman!! Or "All I get emails are from short guys or guys who aren't 6 feet tall!!" Or "If you're short, don't email me" or I saw one that said, "You must be 6 feet tall to get on this ride!!" Some of these "Must Haves" are so shallow it's pathetic, like "Must ride Harleys" or "Must not have hair on his butt" or something. LOL
ecto-1 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 (edited) 1 - People who call themselves a "walking contradiction". This has to be the second most common opening line on women's profiles, right after any of the variants of "I don't even know why I'm doing this online thing, but [insert hedging self conscious excuse here]..." 2 - Excessively long profiles, especially those with laundry lists of 50 bands/movies/books/foods/whatever that you like. I've actually seen 50 or more many times. If you say you like Nickelback, how much more does it say that also like Creed, Saliva, Seether, Theory of a Deadman, Live and a dozen other such bands? Likewise if you list Poe, Bjork, Sneaker Pimps, and Portishead, all of Dan Brown's novels or half of Hitchcock's movies. This stuff goes on for pages on some profiles. I suppose it could be useful for getting keyword search hits. Bleh. LOL Yeah, the headliners like that or "Looking for a challenge" or "can you keep up with me" These are red flags meaning, "I"m going to cause you grief and I'm a PIA to date and will annoy the living crap out of you!" LOL "tired of games" "Players Need Not Apply" or "Where are all the nice guys/gentlemen?" Translated, "I like dating players, and I like to play games, and date guys that treat me like dirt, so if you're a nice guy, I'll delete your email" The walking contradiction is a CLASSIC, I know a woman in REAL life that has this.....she's a friggin' nut job in person, she has ADD I think...hyper as hell, too. I happened to email her through POF, saying "Hey,funny meeting you here!" just something funny, joking around...., because I knew her through some friends in real life...and she deleted me off her Facebook friends. LOL Nutjob!! Also....how bout those that say, "My friend made me do this..." or "My friend put this profile up for me" or...and no joke, some woman on Match.com pathetically admitted to having her PERSONAL assistant place her profile ad. LOL!! I think women on dating sites are more self-conscious of their own image, that they're seriously ashamed they had to resort to an online dating site to meet men. Edited June 17, 2010 by ecto-1
FearandLoathing Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 This thread is hilarious I just wanted to comment on the whole shirtless-in-the-bathroom pictures: I'll typically ignore them because to me they seem like guys who are mostly interested in themselves. Like, they know they're hot and they can get anyone they want and to me, that's not attractive. Or they're just really insecure. My ex had tons of these types of pictures and all the girls who commented weren't interested in him as a person - just him in bed or showing him off. And he loved the attention, of course Just like, if I were a guy, I'd probably ignore the girls with their boobs out and doing sexy poses and all that. Maybe I'm just too serious for dating sites!
Author D-Lish Posted June 17, 2010 Author Posted June 17, 2010 That is hilarious! I sometimes wonder if there is any hope for guys like that. Did you respond? I just recently received a message on a dating site that i'm on that said, "Hey QT, you tryna goin out n get sum coffee sumtime? Hit me bak." Nothing hotter than a guy who can't spell and can't put a sentence together. I didn't respond, everything about his profile screamed "douche". I took one look at his pic's and was totally turned off. He's 42- one of the pics was with him in a bar setting sweating with his arm around a girl that looked young enough to be his daughter. I had no clue how to respond to a 42 year old guy that thought his pics were going to score him a date! No hope for a guy like him Erica! And there I was about a few weeks ago, in MS Paint, taking time to cut out a girl in one of my pictures. He should know that most girls hate this. Besides, I don't know why anyone posts pics on a dating site with other people in it. We don't wanna see them, we wanna see YOU. Not to mention if its a main profile pic, then it just makes it confusing on which one is you. You should cut them out of your pics RJ, it's not attractive to see a potential date with their ex... I read that same article on OKCupid...but I also read a couple of epic LS threads about what women really thought of guys who posted shirtless pics on their online dating profiles...and I know LS can hardly be called an accurate representation of society, but I have serious doubts as to the effectiveness of the male shirtless pic for online dating... It seems all that it would do is repel the good women and attract the bad ones...but that is merely my speculation... It's a turn off. If it's on the beach, it's acceptable, but if it's a shirtless pic in the mirror- it's a big turn off!
marsle85 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Most common opener: "I'm a really laid back kinda guy"... NOT TRUE!!
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