kcc2 Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Let's see how this starts.. Paul and I went to school together many years ago. We were in the classes for a year. I liked him but did not think he was interested in me back then. I happen to stumble upon him in Facebook. I did not care to get in touch but then why not. He was so thrilled replying back and telling me how disappointed he was when he discovered I transferred to another school. Ever since, we had been emailing back and forth (facebook), then we agreed to give our emails (blackberry) so we can keep in touch more frequently. Then in summer, we finally agreed to meet up somewhere. We had a blast time over a long weekend. But that was only time we ever got together. (keep in mind, I was unhappily married at that time). For a year, we still keep in touch almost everyday. He knew that I could not leave because of my children. I could not get away to be with him.. So for almost a year, we had many issues here and there. At that point, he suddenly stopped emailing me but I still keep in touch with him because I want to keep it up. It also is long distance as well. For the time, we are not dating but we like each other so much. Is it? Last February, he decided to inform me that he is going to try for "arranged marriage" with someone that he does not know at all. She lived thousands of miles away. I was so upset because he is going into something so dramatic. I felt I have lost him already. A few weeks, it has dissolved into friendship which relieved me. So I thought I may have a chance to get him back. Then he announced that he is dating someone now. He knew I love him. He knew that I am in process of moving out to go to college. I only have 4 more semesters left. He have so many excuses why he can't be with me - long distance, time, college, children and then obsession (with other woman). I don't get the part obsession - what does it have to do with me. It was him who let it interfere. He told me that he is trying to get over her. His obsession has prolonged 14 years. Then for a while, I felt that he is holding onto me but for what? If he wants me, he should go ahead.. So I finally ask him a straight question - "What do you want?" He claimed that he wants us to remain friends. I bluntly told him that I don't want friends.. It has been so emotional roller coaster for me.. Then I came on here on this forum and read and read. I decided to do NC with him. Actually he is doing opposite of what I have seen here on forum. The less I contact him, the more he is in his girlfriend. I don't know what to do anymore. Today is day 3 of NC. I have been doing NC with him a few times since February. I have a weakness - him. I know it is not a game for me.. I feel that I have to do NC for my own good. I am pretty tired! I do not know what he is doing. Some of my friends think he is holding onto me. Some tell me he is not worth for me - move on. Some tell me that he wants to see the action before he do anything. I felt like I have LOST him. I don't know if I have the chance later on. My BFF thinks it is too complicated and thinks we should give each other a break. Care to tell me what do you think?
Author kcc2 Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 I am pretty confused. I want to hear your opinions about this complicated relationship. I know it sound one side of story. Yall don't know my significant other (isn't it?).
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