Sweetie1977 Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 I just met this wonderful Man the other day sweet charming engaging,while we were on a date i realized with heels on we were the same height i might have even been a half an inch taller ,heels are a huge part of my life i love wearing heels and dont want to change my wardrobe for somebody Like most women i have huge hangups about a guy being shorter then me in my shoes,we all want to feel small feminine and dainty i feel like the Man standing next to him in heels I couldnt get over this and broke off our date i felt horrible about it for days but were attracted to what were attracted to i guess and i couldnt fake attraction regardless of his other great qualities
Els Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Meh. Each to their own. I just hope you don't end up regretting it. I know I would.
Sivok Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Haha ouch, poor guy. My ex dumped a guy for the exact reasons you just mentioned - she got self conscious walking around with him in heels. She never really regretted it
Gold Pile Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Dang superficial. Gift him a pair of boots with a good sized heel.
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 *listens* Can you hear that? It's the stampede of short whiny male LSers coming to bitch you out! But really, if he was such a great guy, this is pretty silly. I'm a good deal taller than my boyfriend in heels...at least a whole inch...and it's never made me feel like a man as you described. To each her own I guess.
aerogurl87 Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Ok if you were the same height without heels on I could understand this. But you said you were basically the same height in heels, so what's the problem???? He's a great guy, and believe me great personalities are hard to come by in this day and age. But to each it's own.
sweetjasmine Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Shoes/wardrobe versus a wonderful person. Hm, tough choice. To each their own, I guess.
Els Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 How would women react if the OP was a guy and said "I met a girl who was perfect in every way, but when she was changing her shirt I saw her bra was a B cup and I only like C cups." If you notice, none of the women are exactly cheering the (female) OP on, either.
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 How would women react if the OP was a guy and said "I met a girl who was perfect in every way, but when she was changing her shirt I saw her bra was a B cup and I only like C cups." Uh, I think you're picking a fight for no reason. I completely disagree with the OP and stated that I really have no preference when it comes to height. Way to only read the first two sentences of my post.
TaurusTerp Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 It is what it is. At the very least, I applaud you for ending it quickly instead of leading the guy on. You might come to regret the rather superficial decision later, but oh well. Live and learn.
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 How would women react if the OP was a guy and said "I met a girl who was perfect in every way, but when she was changing her shirt I saw her bra was a B cup and I only like C cups." Oh, and to answer your question, I'd have the exact same response. It's silly and superficial, but to each their own.
sally4sara Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 I just met this wonderful Man the other day sweet charming engaging i have huge hangups about a guy being shorter then me in my shoes,we all want to feel small feminine and dainty i feel like the Man standing next to him in heels I couldnt get over this and broke off our date You did the guy a favor. And I don't see you being the man so much as being a child. Now he can find an adult to date, you can date your shoes and everyone wins. Ever consider he isn't too short but that you're too tall? An overly tall child.
USMCHokie Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 What I infer from this post is that this guy must not have been as great as you're saying...or that this guy lucked out big time...
Confusedalways Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Wait-- what? Is this serious? You're really going to not see a guy anymore because you're the same height when you're in heels? Oy vey.
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 You did the guy a favor. And I don't see you being the man so much as being a child. Now he can find an adult to date, you can date your shoes and everyone wins. Ever consider he isn't too short but that you're too tall? An overly tall child. I tend to agree. I don't know everything about the OP or the situation, but from what's available here, it sure seems like he dodged a bullet.
Author Sweetie1977 Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 Why are people killing me? I said how had a decison it was and a aganized over it but im attracted to what im attracted to and i have serious issues about height why would i lead him on just to eventually hurt him? Its not fair to either of us. Shoes are a huge part of my life and most women why should i change my wardrobe for a guy that i hardly know
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Why are people killing me? I said how had a decison it was and a aganized over it but im attracted to what im attracted to and i have serious issues about height why would i lead him on just to eventually hurt him? Its not fair to either of us. Shoes are a huge part of my life and most women why should i change my wardrobe for a guy that i hardly know So, if you didn't want feedback or opinions what were you looking for by posting? I'm actually confused as to what the point of this thread was to begin with (other than to give users like OpenGL working material). Some people have been harsh, but I think most have been pretty diplomatic in their disagreement.
sally4sara Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Why are people killing me? I said how had a decison it was and a aganized over it but im attracted to what im attracted to and i have serious issues about height why would i lead him on just to eventually hurt him? Its not fair to either of us. Shoes are a huge part of my life and most women why should i change my wardrobe for a guy that i hardly know No dear, women do not commonly chose partners based on how well they coordinate with their wardrobe. Speak for yourself please.
aerogurl87 Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 No dear, women do not commonly chose partners based on how well they coordinate with their wardrobe. Speak for yourself please. Agreed. My boyfriend is not an accessory.
Confusedalways Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Why are people killing me? I said how had a decison it was and a aganized over it but im attracted to what im attracted to and i have serious issues about height why would i lead him on just to eventually hurt him? Its not fair to either of us. Shoes are a huge part of my life and most women why should i change my wardrobe for a guy that i hardly know You don't have to change your wardrobe... you can still wear heels and be the same height. Why is that such a bad thing...
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Agreed. My boyfriend is not an accessory. Same here. The things I would consider a "huge" part of my life are family, friends, career, and volunteer work. I think anybody for whom shoes are an integral part of their life has their values rather skewed. The issue isn't shoes though...you could love shoes and love a guy who's shorter than you in most of them. It is actually possible. OP, this is not intended as snarky or rude, just genuinely curious...how much luck have you had with relationships and dating in general?
sweetjasmine Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 No dear, women do not commonly chose partners based on how well they coordinate with their wardrobe. Speak for yourself please. Totally agreed. When I'm on my deathbed, I'll hopefully be surrounded by people who care about me and not just dozens of pairs of shoes. Jeez.
AD1980 Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 I know women love their shoes bu Jesus this is insane. To be fair though while everyone is crucifying her because of how shallow she sounds the majority of women on this site have said they dotn like to be taller then their Man in heels..
Cracker Jack Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Oh, well. Some people just can't accept a slight difference in height. It is what it is. But I agree with Sally. You did the guy a HUGE favor.
Sivok Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Why are people killing me? I said how had a decison it was and a aganized over it but im attracted to what im attracted to and i have serious issues about height why would i lead him on just to eventually hurt him? Its not fair to either of us. Shoes are a huge part of my life and most women why should i change my wardrobe for a guy that i hardly knowI'm 6'3''. Dinner and drinks? Relationships are all about compromise, hun. What you're willing to compromise is up to you, but valuing matters of luxury vs matters of heart will always be perceived as 'shallow'. Like many have stated before, to each their own, but that's why people are killing you.
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