alg24 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 A started when I was 19 and he was 36... Stopped a couple months ago (me 21 and he 38)
OWoman Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 The most important issue, I feel, with regards to being a 'young' OW (I am in the same age bracket as you) is that you give your youth and child-bearing years to a man whom will not be able to fulfill your (perhaps) needs of settling down. You can't exactly start the ideal family with a man committed elsewhere. Interesting point. I had never wanted kids, so that had never been a concern for me, and when I decided that MMs were my best R option (after D, and the trauma of some SGs) I was a single mother of young kids in my mid 20s. I was very relieved that kids were not going to be on the agenda (with the MMs, as they were with the SGs I'd had to suffer through ). But I can see that if you want kids, and don't yet have any, this could be a serious constraint.
Confused4Now Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 I was a MM at 48 when my affair started and my MW was 38....I'm 52 and a OM or xOM and she's still the MW or xMW now.
bittersweet memories Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Hi everyone. It was pointed out to me that I am "young" to be an OW. (I am 29). I didn't really feel I was young to be in this "role" but I have been thinking more about it after reading that. My MM is older but I wouldn't go so far as to even say middle age (which I would probably put at around 50, and he is 43). So, to distract myself, I was wondering if I could ask the OW what age they are? If you're uncomfortable with posting your age (as women so often are!), feel free to give a rough number (i.e. 35ish), or not to reply..lol! Seems to be alot of young OW like you here as well older ones...
Fallen Angel Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 I am 38. I will be 39 in Sept. (though if you ask my wonderful daughter she will tell you with a straight face and a smile that her mommy is 34! GOD, I LOVE THAT KID!!!) I was married for 15 very long years. I know exactly what I DO NOT WANT in a relationship. I have given birth to four beautiful children, so I do not want, and in fact can not have, any more. If I was much younger or still wanted more children, maybe my relationship would not be as good and healthy for me as it is. But for where I am emotionally and physically in my life right now, it is good and healthy for me, and makes me happy and content. That is not to say that I do not have hope that someday it will be even better and even more fulfilling than it is now. I think everyone hopes for that in their relationships (even in marriages) but as I said, for right now, I am happy and content and having my needs, both physical and emotional, met. And I intend to hold on to that happiness.
piscis Posted June 24, 2010 Posted June 24, 2010 I am 28 he is 43 almost like your case. It has not been a problem at all
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