Cantcope Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Well, they say that if they REALLY want to get in touch with you, they will. I was in NC for 8 days. Blocked him on FB, texts, phone and email. Saturday night, he contacted me. Called me from his roommates phone so that the call would go through after sending me an email (he created a new email account that wasn't blocked). It was 3:00 am on Saturday night and he wasn't drunk! Imagine that. He asked if he could please come talk to me. I let him come talk to me. What can I say, I'm weak. He told me about how much he missed me, told me that he can NOT deal with us not being friends, etc. and that he needs me in his life. I explained why I think I can't be his friend right now. He ended up spending the night and we were up talking all night. Just held eachother. We discussed the breakup and I told him that I didn't think it would have headed anywhere anyway. He disagreed when I told him that I never saw him moving out of his apartment and living together. I was SHOCKED! It gave me that bad hope though. I also asked him why he was never able to tell me that he loved me. He told me that I knew it and he actually said "I loved you". I told him that being with him was going to give me false hope of a reconciliation. He said that I don't need to do that to myself. I asked him to please look me in the eyes and tell me that he had indeed closed the door to possibility and that we would never be together again. He wouldn't. We ended up spending the ENTIRE day together, playing in the pool with my son and having a blast! It wasn't even like it was when we were together. It was 100 times better. I felt completely comfortable with him for what seemed like the very first time. We were all over eachother, hugging in the pool, cuddling. He eneded up spending the night again. I woke him up for work this morning and he just held me. It was a dream come true. I even woke once in the middle of the night in a panic that it was a dream. And there he was. I'm confused....conflicted....could this be the start of something new? Am I reading too much into the "hope". I always said that if I could do it again, I would want to take things slower than slow, but here I am going crazy in my mind wondering what he's thinking..... Advice....please???
collegemommy Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Oh girl... Well, I went through this same thing and I'm back with my ex. It started off as him just "hanging out" and turned into him moving back in. In fact, we moved all of his stuff out of his apartment on Saturday. I would really keep your guard up at this point. If you want to work things out then do so but I wouldn't let my guard down and fully let him back in. That way if you guys don't work it out, you won't hurt as much. I've been back with my ex for a month now and I still have myself guarded. I was in a different situation than you (he was actually dating someone for 6 weeks before we worked our relationship out). The girl is "in love" with him apparently so I have to constantly stress that maybe he is still messing around with her. I don't want him to walk out on me for her and leave me as heartbroken as before. All I can say is that is sounds like he may want to work things out. I would just use extreme caution at the moment.
Author Cantcope Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 Ok, seriously people....stop reading my posts and not responding!! lol I'm a crazy b*tch on the edge here....I need advice. And thank you collegemommy. Keep in touch!!
northstar1 Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Well, they say that if they REALLY want to get in touch with you, they will. I was in NC for 8 days. Blocked him on FB, texts, phone and email. Saturday night, he contacted me. Called me from his roommates phone so that the call would go through after sending me an email (he created a new email account that wasn't blocked). It was 3:00 am on Saturday night and he wasn't drunk! Imagine that. He asked if he could please come talk to me. I let him come talk to me. What can I say, I'm weak. He told me about how much he missed me, told me that he can NOT deal with us not being friends, etc. and that he needs me in his life. I explained why I think I can't be his friend right now. He ended up spending the night and we were up talking all night. Just held eachother. We discussed the breakup and I told him that I didn't think it would have headed anywhere anyway. He disagreed when I told him that I never saw him moving out of his apartment and living together. I was SHOCKED! It gave me that bad hope though. I also asked him why he was never able to tell me that he loved me. He told me that I knew it and he actually said "I loved you". I told him that being with him was going to give me false hope of a reconciliation. He said that I don't need to do that to myself. I asked him to please look me in the eyes and tell me that he had indeed closed the door to possibility and that we would never be together again. He wouldn't. We ended up spending the ENTIRE day together, playing in the pool with my son and having a blast! It wasn't even like it was when we were together. It was 100 times better. I felt completely comfortable with him for what seemed like the very first time. We were all over eachother, hugging in the pool, cuddling. He eneded up spending the night again. I woke him up for work this morning and he just held me. It was a dream come true. I even woke once in the middle of the night in a panic that it was a dream. And there he was. I'm confused....conflicted....could this be the start of something new? Am I reading too much into the "hope". I always said that if I could do it again, I would want to take things slower than slow, but here I am going crazy in my mind wondering what he's thinking..... Advice....please??? This is the guy who never referred to you as his 'girlfriend'? I hate to say that he just wants to sleep with you......but... Seems like your fear of the unknown is greater than the known. What will have changed since he broke up with you that gives the belief he wants a firm committment and not just something physical? Think long and hard about this one.
Author Cantcope Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 (edited) He did refer to me as his gf......OUTSIDE of our circle of co-worker friends. No dating allowed in the work place. It's hard to think that someone just wants booty. He's a great looking guy, I'm sure he can find it with someone else very easily....without any strings. I also never said that he wanted a commitment now.....that's why I was asking for peoples advice on what it MAY have meant. I dunno.....I'm all over the place now. I appreciate you taking the time to reply. Edited June 14, 2010 by Cantcope
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