when he/she calls after NC

[Blindeyes]

He called after two weeks as if we were cordial acquaintances. “Just called to say Hi”…I have been practicing this NC thing for a little while…and I really stuck to my guns…I also engaged with him very cordially and did not once discuss the relationship. Although..now..after the phone call. I feel lousy. I feel like I should of told him I loved him and that I wanted to see him. I should’ve told him that I need him etc…I am afraid that he might take my aloofness as non caring and then never want to come back to the relationship. Did I do the right thing? I love him so much and have been fantasizing and agonizing about him for days. Just this morning I prayed that I could hear his voice…but I don’t only want to hear voices…I want more. Am I playing the cards right? BTW..he is the one who without warning just stopped all phone calls and seems to not want to have anything to do with me.

[lvixen]

STICK TO YOUR GUNS AT ALL COSTS! In fact, next time he calls, YOU tell HIM that you don't want anymore contact with him. Or ask him if he wants to reconcile. If he doesn't, go NC (no contact). I know how you're feeling, you still love him and that's natural. However, if he does not want to reconcile with you, you have to go NC to heal. Eventually during your NC you'll give up on hope of being with him, acceptance takes time. Then you'll find you're thinking of him even less, and maybe later down the line are ready to love someone else again.

[ADF]

No doubt, your ex-BF's call was designed to ilicit exactly the response it has. Let me let you in on a secret. When a male ex suddenly contacts his female ex, chances are about 99% he's just fishing for sex. I doubt very much he's looking for a real reconciliation. More likely, he's just looking for some kind of FWB arrangement.

[Blindeyes]

True words...just hard to swallow and follow!