D-Lish Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I have to laugh. I just got a message on POF from a guy and he said this: "Thanks for stopping by =) do you think because of my female friends being pictured with me this is threatening to a women?" So, he has 5 pictures, 4 of which are with him and different women. He's obviously gone out of his way to post pictures of himself in this manner because he thinks it ATTRACTS women. I think he actually has a view that confident women will not be phased by his pictures. I don't understand how he doesn't realize how badly it reflects his insecurities!!! It boggles my mind how humans can so seriously misunderstand the nature of the opposite sex. The dude is 42, what is he thinking? Between guys that make this mistake on their profiles, and the one's that post the shirtless cell phone in the bathroom mirror pic.... Post your own rants, responses, pet peeve's, etc.
EricaH329 Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 That is hilarious! I sometimes wonder if there is any hope for guys like that. Did you respond? I just recently received a message on a dating site that i'm on that said, "Hey QT, you tryna goin out n get sum coffee sumtime? Hit me bak." Nothing hotter than a guy who can't spell and can't put a sentence together.
xRJ85x Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I have to laugh. I just got a message on POF from a guy and he said this: "Thanks for stopping by =) do you think because of my female friends being pictured with me this is threatening to a women?" So, he has 5 pictures, 4 of which are with him and different women. He's obviously gone out of his way to post pictures of himself in this manner because he thinks it ATTRACTS women. I think he actually has a view that confident women will not be phased by his pictures. I don't understand how he doesn't realize how badly it reflects his insecurities!!! It boggles my mind how humans can so seriously misunderstand the nature of the opposite sex. The dude is 42, what is he thinking? Between guys that make this mistake on their profiles, and the one's that post the shirtless cell phone in the bathroom mirror pic.... Post your own rants, responses, pet peeve's, etc. And there I was about a few weeks ago, in MS Paint, taking time to cut out a girl in one of my pictures. He should know that most girls hate this. Besides, I don't know why anyone posts pics on a dating site with other people in it. We don't wanna see them, we wanna see YOU. Not to mention if its a main profile pic, then it just makes it confusing on which one is you.
kdark Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I remeber reading an article on OKCupid about response rates for the different types of pictures people had in their profile, and the likelihood of getting a response depending on which kind you had. According to this article, for guys, the picture that got the most responses was when the guy had one of those "shirtless abs" pictures as his main one. Girls got the most responses from those cheesy myspace pictures in front of the mirror. I was surprised, the OKCupid people said they were surprised, as well. If I could find the article, I would link it, but sadly their isn't an app for that yet...
pantherj Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I remeber reading an article on OKCupid about response rates for the different types of pictures people had in their profile, and the likelihood of getting a response depending on which kind you had. According to this article, for guys, the picture that got the most responses was when the guy had one of those "shirtless abs" pictures as his main one. Girls got the most responses from those cheesy myspace pictures in front of the mirror. I was surprised, the OKCupid people said they were surprised, as well. If I could find the article, I would link it, but sadly their isn't an app for that yet... One of my best friends found his wife by posting a pic like that. Guys post those pics because they work.
USMCHokie Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 One of my best friends found his wife by posting a pic like that. Guys post those pics because they work. I read that same article on OKCupid...but I also read a couple of epic LS threads about what women really thought of guys who posted shirtless pics on their online dating profiles...and I know LS can hardly be called an accurate representation of society, but I have serious doubts as to the effectiveness of the male shirtless pic for online dating... It seems all that it would do is repel the good women and attract the bad ones...but that is merely my speculation...
xRJ85x Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I read that same article on OKCupid...but I also read a couple of epic LS threads about what women really thought of guys who posted shirtless pics on their online dating profiles...and I know LS can hardly be called an accurate representation of society, but I have serious doubts as to the effectiveness of the male shirtless pic for online dating... It seems all that it would do is repel the good women and attract the bad ones...but that is merely my speculation... Generally it does I think. It's not that different from the meathead that screams in a packed gym. It shows arrogance, and therefore, insecurity. Girls can tell your build well if you're wearing the right clothes.
pantherj Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I read that same article on OKCupid...but I also read a couple of epic LS threads about what women really thought of guys who posted shirtless pics on their online dating profiles...and I know LS can hardly be called an accurate representation of society, but I have serious doubts as to the effectiveness of the male shirtless pic for online dating... It seems all that it would do is repel the good women and attract the bad ones...but that is merely my speculation... Is that a shirtless pic of you in your avatar?
USMCHokie Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Is that a shirtless pic of you in your avatar? Hahah, it is. But don't worry, I don't use LS as an online dating site.
pantherj Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Hahah, it is. But don't worry, I don't use LS as an online dating site. Yeah the girls here would hate you if you did.
xRJ85x Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 hahaha It's more of an artsy pic. A far cry from Jersey Shore.
USMCHokie Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Yeah the girls here would hate you if you did. Hahah, duly noted. hahaha It's more of an artsy pic. A far cry from Jersey Shore. Hahah, well thanks...I think doing it in black and white was the trick... But back on topic, I don't really have any pet peeves for women's online dating profiles...but sometimes I wish they would post their race preferences, if they had any...it would save me a ton of time...
xRJ85x Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 My pet peeve, especially for girls I find attractive, is when I click on their profile, their "About Me" section says "Hmmm....ummm....well....I'm not really good at writing about myself...soooo.....I like dogs and going out for drinks and going to the movies with my friends! Maybe more to come later!" This tells me that you're some combination of these things: A) Not interesting B) Have no personality C) Lazy D) Zero creativity How am I supposed to find out if we have anything in common if you don't list anything about yourself?
sigurpol Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Hahaha, these are always good. But apart of me always feels sorry for those people. I wish I saved it, but I canceled my account recently.. someone on OKC sent me, literally, almost a three-page-long message. Just touching on what I mentioned about myself and then going into how she relates, and what I might think of that. There weren't any pictures of her, but If i wanted one, to email her a request. I wasn't falling for that trap. I never really received a lot of nutty emails (one person did use me as a last-ditch attempt by giving me her number, and saying, "I'm canceling my account today, but text me sometime"), but I had to laugh at one profile... Basically, when asked what her future plans were in life, she listed: "Well I'm in school right now for biology, but I'm planning to go to med school. Hopefully moving to France, working in real estate there and owning my own bakery after settling in." Talk about shooting for the moon.
sigurpol Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 My pet peeve, especially for girls I find attractive, is when I click on their profile, their "About Me" section says "Hmmm....ummm....well....I'm not really good at writing about myself...soooo.....I like dogs and going out for drinks and going to the movies with my friends! Maybe more to come later!" This tells me that you're some combination of these things: A) Not interesting B) Have no personality C) Lazy D) Zero creativity How am I supposed to find out if we have anything in common if you don't list anything about yourself? Hahaha, yea, I love those too. Or, "Interests: Having a good time, friends, movies, laughing!" Oh, really? I thought you might enjoy being bored like the rest of us.
xRJ85x Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I looked through my facebook at the guys who have shirtless pics of themselves, and the ones who have nice bodies (muscular) have hundreds of comments and women liking their picture. I compare that to guys who just have a normal picture, and even if they're good looking, there is no reaction. The picture with different girls probably works too. Online especially, it shows that you are desirable in person as well as on paper. Save the junk about good vs bad women, the truth is there are a lot of things that are universally attractive. As we were saying though, you gotta think of the girls who are commenting on those pics. I'm a classy guy, and I'm sure you are as well. I dunno about you, but I don't go posting "nice ass" or "nice rack" all over Facebook or online dating sites. The only time I would do that is if I'm joking with a girl who's a friend, and it would be just that: a joke.
WintersNightTraveler Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 (edited) I remeber reading an article on OKCupid about response rates for the different types of pictures people had in their profile, and the likelihood of getting a response depending on which kind you had. [...] I was surprised, the OKCupid people said they were surprised, as well. If I could find the article, I would link it, but sadly their isn't an app for that yet... http://blog.okcupid.com/ A ton of good articles on there. A week or two before I left OKC, I tried an experiment. I put up a profile of myself that was absolutely ridiculous. My profile picture was me riding shirtless through the ocean on a horse, and the profile text was all about how I single handedly saved America from Mongol invaders and how I raised baby Jaguars by hand and such. That profile got a lot more views and messages than my normal one, which had (what I thought were) good pics and intelligent, thoughful text about myself. My ancedotal conclusion was that a fast bit of humor and pretty pictures are going to get you farther than the typical approach. Obviously it's not a very controlled experiment, and I didn't try writing people from this profile, just was seeing which one got more attention. So perhaps it would not have been effective that way, and of course as a guy, it's the response to your initial messages that matters more than initial messages you get. To the OP, yes it seems really silly to me to when people post a bunch of pictures with themselves and exes or opposite sex friends. Just... why? Why do that? Edited June 15, 2010 by WintersNightTraveler
tigressA Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 http://blog.okcupid.com/ A ton of good articles on there. A week or two before I left OKC, I tried an experiment. I put up a profile of myself that was absolutely ridiculous. My profile picture was me riding shirtless through the ocean on a horse, and the profile text was all about how I single handedly saved America from Mongol invaders and how I raised baby Jaguars by hand and such. That profile got a lot more views and messages than my normal one, which had (what I thought were) good pics and intelligent, thoughful text about myself. I tried something like that a few months ago; I'd disabled my profile and then came back. I completely changed it, not including as much detail about myself/my interests, adding a lot of sarcastic humor, and a couple pictures of me in plays I was in. My inbox was pretty regularly inundated with guys telling me how funny and interesting I am ("So refreshing to see an attractive girl who also has a brain!" was one). Not that I didn't get messages before, just that a lot more of them were like "Hey sexy" and such, not really commenting on anything beyond my pictures. Having a sense of humor really grabs guys' attention, I've noticed. I also can't stand shirtless/mirror pics. Very annoying. I came across, through a message that was sent to me, this profile of a super-misogynistic creep who was a hardcore gym rat; his body was disgustingly buff. He was going on and on in his profile about how most women are "lying, cheating whores" and even worse things. It was really gross.
Sivok Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 The worst is when the person isn't who they portray themselves to be. There have been numerous occasions where I talk to a girl with angle pictures, get her facebook, and then immediately reach for my harpoon. Lying about age and body type is infuriating to me.
WintersNightTraveler Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Having a sense of humor really grabs guys' attention, I've noticed. You don't know the half of it! This might be the number one thing I look for. It's certainly the hardest to find.
tigressA Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 The worst is when the person isn't who they portray themselves to be. There have been numerous occasions where I talk to a girl with angle pictures, get her facebook, and then immediately reach for my harpoon. Lying about age and body type is infuriating to me. Oh god, yeah that happens all the time with guys too. Guys who will only post headshots of themselves, or pictures that are blurred/pixelated and refer to themselves as "average". I tend to stay away from the profiles that list "average" as their body type because more often than not it means they're overweight. Then again, overweight is the average here in the U.S. at least...
Arasae Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 My personal pet peeve are the stock messages guys send out in mass quantities.They're the, "Hi, how are you? We have a lot in common. Since I've read your profile, I'm going to ramble about myself. Okay, if you're interested, shoot me an e-mail!" I hate hate HATE guys who 1) don't read my profile and 2) aren't driven enough to actually write a thoughtful e-mail. You know, because I couldn't read their profile or anything if they had. Go figure. Haha, OkC.. I love that website. ^_^ Anyway..
Mimolicious Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 ROTFLMAO about this thread. LMAO! The bathroom pic- screams JERSEY SHORE- GTL- FIST PUMPING Afficionado. LMAO! So retarded! I am not hating on people who take care of their body but to that extreme, means that you have no life but the gym. The pics with chicks- NEXT! There is a wonderful little tool called "Crop" use it, it's your friend. If you like the picture that much then cut the rest of the faces out. First, I am sure that they are not aware of you posting their face in a dating site. Second, why would I want to see how much of a "ladies man" you are. What I really wonder is if these members are really reading your profiles?! They probably "Copy and Paste" the same ish to every one they want to hit up. Username- Why the FACK would I want to reply back to a person that their dating site name is slong4uallnight or GigoloMike??? Says a lot about the person. I just dont get it?! Then they complaint that their love life is boring.
Crazy Magnet Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 sometimes I miss online dating just for the stories I would have to tell my friends. ha! WNT--I know I would respond to a profile that was hilarious over one that sounded like every other profile posted. My own profile was about 90% funny and 10% serious and I always had tons of messages. As for shirtless pics....Yikes! To me they are big flashing signs that say "run away!" but that's just me.
phineas Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Mid to late 30's women that claim their looking for a serious relationship but the rest of their profile screams party girl. And women that purposefully show off their clevage. no thanks.
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