Kitten.Pie Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I just started seeing a new guy; we had our first date yesterday. Actually, I say it was the first 2 dates rolled into one. We were texting for a while after we first met, then finally got to go on a date one night. We had coffee, hung out, then I decided to go with him a bit out of town for a party(he was asking me to go before, but I didn't want to decide until we hung out again). The night went great, the next day we hung out with his friends and had a pretty good day, and then went back home. All in all I thought it went very well. I got to learn about him (we have quite a bit in common), we even held hands and such. We kissed, but only a cute peck(he is a gentleman). He seemed to like me, and I like him. And now, it's the next day. He told me to text him when he dropped me off. I want to, but I am holding back tonight. I am wondering if I should wait until he texts me? He was always the one to text me before. If I do text him, I don't think I will until tomorrow night. Or should I wait longer? I enjoyed spending time with this guy, and I would like to get to know him better. What do you think I should do? Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks!
BobSacamento Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 If he had a good time and enjoyed your company he will text you. It's as simple as that.
that girl Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Could the text be meant as a "let me know you got in all right" thing? I don't think it is a good idea intentionally not get in touch when someone. It sends a signal that you are disinterested and a wee bit selfish or flighty. I mean, what would you think if you asked a guy to get in touch with you at a specific time and didn't hear from him for two days. But you can text and avoid a text convo if you think it isn't a good idea. Just thank him and then mention you're either going to be busy or you're going to bed.
Author Kitten.Pie Posted June 15, 2010 Author Posted June 15, 2010 It wasn't that sort of text. Kind of like a "Call me sometime", but with texting (this generations new phone call). Do you think it would be a good idea to text him tonight to say thanks for the good time, or wait until tomorrow? I want to play cool, but not seem disinterested.
that girl Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I'm going to ignore the insinuation that I am some ancient who doesn't get texting. Did he say "Text me sometime" or "Text me later tonight"? If he said "Text me later tonight." I would text something short tonight that doesn't open you up for a long texting conversation. If he said "Text me sometime" wait until tomorrow.
ADF Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 He sounds like a good guy. Don't play games. Text him when you said you would.
Author Kitten.Pie Posted June 15, 2010 Author Posted June 15, 2010 This is confusing. I believe his exact words were "Text me". =/
that girl Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 If all he said was "Text me" as you were getting out of the car, text him whenever, no time was set. But your original post says "He told me to text him when he dropped me off" which could mean he wanted you to text him when you you got in. Thus, my questions.
BobSacamento Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 You can text him if you want, not sure what you'll achieve with that. I usually approach the situation as the person who contacts. I wouldn't give a woman an order like that. Actually, I might, but it would be certain situations.
deux ex machina Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 ...He was always the one to text me before... Just throwing the possibility out there that after the date, he might want one text from you as reassurance it went well. I don't know if this necessarily means he won't continue initiating in the future; it could be an "interest/reciprocation check" of sorts.
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