marmaliade Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Been in relationship for four years. He broke it of before an engagement in very ugly way. The problem is that I can't copy. He's ignoring me. So didnt talk for three weeks already. Feel really bad, also sick. Have to stay at home, so it is even worse. Sleep, but even in my sleep manage to think about him, get shivers all the time, try my best to take my mind off watching movies, eating, reading articles, doing whatever i can. Doesn't really help, think I'm going nuts, so sad and depressed...
Jordane Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 You're not going nuts. You are actually going through exactly what you should be going through. It'll get easier. Three weeks is not a long time to get over a 4 year relationship.
Author marmaliade Posted June 14, 2010 Author Posted June 14, 2010 Yeah... and t makes it more difficult is that my parents dont understand m and when they put me through pressure and stress I want to break NC so desperately. It becomes struggle all the time. I really dont know whow to get through this. And my dearest mother always blames me for this relationship. Like i'm not experiencing enough pain.
Jordane Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Well, I'm sure you're not guilt-free in this relationship and both of you contributed to its demise but the fact of the matter is, HE cheated. He can't blame anyone but himself for that. If your mother isn't being helpful, then don't talk to her about it. Talk to an unbiased friend...or even a biased friend who supports you. All you need right now is a great support system.
What_Next Posted June 14, 2010 Posted June 14, 2010 Exercise, it will accomplish a few things all at once. 1. If you exercise enough it will beat you out and you will sleep better. 2. If you tone yourself you will earn self confidence. Eat properly as well. Focus on YOU. Don't dwell and read too much about it either, it does NOT help. See a professional for medication if need be, it's not a sign of weakness it's a sign that you realize you need help. As was mentioned reach out to a friend or a family member if need be. You aren't going insane it just seems like it right now.
Author marmaliade Posted June 15, 2010 Author Posted June 15, 2010 What-Next thank you for the advice. Today is extremly bad day, crying whole day, feel depressed, even broke NC by writing him a message. Feel angry, all what i want to do is sleep and watch movies and talk to someone. Yesterday spent whole day in the bed. In the evening got so bad that being sick had to go out and meet a mutual friend for a drink (at least that took my mind off things). I'm like looking for a shelter and people to fill up that emptiness and cold in my heart. So scary. Always freak out when I'm alone, cant stay at home anymore, wondering around like a lost dog. Im so emotionally attached to this guy and relationship that it's scary. Like loosing him for me is loosing my existance. Feel really bad. Dunno how to get angry or tough, i think it would help me.
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