Bangle Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Today I was rejected for the 10th time since last summer and I am so upset that I am giving up women for good. No one should have to be rejected 10 times, it's so mean. F*ck women.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Hey Bangle, would you mind telling us abit more about the rejections? For example, were these encounters where you initially approached a woman just standing there; was it a girl you were already friends with?? Do tell and you'll likely get some advise that may restore your faith in the process of attracting women.
Cracker Jack Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Yeah, I'd appreciate if there was more info on the matter Sorry things aren't going well for you.
Author Bangle Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 I posted about the girl who I thought I was joking when I told her I fancied her, I worked with her for about 8 months, four years ago, we were never friends, well she was my ninth rejection and my tenth was a girl that I had seen come into the shop many times, we have spoken before and she seemed very nice, we exchanged numbers the other day, I phone her up today and ask her out on a coffee date to find out more about her and she says "sorry, I'm not interested in you this way". WTF!
Cracker Jack Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Well, damn! That sucks. It happens, though. Don't give up.
Author Bangle Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 Well, damn! That sucks. It happens, though. Don't give up. No. I have had enough, if I never fall or feel for another woman again it won't be too soon. Every woman I have gotten to known and grown to really like has rejected me, some even wanted to be friends, I'd rather die than have those people as my friends. How insulting? I deleted this girls number and will refuse to serve her when she nexts come in. My brother is in the German Army, he treats women like piece of meat and they all like him because he is a soldier.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Thanks for elaborating. This was hardly a failure my friend, you need to recalibrate your attitude regarding what dating is and possibly brush up on how to build attraction in those women you meet. It is a fact that not every woman will want you romantically; conversely, it's also a fact that many women will - many of which you may never even say a word to in your lifetimes. This being the case, the goal should be to determine which girls have some interest in you initially, and seek to build on that interest & see if there's a connection or not. Within this context, and given the example you threw out, you did great. You got to know her somewhat and sought to see if there was any interest in developing a connection -- there wasn't. NEXT. That's the attitude to have my friend; and girls that you're attracting on some level will give you a sign that they're atleast somewhat interested (glancing a few seconds to long & smiling at you; or asking you questions about yourself). Find out what you can do to see the signs better and improve yourself in such a way where they're more likely to communicate interest in you more often.
ShadowBlue Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Whoah ten rejections?! Sorry to hear that. I must have thick skin as ten rejections wouldn't phase me considering the number of fish in the sea. Y'know what got me into this nasty funk that's going on 2+ years now? About 25 rejections from eHarmony alone, among a few others a few years ago. Not to mention running into someone in person (by sheer stroke of luck) that I hadn't seen in 14 years - we used to be amazing friends and lost touch. Short story is that I had a major crush on her and even she rejected me. Ugh. That was the one that ended my dating activities right there and sent me into a complete whirlwind funk. :mad: Hang in there and keep doing what you're doing! Also, I'm sure you already know this but I should put in my two cents - avoid online dating unless you're a GQ model or look like the people in the advertisements for it - it's crap.
Sivok Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 No offense man, but 10 rejections in one year is nothing. Nothing! Dating is NOT easy. Just last fall I got rejected probably about 40 times, I got about 15-20 numbers, and out of those numbers i got 8 dates. 1 of them became my girlfriend for six months. 1 out of 60. Once you get that 1, you'll forget about all the others. You need to learn not to take rejections so personally
Jerry18 Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 (edited) No. I have had enough, if I never fall or feel for another woman again it won't be too soon. Every woman I have gotten to known and grown to really like has rejected me, some even wanted to be friends, I'd rather die than have those people as my friends. How insulting? I deleted this girls number and will refuse to serve her when she nexts come in. My brother is in the German Army, he treats women like piece of meat and they all like him because he is a soldier. You should join the Army too. Well you can try asking girls you're not interested in. This way you won't get hurt but still get practice. Edited June 15, 2010 by Jerry18
Green Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Theres a TRICK to doing well with women... Its called NOT CARING and just BEING YOURSELF and HAPPY about it. 10 rejection in one year... I've been rejected more then 10 times in one night. Real rejection is when you have been going out with the girl for a month. You've had sex with her and think she is the greates thing since video games were invented. Then bam she wants nothing to do with you. Some random girls rejected you. MAN UP MOVE ON. Just remember, ALWAYS KISS THE GIRLS.
carhill Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Good start OP. Hopefully I'll be up to that pace once the D is final. Tip: reject women. If one rubs you the wrong way, state your perspective and move on. Get used to a level playing field. It's about what you *both* want and need. Own your side.
tigressA Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 You want to know why only 10 rejections in the last year are such a big deal to you? Because you're taking them so damn personally. You put these girls on a pedestal, mooning over them for weeks or months instead of asking them out right away. You idealize them and think that just because they're nice or friendly to you or they've given you their number that they're interested, and then you get this whiny entitled attitude when they reject you. It's incredibly unattractive. Stop waiting around so long. As soon as you figure out that you're attracted to a certain girl, ask for her number, ask if you can take her out for coffee, whatever. Make it clear that you're interested in her romantically; don't go for the "friends first" crapola. Then if you get rejected it won't seem like such a big deal because you've known her for less than 24 hours.
somedude81 Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 You want to know why only 10 rejections in the last year are such a big deal to you? Because you're taking them so damn personally. You put these girls on a pedestal, mooning over them for weeks or months instead of asking them out right away. You idealize them and think that just because they're nice or friendly to you or they've given you their number that they're interested, and then you get this whiny entitled attitude when they reject you. It's incredibly unattractive. Stop waiting around so long. As soon as you figure out that you're attracted to a certain girl, ask for her number, ask if you can take her out for coffee, whatever. Make it clear that you're interested in her romantically; don't go for the "friends first" crapola. Then if you get rejected it won't seem like such a big deal because you've known her for less than 24 hours. The feline knows what she's talking about. It shouldn't take you more than a month to go from "meet, get to know, ask out." If it takes you more than a month then you are doing it wrong.
Gold Pile Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Gardeners say that if you don't lose some plants at the beginning or end of the season, then you didn't try hard enough. Unless you're stud muffin of the universe, most women don't want to sleep with YOU. They have a BF already, they like em taller or you're just too tall, She likes em with more hair than you, or you have funky hair and she likes em shaved. She likes em older or younger than you, she doesn't like you clothes. But there are women that think you're doable (unless you're fat warthog of the universe), just ask more women. You may even develope a sense for the kind of women who dig you. For me it's sex starved divorced women with children. The guys who score more than you have also been rejected more than you. Rejection is part of the game.
sagetalk Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Hang in there and keep doing what you're doing! Also, I'm sure you already know this but I should put in my two cents - avoid online dating unless you're a GQ model or look like the people in the advertisements for it - it's crap. No GQ model is not enough. You must also like: hiking, camping, partying, traveling the world, and lots of volunteer work. I hope the stuck up online girls (not the ones that aren't, they are awesome ) are happy when they get stuck with liars.
sagetalk Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 No. 1. I deleted this girls number and will refuse to serve her when she nexts come in. 2. My brother is in the German Army, he treats women like piece of meat and they all like him because he is a soldier. 1. React the opposite way and you are a real man. She doesn't owe you sex, a date, or anything else. Be nice to her even when she's mean, that makes you a better person. There are girls who are looking for a regular guy, keep asking and you'll find one. Girls have to kiss frogs and guys have to get pelted by princesses. It just how it goes. 2. No, they like him because he treats them like a piece of meat, soldier has little to do with it other than he's probably ripped. Do you want a girl that wants to be treated like meat? To me, it means she's dumb. Then again, some guys like dumb girls so to each his own.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 I'm recently single, and just began dating about a month ago and let me make two points that may help you. 1. I wasn't properly putting myself in the right situations to meet tens of women until my social life improved. That means having buddies - guys and platonic girls - that enjoy your company and doing stuff with you. Get this part handled properly and you won't be short of new people to meet; including women. I can't stress enough how key this is because as you meet more people, you meet their friends and your circle grows rather organically. Which leads me to #2... 2. Host parties! Become that guy "that always has something cool going on." I did this recently, as I moved to a new place in a great part of my city and volunteered my place as the preparty spot before doing some clubbing a few weeks ago... Dude, the turnout was rediculous and I met (and had decent conversation with) every girl that came. You accellerate the whole meetup & getting to know you part of finding girls you want to date. I highly reccomend you do this ASAP; and if you're not able to, focus on developing #1 above first, so you can do #2 with some regularity.
Ihavenoidea Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Today I was rejected for the 10th time since last summer and I am so upset that I am giving up women for good. No one should have to be rejected 10 times, it's so mean. F*ck women. ????????? I have been rejected like 10 times this month, maybe not completely rejected but 10 first dates later and none of them called me back. I still like women though
bac Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 No. I have had enough, if I never fall or feel for another woman again it won't be too soon. Every woman I have gotten to known and grown to really like has rejected me, some even wanted to be friends, I'd rather die than have those people as my friends. How insulting? I deleted this girls number and will refuse to serve her when she nexts come in. My brother is in the German Army, he treats women like piece of meat and they all like him because he is a soldier. Sorry to hear that. I guess you do it in a way that creates the rejections. Perhaps you should do it in an opposite way, anyway you have nothing to lose. For example, like girls, be their best friend, call them as a friend, treat them as a person with a beautiful soul without the p..sy. When you became their friend and talk to them, you should be able to get the guidance from them about how to get into their pants.
Serenitynow Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 No one should have to be rejected 10 times, it's so mean. 10 ? thats all you got ? Try almost 75 for me. I've contacted almost 75 women on a dating site with out 1 reply.
somedude81 Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Sorry to hear that. I guess you do it in a way that creates the rejections. Perhaps you should do it in an opposite way, anyway you have nothing to lose. For example, like girls, be their best friend, call them as a friend, treat them as a person with a beautiful soul without the p..sy. When you became their friend and talk to them, you should be able to get the guidance from them about how to get into their pants. I'm sorry but this post makes me
Feelin Frisky Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Today I was rejected for the 10th time since last summer and I am so upset that I am giving up women for good. No one should have to be rejected 10 times, it's so mean. F*ck women. F*ck women yes. Give 'em up no.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Sorry to hear that. I guess you do it in a way that creates the rejections. Perhaps you should do it in an opposite way, anyway you have nothing to lose. For example, like girls, be their best friend, call them as a friend, treat them as a person with a beautiful soul without the p..sy. When you became their friend and talk to them, you should be able to get the guidance from them about how to get into their pants. Bac your post just contradicted all the friendzone posts on this forum.... no a guy would not befriend a girl unless he's really looking for a platonic relationship, and how many times has that truly happened so far? OP, ten rejections are nothing. If you can even handle 50 then you're golden. Rejection comes with the territory and if you can suck it up then you can date just about any women. ( And I'm a girl that's telling you this )
porkinsjehosaphat Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Today I was rejected for the 10th time since last summer and I am so upset that I am giving up women for good. No one should have to be rejected 10 times, it's so mean. F*ck women. The only thing you should be upset about is that only being rejected ten times in a year's time means you haven't been trying nearly hard enough. That's like one rejection per month, it's nothing. The problem isn't the rejections, it's that you aren't giving yourself enough opportunities. You should be aiming for ten rejections a day.
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