Melrapuo Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I had a dream about my ex last night. Nothing really major; she is over my house at a party I was having (which never happened in real life) and she was very friendly towards me. I was hesitant to talk to her, but it was only just that - some light talking. No making out, no love-related things. Just that. And my current gf was in the dream too. My ex and I broke up almost two years ago. The break up was in no way, shape or form pretty. It tore me apart. On her end, it didn't seem like much, because (as I've read on this site) most things exes say and do are mostly insincere. She did lots of crying, told me how she was so confused. But whenever I brought up the idea of reconciliation, she never agreed. My ex left me for another guy, and it just tore me apart emotionally. I don't think I've fully recovered personality-wise. However, I've been in a new relationship for a year and a half. I love the girl that I'm with. But there are still moments when I get reminded of how awful my last break up was and any memories of my ex make me feel very pained and sad. Granted, I don't think about these things very often at all. In fact, the amount of times that such feelings to come up is much more scarce than a couple years ago. But when moments like dreams of my ex happen, I wake up the next morning feeling like I did two years ago, and it kind of ruins my day. My question is how long am I still gonna be pained by such things? I do truly love my current girlfriend. I don't really think of my ex that much. It just frustrates me that moments in the past can still have a dramatic effect on me. I spent a lot of time recovering from the last break up, and it just seems like time isn't going fast enough in terms of recovery. Am I alone in this?
USMCHokie Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Yes, it still pains me sometimes...and I think it will continue to hurt until I find someone new who I will feel the same or more strongly about than my ex...
Feelin Frisky Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 There's no controlling dreams. It's a marvelous thing that they happen--even if they're sometimes scary or bad. I stopped smoking in 1986. I still have cigarette dreams in which I feel terribly guilty and wonder how and when I let this stinking habit back into my life. Of course I wake up thrilled that it was just a dream. Bottom line? One can have dreams in which one meets former realities--especially ones that were compelling. Just let it go--it's meaningless.
Heatemyheart89 Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 i dream about my ex almost every night been split up nearly a year( thats weird i know) but the pain has got less and less. Its just a dream i dream about lots of other people and dont care. Its time for you to let go now.
Patrice Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Funny, I had a dream last night about my ex-husband ... divorced since March, left him last March. It was a strange dream where we were engaged in sexual activity and he wiped something on my arm and rubbed it in ... not sure what that was about. Then proceeded to have another dream where some kind of wild cat or a coyote was trying to get to me ... I screamed at it to get away and it left. Let the dreams come as they will, the figuring out what they mean is the hard part.
TheLittleCircle Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 Hatemyheart89, I think a lot of people go through dreaming about their ex. I thought I was the only one to have dreams about their ex, even though it is almost a year since our break up, but apparently you're going through it, too. So, I guess it's completely normal. I like to see my ex as just a friend that I'm dreaming about. After all, it's completely normal to dream about friends.
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted June 16, 2010 Posted June 16, 2010 im still in pain also, it hasnt ben that long almost 5 months since the break up we tried being friends a month ago but didnt work out. he has too much in his messed up life for me to stay "friends" with him. Nothing has changed with him and i wasnt trying to deal with the same thing i was dealing with when i was with him. i still have dreams of him also, some that we were toguether and some where were fighting and were not toguether and hes still messing around with other girls while trying to get back with me. I really wish i could stop dreaming of him and if he could just disapear out of my life and my dreams lol. *sigh* so youre not alone it happens to all of us. They say "A dream is a succession of images, thoughts, sounds, or emotions which pass through the mind during sleep". stop thinking about your x and then you wont dream of them anymore...lol yeah easier said than done i know lol
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